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To be devasted the roundabout in my town has a crappy 'flag' painted on?

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Liesmorelies · 24/08/2025 21:19

I nearly threw up when I saw it this morning - what a horrible shock.

It's a very small town in the Midlands near a city. Yes it's ex-mining but does reasonable ok now, not deprived eg no contextual offers for my dc for uni, but not massively desirable or trendy. Has a Labour MP now but hasn't always in recent years. Voted for Brexit but only just. In 2019 more people voted against Tories AND Brexit than for them - split the vote so we still got a Tory, but still.

In other words, I did not expect this. It's horrible - looks ugly and badly done even before you get started on the thinking behind it. AIBU to ring the council on Tuesday and ask when they are going to deal with this vandalism?

I did a four hour round-trip on the motorway today too and the amount of flags on bridges was shocking - just make it stop.

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Fetaface · 25/08/2025 09:31

Velmy · 25/08/2025 02:24

So muslim kids were targeted by the groomers because of their race? And Hindu, Sikh, black girls too?

As I said in a previous post, the girls were targeted due to their vulnerability first and foremost. They weren't targeting middle class, private school children.

I'm really not sure what point you're trying to make.

These groomers targeted girls of all ethnicities. They were convicted of the white rapes as the girls of other ethnicities have been ignored and so they have not yet been held to account for those crimes. That is racism at its finest, right?

The prosecutions largely relied on witness statements and testimony from girls who came forward. 80% of the recorded assaults were against white girls.

The crimes against other ethnicities haven't been ignored; they couldn't be prosecuted because the victims didn't come forward. Pakistani girls in particular could have been at risk of honour killings. There's a belief that another ring existed that was entirely focused on Asian girls...but no evidence, no case.

There is only one thing that makes ALL kids vulnerable to abuse by groomers - that is being in the vicinity of groomers.

To suggest that there aren't socio-economic factors that make victims particularly susceptible to grooming is ridiculous.

Absolutely they have - saying that groomers only raped white girls when they didn't. They targeted girls of all ethnicities but the majority of convictions were for white girls because the other girls were ignored.

There has been no suggestion that only white girls were targeted. Look back through the reporting of the trail and subsequent reports.

I've already explained why the majority of convictions were for crimes against white girls.

And still continue to be ignored. Why is that the case? That is a scandal in itself that we are still saying these girls shouldn't be supported or acknowledged

Nobody is saying that, only you! If you have no names, no evidence of identity, nobody coming forward of their own accord, how can you act? There have been repeated drives and appeals for information, and victims have been encouraged to come forward. We can always do more, obviously, but in this case, not much more.

People first think of white victims because the majority of the reporting at the time was about the white victims, who gave accounts that mentioned other white victims. And certain people/groups are very keen to push the narrative of Pakistani met preying on white English girls. That's the racism here.

They are speaking out though it is just that our authorities are not listening. It is the same people but our authorities have turned their backs on them...doesn't fit the agenda does it?

Yes they did target some kids of middle class etc, grooming happens to all classes - again using stereotypes doesn't help victims. How does being poor make you vulnerable to grooming if you are not in contact with a groomer? It doesn't. The only thing that makes you vulnerable is groomers. That is all. Put a groomer in a room with a range of kids and all children are vulnerable. Remove the groomer and none are vulnerable. not rocket science.

We can do more but when the agencies in the muslim areas are even saying these girls are reporting to us but no one is listening then what can they do?

Paedos rape kids because they are kids. That is why the same paedos were raping white kids, brown kids, black kids etc. They chose their victims based on access to them. They had access to many brown kids - easily within their own communities that is why there are so many victims. I agree that it is harder for them to report but ignoring them shouldn't be the case.

So one groomer raping white kids is doing that because of race but then you also say it is because they were classist too and then they go home and rape their own kids and that is because they are racist and classist too? Makes no sense at all.

ThatWaryOchreQuoter · 25/08/2025 09:31

healthyteeth · 25/08/2025 09:23

I live in a very multicultural area and close to one of the most deprived boroughs in England. I don’t live in a bubble. I’m not ignorant.

I do understand why some people are frustrated. England is crippled economically. Far far too many people are living in poverty. Waiting for housing has to be one of the hardest things to do. I know that in that situation a person does look around and wonder why others might be getting homes first. And they look for someone easy to blame.

The thing is it’s not about ‘the immigrants took it first. The immigrants cost too much” it’s about a system that doesn’t work due to bad planning and from years of a stagnanting economy and also there not being enough affordable housing for everyone. There just aren’t enough homes being built or funded. That is a series of political decisions over the years. It’s shit yes. But it’s not immigration.

Frustration is being directed at the immigrants but it should be directed elsewhere. To your local MP for a start. To the government. To local councils. The immigrant is a convenient scapegoat made up by the media and these far right idiots whooping everyone up.

