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Biological sex should be shared with potential relationships/ONS/dates.

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allusernamesaretakennow · 22/08/2025 13:35

I think that biological sex should be shared not the gender you think you are/want to be. That's honest and in my opinion respectful.

AIBU
YANBU biological sex should be shared not just chosen gender
YABU no just tell your chosen gender

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PrizedPickledPopcorn · 13/10/2025 07:31

Found it. At a prison for men, but with appropriate measures for safety.

Tiredofwhataboutery · 13/10/2025 07:44

I think they should disclose. Although in this case I’m wondering if the victim nededs glasses as I’d struggle to see how it’s not immediately obvious it’s a bloke.

JMSA · 13/10/2025 07:49

YANBU.

allusernamesaretakennow · 13/10/2025 08:29

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 13/10/2025 07:28

Any idea which jail, men’s or women’s?

Not sure.

However, he's a male so should be in a male prison. Again, a male sexual predator who says he's female'. Too many of them.

OP posts:
allusernamesaretakennow · 13/10/2025 08:30

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 13/10/2025 07:31

Found it. At a prison for men, but with appropriate measures for safety.

Thanks

OP posts:
PrizedPickledPopcorn · 13/10/2025 08:49

Tiredofwhataboutery · 13/10/2025 07:44

I think they should disclose. Although in this case I’m wondering if the victim nededs glasses as I’d struggle to see how it’s not immediately obvious it’s a bloke.

Young and inexperienced. Optimistic.

MyAmusedPearlSquid · 13/10/2025 19:58

Yes I agree it should be disclosed

Grigoria · 13/10/2025 20:13

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 22/08/2025 14:55

At what point during a date/series of dates do you think I should be legally obliged to start discussing my genitalia OP?

When physical contact moves beyond a handshake or a peck on the cheek.
Before you initiate sexual contact, or immediately before responding if the other person initiates it.
Actually, if neither of the above happens on the first date, I think it would only be fair to "come clean" if/when a second date was on the cards.
HTH.

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