Sister went nuts over a cup of coffee

[CrashBambiCoot]

my sister visits my house around 3 times a week. Every time she comes she takes the piss out of my coffee calling it “half a cup of coffee” etc

She last visited Friday where I made her a coffee and she snapped “oh come on, fill it up for fucks sake” saying I’d only half filled the mug (I hadn’t).

This morning she turns up. I make coffee, as I was taking it into the living room she looks into the mugs and screams “half a cup of coffee”. I snap back “I don’t fill it to the top so it doesn’t get spilled! Nobody fills coffee right to the top” so she started dancing around me acting crazy shouting “ooo don’t spill it” etc before suddenly lunging at me and shouting in my face - coffee got spilt.

Now I’ve said I’m not making her coffee anymore. That’s it. Sick of the piss taking and ranting and raving. DH witnessed all this and basically joined in with her. She’s 42, DH is 50.

its not normal to fill coffee right to the top is it??? And the hysterics is certainly not normal is it?

It’s the perfect Sunday night zero-stakes thread in which to get DEEPLY invested. Give it a few more pages and we should see some deleted posts. 🍿 ☕️

It a slow Sunday evening where I am…we are all here for the entertainment after all 😆

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Very true 😂

Your sister is a bitch who has anger issues and your husband is a stupid clown of a man

None of us can judge without side by side photos of how you make one and how your DSIS would make one…….

so for that YABU 🤣

I agree with this. I don't think I would make someone spill coffee to prove a point about not filling the cup up, but it does always really annoy me when I get given a tiny coffee, especially as people who serve tiny coffees for some reason also never put enough milk in.

A hot drink really doesn't look right to me unless the cup's full. It always makes me think the server didn't boil enough water.

It turns out that I have strong feelings on this topic

Tell your sister to F off!

MN never fails to shock me at how rude some people's "loved ones are" even my enemy's are less cruel.

Fill it to the brim on a saucer and hand it other. If she says it will spill just say "don't be so fucking ridulous and hysterical. Like that's even a thing".

Your sister is unhinged and I struggle to belive family act like this and it tolerated. Unbelievable.

Why did your sister and your husband behave like a pair of goady bullies?

that’s exactly what they were, I think they think the OP is a walkover, they wouldn’t have done it otherwise

its not normal to fill coffee right to the top is it??? And the hysterics is certainly not normal is it?

Filling a mug - normal.

Hysterics over a half filled mug - not normal.

Sadly I think you are absolutely right.

The OP sounds anything but a walkover. If she was easily pushed around, she wouldn't have refused the SIL's repeated requests for a full mug of coffee. Someone who treats other adults like children who can't be trusted not to spill their drinks is hardly a pushover.

I have recently changed coffee machine, new one spits out about 3 mls of coffee so I have to hit the button a few times to get a decent cup but still not even half way full. The other coffee machine did it one go, so I'm going back to the original coffee machine.

If it's an instant coffee thing I would hate a little cup of coffee but it is unreasonable to expect it to be filled to the rim for the reason you say.

BUT if I went to a coffee house I would expect a decent fully filled cup of coffee, I would want my moneys worth, spill risk or not.
So depends on the circumstances.

I disagree, if they respected her and thought she wouldn’t tolerate their behaviour they wouldn’t have said anything….bullies only bully people that they think they can, they never try it on people who they think will fight back

LOVE this idea! 😂Definitely do this OP - and as you hand it to DS say, "there's your full f*cking cup!"

In my house this is called an “Auntie Pat” in homage to an aunt who always filled a cup about halfway.

Your sister sounds like a bit of a knob.

They both sound like a pair of twats. Tell to make their own bloody drinks in future.

I don’t fill mine up, I like a good dose of milk and sugar to make it drinkable!

and I’m a clumsy old sod.

I don't fill to the top. About half an inch below rim. And I pour out the extra if it is too high. Tell your S not come round any more and tell your DH a) make your own coffee, b) sleep in the spare room until you apologise (with chocolates, flowers and expensive outing of your choice, OP) for such juvenile behaviour - your acceptance of apology does not include reinstatement of cups of coffee for the twit.

Your sister is rude. This is sibling stuff. Your DH is a toolbag for taking her side.
Get them to make their own coffee from now on. If she's there 3 times a week she should be making it herself anyway.

I'm astonished at the amount of replies saying that they also dislike an unfilled cup, as if it excuses the arseholery of your DSis and DH!
Baffling. Do people really care this much about hot drinks?

They were having coffee, not tea @MaryGreenhill 😜

But in all seriousness, the sister is probably more to be pìtied, than angry at, for her ignorant behaviour.

However, @CrashBambiCoot's husband was just being vile. Depending on whether being vile was an extremely unusual thing for him to be, or whether it is such normal behaviour nowadays that the OP only just registered it, would affect how I would proceed - if logistically possible.

If his behaviour was so unusual that the OP was struggling to believe that it was her husband that was saying those things, then later on, when they were on their own, and everything had calmed down, I think that she should sit down with him, with no distractions, and ask him why he had behaved in such a way. The OP would obviously then have to decide whether his explanation made any sense to her, and was in any way something that she could forgive in the right circumstances.

On the other hand, if his response has become what the OP has realised is his normal type of behaviour these days, then if she thinks that she may still have some positive feelings towards him, she should maybe ask him to come to couple counselling with her, and if he refuses, or if the OP knows that she no longer loves or needs him, then the answer is both straightforward, and obvious...

Just tell them both to make there own coffee from now on;
"Make your own, that way you won't need to be utterly fucking ridiculous about the way I make it."
or, "No more maid service & free coffee here."