Fact is immigration help to keep things running in this country. I know this doesn’t fit the far rights agenda to divide and whoop people up, but it’s fact.

There just aren’t enough homes being built or funded.

We’d need to have built accommodation for 10 million people over the last decade to keep up with the net immigration influx, that’s a City bigger than London! It’s either ideological or someone is benefitting financially, but mass immigration on recent scales is beyond any doubt hurting the average person of the U.K’s quality of life.

Chocolatemasculinity · 25/08/2025 09:32

The painting of roundabouts is wrong. It is divisive and intrinsically linked to the extreme right. They are using this tactic to stir up arguments and anger. It makes a lot of minority groups feel uneasy. It’s hard to counter the argument that there is nothing wrong with being patriotic. There isn’t - but this is not showing patriotism. It’s a knowing wink to everything they stand for. This is why they use it in this manner.

healthyteeth · 25/08/2025 09:32

Nestingbirds · 25/08/2025 09:00

You might find others feel it is wonderful to celebrate our country. My village has lots of bunting and flags, and attracts thousands and thousands of visitors every year. It is British through and through. Some/most people are proud of their nationality here, the independent businesses are thriving.

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It’s not about the flags! It’s about the INTENT behind them all of a sudden.

Serpentstooth · 25/08/2025 09:35

Semiotics.

healthyteeth · 25/08/2025 09:37

ThatWaryOchreQuoter · 25/08/2025 09:31

There just aren’t enough homes being built or funded.

We’d need to have built accommodation for 10 million people over the last decade to keep up with the net immigration influx, that’s a City bigger than London! It’s either ideological or someone is benefitting financially, but mass immigration on recent scales is beyond any doubt hurting the average person of the U.K’s quality of life.

10 million is factually wrong.

4 million is right.

And due to our aging population we need those immigrants to plug the gaps in workforce and to keep our economy going. Without them our quality of life would be significantly worse.

PInkyStarfish · 25/08/2025 09:37

Operation Raise the colours is the best thing to happen in society in ages, it has united many and continues to do so.

If you felt sick at the sight of a roundabout, be prepared to keel over when you see these bollards!

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇬🇧❤️

To be devasted the roundabout in my town has a crappy 'flag' painted on?
Fetaface · 25/08/2025 09:41

PInkyStarfish · 25/08/2025 09:37

Operation Raise the colours is the best thing to happen in society in ages, it has united many and continues to do so.

If you felt sick at the sight of a roundabout, be prepared to keel over when you see these bollards!

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇬🇧❤️

Is the yellow bit to represent the piss stains in our society?

Trendyname · 25/08/2025 09:43

Happyher · 24/08/2025 21:34

I’m with you OP. I’m proud to be British not English. I hate the English flag - it looks tacky and reminds me of a first aid box. My back garden backs onto a main road and there’s a lamppost in the middle of the garden boundary. I’ll be straight on to the Council if it gets a flag stuck on it asking for its removal on the grounds of the racist connotations to it.

So you hate your country’s flag bet it reminds you of first aid box? Lack of patriotic feelings in some British people is so unmatched anywhere else in the world. Objectively speaking most flags do not have much aesthetic value but people love their flags because they represent their country and people.

healthyteeth · 25/08/2025 09:43

PInkyStarfish · 25/08/2025 09:37

Operation Raise the colours is the best thing to happen in society in ages, it has united many and continues to do so.

If you felt sick at the sight of a roundabout, be prepared to keel over when you see these bollards!

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇬🇧❤️

“The best thing to happen in ages”

You need to get out more.

It’s an embarrassment and worryingly far right. The intent behind the flags is scary.

Whatafustercluck · 25/08/2025 09:43

If only we had a reference point in history for rampant nationalism promulgated as patriotism and the dominance of one flag above all others, all the while blaming a minority group for the ills of a nation.

Oh yes, we do.

BlankBlankBlank14 · 25/08/2025 09:47

PInkyStarfish · 25/08/2025 09:37

Operation Raise the colours is the best thing to happen in society in ages, it has united many and continues to do so.

If you felt sick at the sight of a roundabout, be prepared to keel over when you see these bollards!

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇬🇧❤️

Oh dear, how sad ….. that’s the best thing to happen for a long time….

You need to stop being so bitter.

godlikeAI · 25/08/2025 09:48

Menopausalsourpuss · 24/08/2025 23:45

Oh, let me explain. I'm proud of my ancestors who were working class and were part of the proud millworkers and servants (amongst others) who built this country. In my opinion we are living in the ruins of a great civilisation built by Christianity. Alot of the values we still have are based on Chrisianity (equality etc) still but we have become lazy, weak and immoral and our civilisation is crumbling while we get alot poorer. We have had terrible leadership for the past 25 + years which has exacerbated this. Hope this helps.

