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Cooking fried breakfast at home shouldn't be allowed?

219 replies

luckysdadsway · 22/08/2025 10:19

I know I'll get flamed for this, but AIBU to feel so completely annoyed when anyone suggests cooking sausages, bacon or at worst a full fried breakfast at home?

Now don't get me wrong, I enjoyed a friend breakfast or the odd bacon sandwich in a cafe but absolutely not at home.

I can't cope with the awful cooking smell that comes from them. It sticks to everything including my hair which means I can smell it all day. The smell lingers throughout the house all day and we have any visitors I feel mortified by it.

A fried breakfast is even worse because not only do you get the awful smell but the amount of washing up that comes along with it. The need to use so many pans!

OP posts:
borntobequiet · 22/08/2025 11:25

Gosh a fry-up leaves a lovely smell! So YABU. Open a window if you don’t like it.

AintNoPunshineWhenShesGone · 22/08/2025 11:25

CharlotteRumpling · 22/08/2025 11:20

How do you all manage curries or things with garlic or chilli like stirfries?

Apparently the OP is only 'mortified' if visitors smell bacon and sausages 🤷‍♂️

theressomanytinafeysicouldbe · 22/08/2025 11:28

I do bacon and eggs on the foreman grill, scramble eggs, hash brown in the air fryer, the only thing i fry is the mushrooms, however I would much prefer to go out for breakfast

19lottie82 · 22/08/2025 11:29

Comedycook · 22/08/2025 10:24

It's the frying imo. It's totally unnecessary. You can cook it in the oven or air fryer. I do the sausages, bacon, hash browns, mushrooms and tomato in the air fryer. I make scrambled egg in a pan on the hob and heat the beans in the microwave. No horrible smells.

This. You can cook most of it in the oven or air fryer.

borntobequiet · 22/08/2025 11:29

Gosh a fry-up leaves a lovely smell! So YABU. Open a window if you don’t like it.

zaazaazoom · 22/08/2025 11:29

ImGoingUpstairsToTakeOffMyHat · 22/08/2025 10:37

I’ve found my people!

Totally agree OP, the smell is terrible. Also by the time you buy all the ingredients you could have popped down to Morrisons cafe to have one cooked for you for the cheaper price e of £3.50

Morrisons fry up is vile. It is nothing like the joy of a proper fry up.

BauhausOfEliott · 22/08/2025 11:29

Greysowhat · 22/08/2025 11:03

You are not being unreasonable because I hold the same stance. NO frying in my house! The smell is too much. The clean up is too much. The food is a health hazard. Anyone wants a fry they can go out and have it in a greasy spoon.

Christ, that's controlling.

If my partner tried to tell me what I could/couldn't cook and eat in my own home, I'd be ending the relationship.

BigFatBully · 22/08/2025 11:30

luckysdadsway · 22/08/2025 10:19

I know I'll get flamed for this, but AIBU to feel so completely annoyed when anyone suggests cooking sausages, bacon or at worst a full fried breakfast at home?

Now don't get me wrong, I enjoyed a friend breakfast or the odd bacon sandwich in a cafe but absolutely not at home.

I can't cope with the awful cooking smell that comes from them. It sticks to everything including my hair which means I can smell it all day. The smell lingers throughout the house all day and we have any visitors I feel mortified by it.

A fried breakfast is even worse because not only do you get the awful smell but the amount of washing up that comes along with it. The need to use so many pans!

If your wife wants to cook a fry-up, then that's up to her. I'm a vegetarian but my family aren't and I cook meat for them. The best thing to do to avoid lingering odours is to open a window in the kitchen and 'waft' the smoke out to keep it smelling fresh.

Telling other people what to cook/eat is controlling, in my opinion sir.

HerLivingontheHill · 22/08/2025 11:30

I think it depends on who 'anyone' is OP.

Is this your partner, or a bunch of teens getting up at midday?

You can't dictate who eats what really.

I know someone who never cooked fish for that reason.

BauhausOfEliott · 22/08/2025 11:31

susiedaisy1912 · 22/08/2025 11:24

I agree op. But then I detest cooked breakfasts. Don’t see the point in them.

But why would that mean nobody else in your house would/should be allowed to cook them?

NeverDropYourMooncup · 22/08/2025 11:32

How on earth would I have got teenagers out of bed of their own volition at the weekend without the delicious scent of smoked bacon wafting into their brains and making it worthwhile to be conscious before 1pm? And how would I have got them to eat a varied diet without them associating the smell of onions, garlic, spices and herbs with something lovely coming their way once it's all cooked?

