Dada always doing nursery run, is he single?

[ByDandyTurtle]

Aibu in thinking he must be single as I never see a woman drop of the child

I want to approach him but unsure

We do 12 hour shifts in my work 8-8 & there a few with young kids. I assume their OHs do the school/nursery runs.

Dh always does the nursery run as I start work at 7am and nursery opens at 8??

@Hoardasauruskaren No - they'd probably just "assume" she was a SAHP! Because women have to stay at home and do all of the childcare and men have to go out to work, obviously 😂

For the last ten years my DH has done both drop off and pickup from nursery and school!! We are very much married and together. He doesn’t wear a wedding ring though….. Oh No!! Should I put one on his finger right now, just in case anyone wonders…..??!!!!

@SoftPillow Understood. I've never known a school that would open gates and allow drop off at 8 am (unless breakfast club). And even then cutting it incredibly fine as most schools start at around 8.40. I was always in school by 8 am the very latest and average leaving time around 5 - 5.30. Standard in teaching.

Perhaps he has switched roles with his woman. His woman works 9 to 5 but he is the care giver to the child. A househusband. Maybe he is not with someone, or chooses to pick the kid up and drop them off by choice. In any case you cannot go wrong by saying hello.

OP do you know his name? Fb search him? I met my husband in the school run. Exactly the same situation, saw him every day, he was in fact a single dad, he found out my name, searched me and asked me out. 12 years later and married for 6 xx

Nobody on here can speculate whether or not this guy is single just by your comments on this thread, nothing like finding out by actually striking up a conversation

But for you to assume it just because "mum never comes" is exactly that-just and assumption. You don't know their home or working situation. To put it in perspective most parents at my kids school could have easily thought that my now ex husband was a single dad doing it all if they went by who did all the school runs because he did them all-not because I worked as at that point I didn't work...he did them all as that was his form of control over me a way to isolate me by not letting me do the school runs he did them all as he wanted me stuck at home getting fat and depressed whilst he was pissing off out to look to cheat. Not saying that this is this particular guy's situation but it does happen. When I eventually split from my husband everyone over at the kids school was actually surprised to see me there and assumed that I just couldn't be bothered with the kids and made him do it all when it wasn't the case at all

My husband always does the school run and pick ups so can enjoy the morning before I go and look after my mum and dad. He works from home and I'm out for some of it. But you could always just say hi and see what happens lol

He might be single

mum might be dead

he might be with someone and they can’t take time off for things like a teacher

you won’t know till you chat to him

Wtf? My husband does all nursery pick ups, and half the drop offs, very much married 😂

Fab?!
You do know that very very few people on here will know what that refers to?!

Perhaps she's a teacher? There are an awful lot of jobs where it just isn't easy for a working mother to take time off during the day.

Pathetic thread.

I had a bit of a crush on one of the school dads and had presumed he was single due to him doing all the pick up/drops off too. Low and behold he turned up one day with his very beautiful partner. 😅
Remember cringing inside a bit but thinking thank god I never tried to approach him!

Ask him?

You've seen him twice a day for a year and you haven't even approached him, I don't think your chances are great. I think it's odd you aren't familiar yet. By the end of a school year I always knew all the parents in my children's class, mums and dads, and the pick ups and drop offs by mums or dads is an even split. I found parties were the place to meet the full time working parent who didn't do drop off.

Dada is technically single, having rejected marriage as a protest against convention, but almost certainly in a steady relationship with Surrealism whilst also picking up the occasional random at Cabaret Voltaire when the whim strikes. I don't think he'd be a reliable partner for you; I'm surprised he can even handle the dull routine of the school drop-offs, TBH!

Wow bit presumptuous I'm disabled so hubby does all runs there and back and works in between. Why assume he is single so many scenarios why he wouldn't be to

Highly doubtful, the vast majority of men are taken.

Don't know why you're getting all the abuse OP. It's a minefield being single.

I'd suggest just talking to him at a drop-off. I can't see from any of your updates if you have! It would be easy to drop into conversation about "a wife".

"Your poor wife must work long hours as I've noticed you do all the drop offs. It's hard being working parents eh?"

Or words to that effect.

I think op said she's only ever seen the dad, never the mum, so it's not "most" but "all". I'd just chat to the guy. There's hardly anything desperate in it. Unless everyone here had some sort of an arranged marriage, at some stage someone had to approach someone! I bet it's hard if you are a single parent, and it can probably be daunting too. I know fairly few dingle parents and they say it's very hard to meet anyone.

Just ask outright one morning.

Excuse me, do you have a partner?
I don't think I've seen XXX's other parent. Are you single like me? Do you need someone to be XXX emergency contact should you have a car accident coming to collect XXX?

Then he will probably tell you yes or no.

Then play it cool until natural smiling, hellos etc might lead to a friendship.

I know two couples where both parents are teachers (one primary, one secondary). Sometimes you just got to make it work! Our nursery used to open at 8am so it was always me and the 2 teacher dads at drop off at 8.01am. We're in London so it was a 20min walk for the other couple to their school. Not sure where the other worked as I wasn't too close to them. Then the mums collected at around 5.30 so occasionally saw them too. It is possible, lots of jobs are demanding but you just got to juggle it as most people can't afford a nanny on top of nursery fees.

Err, even back in the seventies my father did the school runs
bit of an assumption going on there.
and yes, he was married.
why can’t you approach him? Surely you can be friendly towards someone without the prospect of a romantic involvement in return for saying hello???