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Should I assume the date is off?

102 replies

Jahavagayxn · 22/08/2025 13:23

Been talking to a guy for a few weeks from online dating. He seemed very nice and sweet, and keen.

arranged a date for tonight, set a time and location

heard from him last at approximately 4am (he was arriving back from being abroad, text me to let me know he arrived)

I haven't heard from him since then, so all day. i get he would want to sleep in having got back so late but I would have thought he'd be awake by now. I have messages to ask if we're still on. Not read and no answer

at what point do I assume the date is not on? I don't want to start getting ready for nothing

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CoffeeLipstickKeys · 23/08/2025 16:53

Jahavagayxn · 22/08/2025 13:50

Thanks all, I think I've been listening to my girls a bit too much (they say if a man doesn't confirm the morning of then it's definitely off!)

now just to decide what to wear!

Who are your girls? Mates or daughters

crazeekat · 23/08/2025 16:55

invested here lol what happened then, how did it go? X

Daughterofthesea · 23/08/2025 16:57

How was the date OP?

SitOnHisFaceIfHeDiesHeDies · 23/08/2025 17:00

Oh for fucks sake come back we're all invested as fuck!

viques · 23/08/2025 17:00

Excellent. I hope expect we will be given an update tomorrow! Have fun.🙂

just seen this date was yesterday.

Come on OP, we have expectations.

Whyherewego · 23/08/2025 17:14

Jahavagayxn · 22/08/2025 15:04

I've just heard from him, date is going ahead!

Hope it went well !

Jahavagayxn · 23/08/2025 17:18

So sorry everyone! I didn't think anyone would actually care!

the date went very well thank you, he was lovely and has asked me out again for next week!

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Freeme31 · 23/08/2025 17:22

glad it went well this post lifted my spirits great to hear romance is still alive. Have fun 🤩

Paradoes · 23/08/2025 17:24

Randomly clicked on this thread and so glad it is a nice one. Delighted for you op

rainbowstardrops · 23/08/2025 17:30

Yay! Lovely update

Pearl69 · 23/08/2025 17:30

So glad you had a good date and another lined up. Us randoms love to hear happy news.

Charlize43 · 23/08/2025 17:36

Jahavagayxn · 23/08/2025 17:18

So sorry everyone! I didn't think anyone would actually care!

the date went very well thank you, he was lovely and has asked me out again for next week!

Did he bite your ankles? 😉

HandbagMarinara · 23/08/2025 18:00

Do update us next week, we all care A LOT 😂

Glad it went well, I find it a fun part of social media that I can become invested in a stranger.

I guess it brings back fun memories.

diddl · 23/08/2025 18:13

Jahavagayxn · 23/08/2025 17:18

So sorry everyone! I didn't think anyone would actually care!

the date went very well thank you, he was lovely and has asked me out again for next week!

In my day(😁) that would have been the arrangement made!

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 23/08/2025 18:24

I didn't think anyone would actually care

I think you’ve underestimated this greatly 😆

We need all the details.

savethatkitty · 23/08/2025 18:38

Who books a first date though on the day they know they will be are arriving at 0400am so will likely be knackered/jet lagged?

BlueJuniper94 · 23/08/2025 18:58

Ah nice thread, glad your date went well!

BlankBlankBlank14 · 23/08/2025 19:02

Yay!! 🙌

Rafting2022 · 23/08/2025 19:09

savethatkitty · 23/08/2025 18:38

Who books a first date though on the day they know they will be are arriving at 0400am so will likely be knackered/jet lagged?

Why not? First date could just be a couple of hours, home by 9. It’s a bank holiday weekend so plenty of time to rest. Some couple could manage to cope with that.

SummerFrog25 · 23/08/2025 19:18

Not until next week?

does he not understand WE are all invested now??

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 23/08/2025 19:18

Jahavagayxn · 23/08/2025 17:18

So sorry everyone! I didn't think anyone would actually care!

the date went very well thank you, he was lovely and has asked me out again for next week!

Yay!!!

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 23/08/2025 19:19

savethatkitty · 23/08/2025 18:38

Who books a first date though on the day they know they will be are arriving at 0400am so will likely be knackered/jet lagged?

Someone really keen.

TheDayWeGotMinnie · 23/08/2025 19:30

Jahavagayxn · 23/08/2025 17:18

So sorry everyone! I didn't think anyone would actually care!

the date went very well thank you, he was lovely and has asked me out again for next week!

aw this thread has made me smile ☺️

Sadworld23 · 23/08/2025 19:30

Jahavagayxn · 23/08/2025 17:18

So sorry everyone! I didn't think anyone would actually care!

the date went very well thank you, he was lovely and has asked me out again for next week!

Fabulous. Be happy. Be safe. Be true to you.

Jahavagayxn · 23/08/2025 19:40

Aww thank you everyone!

so the date being on Friday was his idea, not mine, he said he didn't want to wait any longer to meet me which was very sweet. In his defence, his flight was meant to land a lot earlier but it was delayed

it was very lovely in the date, we were talking about an activity we both wanted to do, so he just pulled out his phone and booked it! Next date sorted! Very nice for a man to be so proactive!

I definitely feel silly for having a wobble yesterday, I think the first date nerves really got to me so thank you all for talking some sense into me!

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