(equally lighthearted).

Aroma is an essential part of appetite, taste and starting the digestive process. To just plonk a plate on a table with no anticipatory responses seems to me to be unlikely to result in as satisfactory a meal (and maybe the restaurant/dining concept of aperitifs, appetisers, amusee-bouche and the like arose specifically because not being able to smell food cooking affected appetite and pleasure - I wasn't about to do that for them, after all) - so the lovely smell of cooking performs its natural function.

FudgeSundae · 22/08/2025 11:34

I don’t understand what kind of monster objects to cooking smells. Waking up to the smell of bacon is AMAZING.
(Lighthearted, mostly)

Glitchymn1 · 22/08/2025 11:36

Open windows, clean up afterwards.

AintNoPunshineWhenShesGone · 22/08/2025 11:36

Greysowhat · 22/08/2025 11:03

You are not being unreasonable because I hold the same stance. NO frying in my house! The smell is too much. The clean up is too much. The food is a health hazard. Anyone wants a fry they can go out and have it in a greasy spoon.

What sort of control freakery is this??

Please tell me you don't have a partner and DC?

BigFatBully · 22/08/2025 11:36

FudgeSundae · 22/08/2025 11:34

I don’t understand what kind of monster objects to cooking smells. Waking up to the smell of bacon is AMAZING.
(Lighthearted, mostly)

Some bacon can smell foul but some can smell pleasant - smoked I think smells better.

Another suggestion to the OP would be to ensure you have a heavy-weight kitchen door that can 'lock' the odours in to that room.

TwistedKeys · 22/08/2025 11:37

My youngest DC seems entirely incapable of having cereal for breakfast or a sandwich for lunch. Sometimes they cook pasta with garlic for lunch. I cannot tell you how much it irks me. I know IABU but the house continually smells of garlic or sausages. I won’t miss that when they depart for uni next month.

Lorrymum · 22/08/2025 11:37

I love the smell of cooking bacon wafting from numerous houses on a Sunday morning walk with my dog.

Coffeeishot · 22/08/2025 11:38

@NeverDropYourMooncup my eldest used to appear like a ghost on a Sunday morning if there was bacon cooking appear out of nowhere 😀

suki1964 · 22/08/2025 11:38

We tend to have a "fry" for our evening meal - last night was the night - it was lovely

Call it a fry but its all grilled bar the eggs and beans

RubySquid · 22/08/2025 11:40

CyanDreamer · 22/08/2025 10:34

I hate cooked breakfast, but there are things called windows. Close the kitchen door, open the windows, and burn a chef candle or something, problem solved. How would your hair smell if you are not even in the room?

The person cooking should be the one doing the dishes anyway. If someone in the house wants to make themselves a cooked breakfast, let them be.

If you have kitchen windows. I didn't ina previous property

OooPourUsACupLove · 22/08/2025 11:40

I wonder if the people with the smell issues have an open plan kitchen diner family room type layout and/or a large kitchen. Ours is tiny so a shut door, good extractor and if necessary opening the window or door to the garden clears the air in no time.

I'm also surprised no one mentioned a spatter guard.

These days I do the bacon in the airfryer and everything else on the flat side of a cast iron griddle that sits over two burners. But that's not so much the smell as to reassure veggie DH that the meat wasn't close to the non-meat.

OooPourUsACupLove · 22/08/2025 11:40

[Double post]

fiorentina · 22/08/2025 11:41

I agree, but like you my family probably don’t! My MIL loves a huge fried breakfast, no windows open, the whole house smells of fat. I hate the way it then sticks to clothes and hair. I don’t want to go out for the day smelling greasy!

I think if you grill bacon, sausages etc it isn’t as bad. And ventilate the kitchen well!

femfemlicious · 22/08/2025 11:43

Comedycook · 22/08/2025 10:24

It's the frying imo. It's totally unnecessary. You can cook it in the oven or air fryer. I do the sausages, bacon, hash browns, mushrooms and tomato in the air fryer. I make scrambled egg in a pan on the hob and heat the beans in the microwave. No horrible smells.

I cook the bacon in a pan and use that for the eggs. Everything else in the grill and microwave. Just need 1 pan

dogsarethebestalways · 22/08/2025 11:44

Are you cooking in lard or something? I use a spray of olive oil in the pan and just cook bacon and eggs. Good quality bacon, so it's not actually greasy. It only smells amazing.