To think it’s polite not to pass wind/fart around people, including spouses?

[ServingMHissues]

Me and my Dsis are having a debate since I, have mentioned that me nor DH tend to pass wind around eachother and never have. We’ve been together 11 years and have two kids. We’re very comfortable with eachother and he’s definitely heard me do it because I strictly remember one Halloween he was passing me decorations to put up and my heavily pregnant body just couldn’t hold it in 🤣

but Dsis thinks we’re weird and it’s weird for a couple not to fart around eachother. I personally think it’s just polite not to if you don’t absolutely need to, you can excuse yourself from the room/area. Maybe it’s because I used to get really annoyed at an ex who would fart constantly and they would smell absolutely foul and would make me feel physically ill. But I just wouldn’t want to make someone smell my gas 🤣

AIBU to think it’s not that weird to just not fart around your spouses?!🤣

Presumably there's other things you do with/in front of your partner, but not others?

There are, such as be naked. I dont want to fart in front of anyone though. No one needs to hear that.

Nobody needs to hear farts, granted, but it's not exactly a disaster if they do.
I couldn't live my life being so, well, tense.

Why should I fart in front of people, just because you think I should ?

How bizarre

I didn't tell you to do anything. 🫣

I see lots of people responded to this I didn't read all the responses..just so everyone knows, I managed to hide the fact Id actually had an arse explosion somehow as I thought he would dump me!! 25 years on Ive told him what actually happened that day

my stepdad has something going on with his bowels where he can't hold in a fart , if you expect to be in his company you can also expect rancid farts. I don't see him anymore (not because of this but its a bonus)

It sounds like you’re not a very windy person so its easy for you to behave the way you do. I’m the complete opposite. I have IBS and am very windy. I’d find it exhausting and painful to only fart when it was ‘allowed’. I often come home from work and social occasions crippled with wind so want to be comfortable in my own home. I watch what I eat and drink like a hawk but it makes no difference. So for me it’s nothing about respect it’s just the way I am. I do think it’s ridiculous when I read on MN how people look down on others about farting. There are plenty of reasons why people have no choice about it. Not farting much doesn’t make you superior, more respectful or mature.

What a ridiculous comment. There are plenty of people who can’t help how windy they are. It’s nothing to do with cleanliness or manners. I hope you never develop a digestive or bowel condition, you’d explode with the strain!

Farts will never not be funny to me.
They are just part of life. I fart infront of anyone I’m comfortable with and people fart infront of me. We laugh and move on.

It isn't bad for you. After I'd had piles banded (by which time I had no shame) the surgeon came to see how I was doing, and I asked him. He laughed (actually slapped his thighs) and told me "if you knew how many women have asked me this!" and said it does no harm at all. Men will tell you it does, though, because they insist that we must always be ready to smell the contents of their bowels.

I’m with you OP. Sometimes it can’t be helped but neither me nor OH goes out of our way to fart in front of each other or other people. It’s just good manners.

Exactly!!!

This thread is a revelation to me. I didn't know that you could hold in farts. I certainly can't.

I can make them slip out quietly but there's no way I can stop the air coming out altogether. And it's not an IBS or age thing, I've always been that way. And it has absolutely nothing to do with lack of manners.

Now what I do dislike are performative sneezes. Surely it's possible to sneeze quietly ;)

The average is about 15 times a day I believe or about 1-1.5 litres of gas a day - which is quite a lot.

But we are all different - for example the "normal" range for bowel movements is between 3 a day and one every 3 days.

It TURNS me. I would die, even in front of a boyfriend. I think the only person I wouldn't die in front of would be my sibling if I passed wind. Which I don't. Ever.

Yes, but those aren’t unpleasant and disrespectful.

Farting isn't always pleasant, granted, but a natural bodily function isn't disrespectful.

Agreed on the farting front, however I naturally sneeze quite loudly, unfortunately - I do try my best to be as quiet as possible, but I can only control it so much. Unfortunately I'm also one of those sun-induced sneezers (it can set me off so much that it's actually exhausting).

I was reminded of this thread earlier this afternoon. I got into the lift at the hospital to go up for an appointment, and a very teeny tiny frail elderly woman nipped in just as the doors were closing. Just as I was getting to my floor, she let rip with the most monstrous fart I’ve ever heard - my first thought was that the lift cables were breaking and then I realised it had come from her when the odour hit me. I’m sure Krakatoa couldn’t have been any louder. I had my back to her, but I suspect she could see my shoulders shaking with laughter as I got out. !😆😆😆

I wouldn't have a clue how not to do it in front of my DH tbh

I’d never be married to someone who was uptight about farting. It’s natural

So do you also burp in close proximity to someone so that they smell it? Do you refuse to wear deodorant because sweat is natural and who cares if someone can smell it?

I don’t know how subjecting someone to your bodily odour when it can be easily avoided by going into another room is anything other than disrespectful. We’re not talking about during sleep, before someone throws that pointless argument at me, we’re talking about consciously subjecting someone to something unpleasant.

I come from a long family tradition of uncontrollable flatulence, often at the most inappropriate moments. Proper eye-watering window-rattlers at the school gate or on guided tours around important churches, that sort of thing. I've passed it on to my DDs too.

My wife is not like this, but fortunately finds its almost as hilarious as we do. However, she's not particularly keen on farting in enclosed spaces, particularly in the car if it gets into the aircon and rejuvenated ad nauseam, so to speak.

😁 Me and my kids are quite farty. Vegetarian diet. It would be difficult to hold them in all the the time. Especially at night. I imagine the people who never fart in front of each other hardly ever fart anyway.