Dada always doing nursery run, is he single?

[ByDandyTurtle]

Aibu in thinking he must be single as I never see a woman drop of the child

I want to approach him but unsure

Exactly! This person keeps saying that I attacked OP but when I ask them to quote what I said, they choose not to respond.

Well yes, but the initial meeting and the getting to know them would have taken place in a taxi which you seemed to think was hilarious and unlikely.

Stalking is to harass or persecute someone with obsession.

Good luck trying to bend that into anything the OP is doing. But you probably will try to anyway.

If the only reason you can think of why someone would defend someone else is ‘projecting’, then that’s entirely sad.

Have fun making women feel like shit on the internet, I guess. See ya.

I agree. My DH had a couple of desperate single mums trying it on with him, (3-4 months apart,) because he used to take our DC to school - as he was on nights and I was working days at the time - well, 9am to 3.30pm, 4 days a week, so these 'mums' never saw me. He was really embarrassed, and said 'no sorry, I'm married.'

One even had the cheek to say 'oh little wifey doesn't like the idea of you having a coffee with another mummy then?' (Sour and salty or what?!) 😆

DH said 'I just don't want to thanks.' He was so uncomfortable that he started picking our DC from the other side of the school to avoid them. 😬 As a pp said, fucking desperate or what?!

He only did this for 6-7 months, (picked our DC up alone,) and I was able to adjust my hours to get them instead (sometimes we went together, depending on what shift he was on.)

Some single mums (not all) are just desperate for a baby daddy.

Are you @ByDandyTurtle ???

So it’s ’desperate’ to wonder if someone is single?

There used to be two girls at my daughter's nursery whose dad did all drop offs and pick ups. The youngest left a few weeks ago (when school started here). Their dad also takes them swimming on a Saturday - I know because we met up with them a few times after their swimming lesson. He's definitely not single, which I also know because I've met the mum... precisely twice in 2.5 years (once at the only nursery event I ever saw her attend and once when we randomly bumped into them at the zoo on a Sunday). I think she works away a lot.

What do you want to approach him for? Asking him on a date?

As per everyone else, you need to do (more) stalking to suss things out if that is your intention before you make a fool of yourself. There are many reasons he could be the only one who does the nursery run and attends the events that happen during the day, and even if single the circumstances might mean he isn't looking for someone right now (recently bereaved?).

My DH does all the drop offs! Hands off OP 😅

It was an equivalent, I did say it was Ainsights, I dont have a real crystal ball.

Surely the fact that you always see him makes it more likely he's in a relationship? If he was a single dad it would be more common to have shared custody arrangements and both parents to take turns with the nursery runs.

DH did almost all of the nursery runs for DDs. He works from home and I worked in a hospital 45 mins away and had to start at 7am.....his job is much more flexible than mine is.

It does seem weird that you have gone to the trouble of starting a thread about him rather than just strike up a conversation with him if you're clearly interested?

In the situation I spoke about, (and that of the OP,) yes. Yes it is.

And then to get all salty and pissy when the man rejects them.

Yes, desperate.

From the title of the thread I thought this might be something to do with surrealist art, and from the contents it seems I was probably right.

The fact he does ALL the pick ups and drop offs I'd say unless he has full custody or something, then he's not single and maybe he has a higher earning partner who works more hours. If he was single I'd say he'd more likely have shared custody and wouldn't be doing all the school runs.

Gosh @Didimum you sound very angry, and over-invested in this.
Are @Butchyrestingface and a few other posters hitting a raw nerve or something?

Stalking is to harass or persecute someone with obsession.

Thank you, Rumpole of the Bailey. 😅

If the only reason you can think of why someone would defend someone else is ‘projecting’, then that’s entirely sad.

Oh, I can think of several reasons why you're 'defending' OP's honour but, alas, MN doesn't allow that kind of speculation.

Have fun making women feel like shit on the internet, I guess. See ya.

👋🏻

Just a thread.

You make a valid point about the drop offs all being him.

My DH does all drop offs. I’m a teacher so I have no flexibility.

My husband does all drop offs as school is on his way. Doesn’t mean I don’t exist 🤣
was the same at nursery.

...I'm still just waiting for my quote...

Yes and doesn't mean that this person does have a partner. She could be dead, may not be involved, anything

Not reasonable at all. I do all drop offs and DH does all pick ups. But if you don't see a wedding ring you could always find out give it a shot he might be single

Yes you just don't have flexibility.... Apart from those 12 weeks you have full flexibility

I'm objecting to the lack of critical thinking which declares that a man doing nursery drops offs must be in want of a romantic approach.

OP, there is something genuinely creepy about your over-entanglement and how well-developed this story in your head is. The detailed noticing around his nursery comings and goings. The conjoined language: 'Our children are 3 and 3.5'; and nearby coffee-shops 'would be out of the way for both of us'. This man is such a complete stranger that you don't even know his partnership status. There should be no ours, no speaking for him in any respect. Worrying stalkerish attitudes.

But DO you actually want to date him?

I mean, I have on occasion admired certain gentlemen Colin Farrell from (very) afar but have zero designs on them.

If you're not after him in any real sense, then carry on camping. But if you actually do want to go out with him, then you're going to have to talk to him at some point and it would make sense to engage him in conversation and find out if he's single.

I must be getting old. Do the yoof not do things like that anymore?

Seriously? How rude. Genuine question, but how do you think people meet each other?