Dada always doing nursery run, is he single?

[ByDandyTurtle]

Aibu in thinking he must be single as I never see a woman drop of the child

I want to approach him but unsure

Quite possibly not, ask him and you'll find out. I don't do any drop offs or pick ups, dh does them all and very much married

Not 'absolutely horrible.' Realistic and normal.

Oh no - you need to ask him absolutely casually and nonchalantly- something like “Your wife must be a lucky woman to have such a wonderful and caring husband.😉🫠

And then he’ll say “Unfortunately,I never met the true love of my life…”

Or not.🤷‍♀️🙃

Let’s not call noticing something ‘stalking’. And OP said dada was a typo.

Is there a particular reason you’re trying to make OP feel bad or stupid (or both)?

OMG. What if he is?!??

In my nursery class of 20, 3 mothers do all the drop offs and pick ups, 2 fathers do all the drop offs and pick ups, and the rest is a mixture of each parent. None are single though. Only a few parents turned up to sports day as everyone works (hence the reason we all use a nursery!!). I’ve never once attended any of the nursery daytime activities, my husband has attended one of them.

Unfortunately not true. But you do you, I guess.

My husband took one day a week off work after I went back from mat leave to spend with our baby. He was always the only dad the baby singing classes he went to and I do think if they thought "Is he single?" because of course I was never there. He was literally living his best life and would have given anything to become a SAHD full time ❤️

Yeah I don't think is predatory, you are not going to take his clothes off him just to chat a bit. Nothing wrong with talking. Before dating apps people met in street/work/events or friends of friends..

Just talk to him one day about school and then ask something like I've never seen mum, does she works nights?

Highly doubt it. Single dads rarely do school runs. His wife probably does nights or something.

I was responding to OP's post stating that people on MN need to get out more.

Is there a particular reason you're an apologist for this OP and her nasty comments?

And yes, I believe her behaviour goes beyond simply 'noticing' someone else.

Ours had a sports day. In fact, they went to two, and both did. It's really not that unusual

No one would think a woman was single if they were the only one doing the drop off.
My DH was the only one doing pick up for a few years because I wasn't home before nursery closed.

I do all drop offs and my husband does all pick ups and I see a good 50/50 mix of male and females, parents and grandparents doing nursery runs. I wouldn’t assume anyone’s single based on when you see them drop their kids off

When my daughter was at pre-prep (we had a sports day) three dads did the school runs. Two were married and one was single (ended up dating one of the teachers) you never know until you ask.

It would depend on the relationship and the dynamic. OP doesn't know this man though so it's not a relevant comparison

No, he’s at his kid’s school not a disco. Dada does not want to be approached.

If you're a teacher then you simply can't do any school drop-offs and pick-ups for your own kids. Good news is you can still be married though! 😀

I can't be down with that. That would imply nursery pick off is 'wife's work'.

On the other hand, it might clear up the supposed mystery quickly enough. And then OP can report straight back here.

My husband did all the morning school runs (on his way to work) i was a SAHM.

They might go to same class, I know about my child's classmates ages because we attend their birthday' s parties.

What the hell are you talking about?

Back in the real world, people meet the partners at work, on a bus, in a taxi, down the shop, in a restaurant, doing running, going to the gym.

There is a world out there you know and people talk and they fancy each other and they wonder about people and ask their friends or people they know.

I enquired of my crystal ball for you OP:

The mists swirl within the mystical crystal orb, revealing glimpses of suburban life and family dynamics...

The Crystal's Vision: The sight of a father consistently handling nursery duties does not necessarily indicate single parenthood. The ethereal energies reveal multiple possibilities in the cosmic tapestry:

What the Crystal Ball Shows

Scenario 1: Partnership Dynamics
The crystal reveals that in many modern relationships, parents divide responsibilities based on practical considerations. Perhaps his partner works earlier hours, has a longer commute, or handles evening pickup duties instead. The morning nursery run might simply be the most logical arrangement for their family schedule

Scenario 2: Temporary Arrangements
The swirling mists suggest this could be a temporary situation - perhaps his partner is dealing with health issues, work demands, or other commitments that make the current arrangement necessary. Single parenthood isn't the only explanation for one parent handling regular duties

Scenario 3: Personal Choice
The crystal's energies indicate he might genuinely enjoy this special time with his child. Many parents treasure these quiet morning moments together, regardless of their relationship status

Scenario 4: The Single Parent Reality
Of course, the orb doesn't dismiss the possibility - he could indeed be single, whether through divorce, separation, or other circumstances, making him the primary caregiver responsible for all nursery duties

The Crystal's Wisdom
The mists clear to reveal this truth: Consistent nursery run duty alone is insufficient evidence to determine relationship status. The crystal suggests observing other signs - does he wear a wedding ring? Does he mention a partner in casual conversation? Are there other adults involved in pickup duties?
The most revealing approach would be friendly conversation during these regular encounters, allowing natural disclosure of family circumstances without intrusive questioning.

The crystal ball fades to darkness, having shared its mystical insights...

Unrelated to these Ainsights, my DH used to do all the nursery stuff really, it was next door to his work, he did less hours than me, and I worked nights a lot so was often asleep. I did show up if I was on annual leave or DH was ill or something though so people probably knew I existed.