Should I assume the date is off?

[Jahavagayxn]

Been talking to a guy for a few weeks from online dating. He seemed very nice and sweet, and keen.

arranged a date for tonight, set a time and location

heard from him last at approximately 4am (he was arriving back from being abroad, text me to let me know he arrived)

I haven't heard from him since then, so all day. i get he would want to sleep in having got back so late but I would have thought he'd be awake by now. I have messages to ask if we're still on. Not read and no answer

at what point do I assume the date is not on? I don't want to start getting ready for nothing

What time is the date? I still think it's possible on, maybe his phone has died and he's still asleep or just busy catching up with things.

You last heard from him 8 hours ago?
If he only got in the country at 4am it’s possible he’s still asleep.

I'm sure he's still asleep. Men are simple creatures.

Date is at 6.30

As in, your date is still on!

Why on earth would you assume its not on?

You've heard from him recently, you have a time and place set, and you know he didn't get in until at least 4am so will likely be looking to get a decent sleep in before this evening.

I don't see any indication there that it would be cancelled

He'll be asleep. I wouldn't start to get ready until later on, in case he postpones it.

I also think he is sleeping. I wouldn’t assume the date is off.

Relax. Assume date is still on. Don't double text. If no reply by 5, assume not happening

Christ give him a chance

Assume it's on, but it is remiss of him for not making that obvious 👍

Maybe he didn't go to bed until 6am in which case he could easily still be asleep. Give it a bit longer at least

I’d not be impressed if I got home at 4am and someone was texting me to ask if the date was on several hours before hand and considering 1.30 as the whole day. You need to try to calm down op. The man will be sleeping.

When? I mean surely it is obvious he texted her at 4am.

Yeah but she's not sure if the date is on 👍
If he txt at 4am "see you later", then it is obvious.

Poor fella, probably knackered from getting in to country at 4 am. I'd cut him some slack.

Thanks everyone. I'm fairly new to dating (marriage ended last year) so it's all a bit new and scary tbh. Thanks for the reassurance (and for telling me I'm being a bit silly)

Give him a chance! If he got in at 4, home at 5/6 a few hours sleep.

Its really hard and you have to know your boundaries but being this insecure is not good.

I would get ready and assume it's on.

He's probably asleep and he'll probably message soon. Get ready for the date in the meantime but don't message again and don't go to meet him unless he gets in touch.

Yeah take it all on board, there’s no reason think it’s not happening, especially since he messaged you when he landed.

If I’d landed at 4am I’d be asleep right now too, I’m sure it’ll be fine.

It’s not until 6.30, not even any need to be getting ready yet it’s hours off :)

I’d be worrying if you hadn’t heard anything by about 5pm, and presume it’s still on!

Thanks all, I think I've been listening to my girls a bit too much (they say if a man doesn't confirm the morning of then it's definitely off!)

now just to decide what to wear!

This^
and to be honest I would treat it as any arrangement with a BF/ a friend /a relative. If I heard from them 8 hours before our meet up I would assume it’s on.