Dada always doing nursery run, is he single?

[ByDandyTurtle]

Aibu in thinking he must be single as I never see a woman drop of the child

I want to approach him but unsure

But you are reading too much into this guys life thinking he has to be single if he does all the drop offs and pick ups.
Peopje on here have given you a million and one reasons why he might be doing everything but still you argue on.

My other half does most of the school runs, as I work further away. We've had a few comments about how hands on he is.. I'm like yes, he's a dad and they're his children 😂❤️

My DP did all the nursery and early school years run because, imagine as I female, whilst shocking I know, I’m the main breadwinner several times over. I work long hours and travel.

Maybe ask him and behave like a grown up.

I know him. He’s absolutely single. Go for it. Let us know how you get on 🤞

Spent a whole year when DS started school thinking another lady was the mother or the granny collected another little boy. Turned out it' was the granny and aunt. The mum started work at 8am.

And I totes know Barry Grant (he was framed!). So that means I too know the object of OP's affection by proxy.

Six degrees of separation, eh.

@everychildmatters

yes, school teachers. One teaches kindergarten, one is geography, another is head of sport and the final one is specialist music. I do see them all, occasionally on the school run.

I see the kindergarten and geography teacher more as they work at my youngest kids school. They both have nursery age kids and I know they do some of the drop offs as I see them doing this. The nursery they use is near the school

The sports teacher would come to weekend things and when his holidays didn’t match ours he would drop and pick, and the music teacher is a close friend, she can’t do drop but does occasionally pick up if it’s later and comes to evening events and sports day etc.

I don’t want to argue with you, again just stating the facts as I have them. Of course not all teachers can drop or pick up, but some can depending on their logistics

Seriously? Don’t approach. My DH always did the drop offs, don’t embarrass yourself.

Teacher here. Not unusual for fathers to do drop offs and pick ups or alternate withe the other parents maybe he wfh and it’s easier, maybe other parent works shifts. Really not a thing at all.

No but you are talking about school activities and if the other parent is a teacher then they would leave that to the dad you are stalking because they are at work. You have no idea what they are doing out of school time.

Whenever I do a drop off I see mostly dads. I'd prefer the early drop too, then you're not tied for the rest of the day to availability. Pick up is mostly mums.

This may seem a strange idea in 2025, but do you ever talk to any of the other Mums or even staff at the nursery OP? Someone may know him, and/or his relationship status. This would save you the embarrassment of approaching him if he does indeed have a wife or partner. Good luck.

My husband got propositioned at the school gate.

What is wrong with asking him about his wife and then you will find out - rather than assuming he is single. It will head off all sorts of embarrassment and seems a better place to start.

@SoftPillow Guessing you're not England? We don't have kindergartens here as far as I'm aware?
And primary school teachers dropping off their kids is simply logistically impossible. Unless schools start before 8 am and finish at around 5/5.30? No primary teacher in England starts their day at 9 and leaves at 3.30. Yes that's the direct teaching hours but you'd soon be out on your arse if you attempted it!!

My husband always did the nursery run as I had to commute further so I left earlier/got home later. We’ve been happily married for over 20 years.

@everychildmatters yup, southern England, commutable to London. It’s the daft name for reception at my kids school, should have said reception to be clearer. Don’t know why they call it this tbh

Or maybe the kid doesn’t go to nursery on her day off 🙄.

@thebabayaga And your job is...or isn't?

@SoftPillow So who teaches the Reception class if the teacher is not in school ready to teach? What time does she/he drop off their own child/children?

My husband did every nursing drop off and pick up. He also does the school run. So, no do not assume he is single.

I hope it isn't him that the op wants to "approach".

If a woman did all the nursery runs would you assume she was single too?

I think I know this guy. His (male or female) partner is a neurosurgeon who works extremely long hours.

Oh and if you knew anything about teaching, you’d know that teachers don’t have 12 weeks of flexibility and spend bloody ages during their “holidays” marking/planning and preparing schemes of work/going into school on results days to support all the kids they’ve been supporting all year. The very people who will be working their asses of to support your child/ren as they grow.

My sons dad drops him once a week trust me you don’t want him!

@everychildmatters I see them, the two in my school, before 8am. I don’t know timing on this nursery, it isn’t one I’ve used, but I see other parents arriving there to drop before 8am.

School gates open at 8, school start at 8.30/40 depending which bit you are in.

Presumably the school knows they’re dropping (they’re not hiding it or rushing) and it’s all legit and agreed.

I promise I’m not making this up, I really haven’t come onto this thread to make up stories about random teachers who do drop off 😄 this is just my experience. I also know, as I said before, other teachers who don’t drop off but on occasions might be able to come to some school events in the evening or weekend, or who do a late pick-up. Again, I’m not making that up, promise.

Off to sleep now so I shall leave our slightly intense and daft debate.