No, not really. Idealising a time when people lived in, frankly, terrible conditions, doesn’t make very much sense. That’s why they left service and never went back. And I suspect our mining and mill worker ancestors would far rather have a bit of health and safety and warm house in winter.

And if you believe in Christian values, perhaps read the story of the Good Samaritan.

Lastly, what’s happened over the past 25 or more years is some bad leadership hut combined with macro economic forces. Capital is king - that’s what makes the world go round and that’s what drives migration of all sorts, whether it’s an influencer moving to Dubai or someone leaving a war torn country for a new life. These are not random events and if more people looked beneath the surface, they might act, think and vote differently.

Maray1967 · 25/08/2025 09:48

Hoardasurass · 25/08/2025 00:35

So the Women's World Cup isn't a major sporting event then

Do you think the folks rushing to put flags up are doing it for that reason?

ThatWaryOchreQuoter · 25/08/2025 09:48

Whatafustercluck · 25/08/2025 09:43

If only we had a reference point in history for rampant nationalism promulgated as patriotism and the dominance of one flag above all others, all the while blaming a minority group for the ills of a nation.

Oh yes, we do.

The free Palestine protests have hardly changed history, most people just ignore them. I think you need to get out more.

lkjhgfdsa · 25/08/2025 09:49

ThatWaryOchreQuoter · 25/08/2025 09:31

There just aren’t enough homes being built or funded.

We’d need to have built accommodation for 10 million people over the last decade to keep up with the net immigration influx, that’s a City bigger than London! It’s either ideological or someone is benefitting financially, but mass immigration on recent scales is beyond any doubt hurting the average person of the U.K’s quality of life.

Where has 10 million come from? Net migration has never been 1 million a year! Pre Brexit it was around 200k to 300k and peaked higher than that in 2022 and 2023 but has since started coming down again.

While we have net immigration we also have falling birth rates.

There is a conversation to be had about levels of immigration but that needs to be an honest conversation.

Serpentstooth · 25/08/2025 09:49

That is not how you spell bollocks but well done for spouting so much.

Whatafustercluck · 25/08/2025 09:49

PInkyStarfish · 25/08/2025 09:37

Operation Raise the colours is the best thing to happen in society in ages, it has united many and continues to do so.

If you felt sick at the sight of a roundabout, be prepared to keel over when you see these bollards!

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇬🇧❤️

Are you actually, seriously and knowingly aligning yourself with Tommy Robinson?

I rather think the point of the OP has been proven.

SereneCoralDog · 25/08/2025 09:49

A roundabout about 5 miles from us has been painted with the St Georges flag.

Plot twist: we live in Wales 🤣

Racists really are thick as mince. Patriots my arse.

Pepperlee · 25/08/2025 09:50

SlatternIsMyMiddleName · 24/08/2025 22:43

OP wouldn’t last 5 minutes in Northern Ireland.

Or in Scotland where flags are proudly displayed. Maybe the objectors should visit and tell the Irish and Scots to take down the flags. That would be fun to see 😀

godlikeAI · 25/08/2025 09:51

Whatafustercluck · 25/08/2025 09:43

If only we had a reference point in history for rampant nationalism promulgated as patriotism and the dominance of one flag above all others, all the while blaming a minority group for the ills of a nation.

Oh yes, we do.

No, no, this is different, honest! Those people were bad and weird, not like us. We’ve got good reason, we’re the good guys

yeah, pull the other one. You don’t wake up one day in a fascist state, there is a build up. This is the build up

Beachtastic · 25/08/2025 09:52

SereneCoralDog · 25/08/2025 09:49

A roundabout about 5 miles from us has been painted with the St Georges flag.

Plot twist: we live in Wales 🤣

Racists really are thick as mince. Patriots my arse.

Well, I wouldn't fancy trying to paint the Ddraig Goch! 😉

Whatafustercluck · 25/08/2025 09:53

ThatWaryOchreQuoter · 25/08/2025 09:48

The free Palestine protests have hardly changed history, most people just ignore them. I think you need to get out more.

And I think you need to read a few more history books if you think I'm talking about Palestine.

healthyteeth · 25/08/2025 09:53

Whatafustercluck · 25/08/2025 09:43

If only we had a reference point in history for rampant nationalism promulgated as patriotism and the dominance of one flag above all others, all the while blaming a minority group for the ills of a nation.

Oh yes, we do.

It’s terrifying how many posters on here have NO grasp of the parallels.

They see it as a bit of harmless pride and patriotism. “It’s just a flag”.

All the while oblivious to the hatred and racism behind this campaign and how historically this has played out.

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 25/08/2025 09:54

Many people feel the same way about the Trans flag of oppression. If people can wave trans flags everywhere why can’t people wave their country’s flag.

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