To think it’s polite not to pass wind/fart around people, including spouses?

[ServingMHissues]

Me and my Dsis are having a debate since I, have mentioned that me nor DH tend to pass wind around eachother and never have. We’ve been together 11 years and have two kids. We’re very comfortable with eachother and he’s definitely heard me do it because I strictly remember one Halloween he was passing me decorations to put up and my heavily pregnant body just couldn’t hold it in 🤣

but Dsis thinks we’re weird and it’s weird for a couple not to fart around eachother. I personally think it’s just polite not to if you don’t absolutely need to, you can excuse yourself from the room/area. Maybe it’s because I used to get really annoyed at an ex who would fart constantly and they would smell absolutely foul and would make me feel physically ill. But I just wouldn’t want to make someone smell my gas 🤣

AIBU to think it’s not that weird to just not fart around your spouses?!🤣

I have been with my partner for 16 years and we dont do it in front of each other. Some people think we are uptight, I think it's a mutual respect.

I agree, I find it really weird when couples have a fartathon marriage - no one wants to experience anyone else’s farts, why would your partner’s be any different?

Farts are funny.
I'm immature 😭🤣😂

Same. 20 years!

I guarantee at night the heavens will open and your farts will be thunderous and resonate throughout the house!

I’m presuming you all have separate bedrooms to avoid this catastrophic event 😂

It’s something we avoid doing but it’s weird to make not farting in front of each other a core part of a marriage too!

In sickness and in health.
To fart or not to fart 😂

LTB!!!!

Just an FYI its bad for you to hold them in. So from a health point if view I feel if you have to why not.
And it wouldn't make me look at or feel any different towards my dh.

If I know I am doing particularly stinky farts, I do try not to but it isn't easy to just get out of the room for me (wheelchair user, small house)...

I will warn himself to get out of the way if theres a really ripe stinker brewing, but I don't care if he hears it.

I would also prefer he didn't do thinks like fart into the fan that is blowing at me (he isn't going out of his way to arrange this!) or in an enclosed, airless, warm space (our bloody bedroom).

But we've been together 20 years and can't really help but fart in front of one another, and we've been known to rate them out of ten (points for: duration - pitch change - artistry/performance - stench - volume) because the bottom (haha) line is.. farts ARE funny.

Also, I am pretty certain I do not fart much when asleep, probably because I am not holding on to them all day- as I wake up and the first thing I do after rolling over and getting out of bed is let rip a big (but rarely ever smelly) fart. Obviously it's built up all night, so I can't have been letting them out in my sleep!

I've cared for my husband after bowel cancer surgery and he's seen me give birth twice. Farts seem pretty insignificant after that.

I'd rather not fart in front of other people but it's not the end of the world if I do. There has been a thread on this before. Lots of people seem very uptight about it and one poster said she expected people to go outside if they needed to fart! I can't imagine living like that. I want to feel comfortable in my own home and not have to worry about a natural bodily function that isn't in our full control.

If my DP and I had to move out of the room every time one of us farted we wouldn’t see each other. It just would make life highly impractical and stressful.

I don’t think its great when people feel there are parts of their lives they have to hide either.

We try not to. If a rebellious one does slip out, we each blame The Dog. We haven't got any pets.

Farts are a natural (and funny) part of being human. And minion imagine a scenario where I would feel the need to hold a fart in in my own home.

I’m it everyone in our family will fart around each other and find it funny, DHs family are the same. Tis only a fart.

Wow this is classic MN.
I thought the first fart was a milestone in any relationship!
If you don’t feel comfortable to do it around your partner then you’re probably going to get very bloated.
Obviously doing it deliberately to offend or stinking the room out isn’t ok, but it’s a normal bodily function. Neither of you should have to leave the room every time or feel uncomfortable.
And yes I’m in the brigade that thinks farts are funny and or to be congratulated when it’s a proper corker. But that probably comes from raising a teenage boy. It’s unavoidable.

If I know it’s not going to be too stinky I’d fart in front of close people and say excuse me. If I had to. But I’d unobtrusively try and do it in the kitchen or hall wherever possible. And neber in the car when accompanied. That’s disgusting.

If I have any doubt I’d leave the room. If I was going to be stinky for a while (eg after a curry) I’d go to another room to watch tv alone and open a window. And tell my bf why so he’d not follow me.

I’m not going to sit uncomfortably trying to hold in a fart in my own home. Goodness some people are extremely uptight. When we talk about being ‘polite’ surely there is an understanding that we have normal body functions and that in the comfort of our own home these are actually not rude?

Maybe it was the fact I grew up with a ‘go to the bathroom’ family 🤣 I know there’s nothing wrong with farts and they are funny, I do also find them funny.. I just don’t feel it’s necessary to do them on the sofa next to my husband or stood by him talking, I’d rather just excuse myself. I don’t tend to be a farting machine all day though so maybe it’s not so doable for people who have more flatulence 🤣

I farted infront of my husband after 2 weeks of dating. Tbh I walk around work farting too. Some find it funny. Some don't. I do though!! Haha I'm 38!

We have made the living room a No fart zone because it just smells so bad.

I go to bed before DH and sometimes he tells me he can feel the stink before he opens the bedroom door. But that's fair game, I'm not going to get up once I'm in bed. I do eat lots of garlic, onions, chick peas etc..

I'd say it depends on the couple. In my first marriage (25 years) we laughed a lot over farting. In my current relationship, my partner really doesn't like it and will leave the room when he needs to guff. If one of you hates it, you have to respect that.

I'm with you OP. Unfortunately my partner is not.

I grew up with a "hold them in" mother so I've never been able to be comfortable doing it in front of others. Sadly I'm very windy so after a day in work around others it can be crippling!

Im with you op. I don't generally fart around my dp ( or other people) and I don't 'get' fart humour.

I don't. Neither do my adult children. It's just polite.

Every time my exH did it, it just disgusted me slightly. I find it puerile.

If it was bad to hold them in, how come your body can do it?

I think there is a difference between letting out a fart as you walk round the house or are sitting on the sofa, versus doing something more performative or deliberately in their direction. That's the behaviour of an attention seeker and not at all appealing.

I think it is a case of reading the room. Some people find farts funny. Everyone farts, and the people who say they don't are lying. You can hold them in, but the second you start to fall asleep..... they will come out. I get embarrassed so hold them in. One time, my DP was staying over and I was half asleep and felt one come out. I pretended to be asleep, but the bed was shaking with him stifling a laugh.

We’re a farting family. Wouldn’t do it around anyone else, but more than happy to fart around husband. Neither of us care, and so don’t view it as impolite.