How do you forget how many drinks you have had on a night out?

[forevergrateful1]

My boyfriend has went out I posted about this not too long ago. He said he couldnt leave and when he did another drink would be brought for him. I asked how many he has and he can’t remember the exact number but it wasn’t many and he’s not drunk.

if you didn’t have much to drink how would you not remember how much you had ? Is this normal to forget all the time

He should be able to remember of he had 3 or 4. If he's had 8 or 9 I can see why it would be hard to remember.

He said he can’t remember and literally said maybe around 3 or 4 but it’s always 3 or 4. I don’t understand how you wouldn’t know how many you had.

Grow up - he’s on a night out ffs

So what’s your theory? Are you saying he’s lying about not remembering how many drinks? Or are you saying that he has an unusually bad memory?

If you think he’s lying - why would he do that? If he said he’s had 7 or 8 or 9, would you be mad at him?

He probably can remember but doesn’t want to tell you. Either because it was more and you would be cross. Or because he finds it strange that it is important to you whether it was 3 or 4 and doesn’t feel he should have to account for each drink.

Stop being so controlling. I've cross posted from your other thread. Can't he just enjoy a night out, come home and get his head down? If not, why not?

He never said he was going on a night out though? That’s the thing

I'm out now. No clue how many I've had but it's been fun. You don't have to keep track but it doesn't mean you're out of control. Sometimes a night just ends up that way.

Plus I am asking because he’s driving home. And last week come back in an absolute state and threw up over the bathroom. When he didn’t say he was going on a night out

I’m sorry he’s driving home after saying he’s had 3 or 4 drinks (which means at least 6)? That’s a crime and could leave someone dead. Shocking behaviour.

A quiet pint = 4 pints

3-4 pints = six minimum

It's a sliding scale from there.

He obviously feels like he can't tell you that he's on a night out for whatever reason, whether he thinks you're going to judge him or kick up a fuss.

I'd normally say to leave him to it, but if he's driving then you know full well that 3-4 isn't acceptable either. If he's driving in a state where he's coming home and being sick, that's disgustingly selfish behavior. Your partner is a selfish prick...let's just hope that when he inevitably crashes, he's the only one who gets hurt.

Driving under the influence is shocking. He should know better. Luckily he didn't kill someone, I guess.

Yh I hope he gets back safely. He said when I last spoke he’s been drinking rum so I don’t know how he is saying he’s not drunk. I’m really trying not to get in his case but I’m worried. And his brother went home hours ago so I don’t understand what is going on

He obviously feels like he can't tell you that he's on a night out for whatever reason, whether he thinks you're going to judge him or kick up a fuss.

Yes to this. Do you usually argue with him when he goes on a night out?

The adult thing for him to do would be to tell you he's going out for a few drinks and he'll get a taxi back but for whatever reason he obviously feels like he can't.
No excuse for drink driving though, hopefully the police pull him over before he hurts anyone.

@MrBlobbyScaresMe ive never had a problem with him drinking. He always used to make a big deal when we first got together saying I’m not having many and I would say I don’t care why you saying that. One day I asked is there a reason why he’s so worried and apparently he used to drink too much in the past so I’m assuming an ex or family/ friends used to have a problem.

my main thing is him not being upfront that’s what irritates me. Other than that I don’t care if he drinks I only want him to make sensible plans and way of getting home. Plus he’s got work at 7:30 tomorrow so I know im gonna have to keep telling him to wake up

He clearly has alcohol issues and drives drunk regularly, that's shocking and you don't seem that arsed?
Maybe he does drugs as he's clearly hiding his drink intake from you 🤔
What's his work
I'd be considering getting rid of him and reporting him anonymously for drink driving

Go to sleep and don't bother waking him up in the morning, he's not a child so don't treat him like one.

I understand. He's being a total dick and sounds like he still probably has a problem with drinking but he's trying to hide it by pretending he doesn't remember how many he's had. Not fair on you.
How often does he go on these nights out? Does he drink at home?

If he intends to drive home he needs to be told that you’ll call the police.

Drink driving kills!

Not sure why when he came home drunk driving last time, you didn’t end the relationship.

If he’s drinking to this extent, hiding it, driving home and too drunk to wake up for work then he’s got a drinking problem OP

I'd get your own place tbh, or throw him out. He's going out for fun and you're not included - it's only going to get worse. Sending hugs x

I mean I agree he sounds like an arse but for the drink driving… not becuse he’s having fun without you. That should definitely be allowed in a relationship…

Not if it's the only fun being had. Living together just turns the other half into a sock on the radiator.

Did I miss the part where OP says it’s the only fun that’s had? I agree if that’s the only fun that’s had then yes it doesn’t sound likes great relationship but that isn’t what OP is asking advice on…

I think you are focussing on the wrong thing. How many drinks he has had isn't the issue, the issue is that he is drinking and driving. I would not stay with someone who did this. It's my line in the sand.