Snoring spouse

[Chakhakhan77]

Has anyone actually managed to cure snoring? If not can anyone recommend ear plugs that actually block out the noise? My dh is not too much overweight, does not drink heavily and has never smoked.
We're in a static caravan with family on holiday and so I have no other room to escape too. The last day today, very hot and ive told them to go out without me. After a week from hell and arguing in the middle of the night, me threatening I don't want to do this again I'm so depressed. Stuck here on the last day as I needed a lie in. Feel like it's the end of nice holidays together, certainly abroad anyway, as we can't afford two single persons holidays. The argument from last night hanging over us and they've all gone out. I'm shattered and missing out. He says he will go to the doctors but what can they actually do. I've read increased snoring in males is normal after making any necessary lifestyle improvements, due to age. He's 61. I'll be moving to a spare room at home permanently at home when we get back, so I feel even worse.

No advice but having recently returned from a holiday with a snoring husband I completely feel your pain. I couldn’t wait to get home so I could sleep in a separate room. My dh and I also argued unpleasantly many times in the middle of the night, him annoyed at being woken up and me annoyed at not being able to get to sleep in the first place. I was shattered and slept like the dead on our first night home.

I don’t think there’s much they can do other than surgery which seems extreme. Unfortunately some people do just snore. But it’s not pleasant for those who have no choice but to share a room with them.

I hope you manage to get some rest today and would advise better sleeping arrangements for your next holiday.

Is he overweight? If so, losing weight will help massively. Cutting back on alcohol helps too.
You can buy contraptions that help reduce snoring too, can’t remember what they’re called.
My friend’s DH attended a sleep clinic for snoring and not sure what they did, but he no longer snores!

He needs to see his GP for a referral to a sleep clinic. Might not be this but my DH was diagnosed with severe obstructive sleep apnoea this year.
You could hear the snoring all over the house. He kept falling asleep in the day and evening.
Now that he has his CPAP machine he’s back to his old self.
In the meantime order yourself a Snoozeband. Comfy enough to sleep in, connects to your phone by Bluetooth and can switch off after an hour. Lots of sleep playlists on bbc sounds etc.
Hope you can find a solution soon.

my husband is a very loud snorer, chats shit and shouts a lot aswell, I got a musicozy from Amazon, works well as a cheaper alternative to snoozeband

This one

I use earplugs. Each pair last three days before starting to let noise in. I use the ones that are designed for the smaller ear canals of women. I do still have the occasional night in the spare room but generally works well. Without these we would have to have separate rooms without question.

Agree with music headband and listen to rain sounds or any white noise. My musicozy stopped working so thinking of getting another type? Just kept stopping?

I use the moldable earplugs. Am going away soon with mega loud snorer dh. He's usually in the spare room especially if I have to be up early the next day. But obviously can't book 2 separate rooms on holiday.

Dh is also waiting for a sleep clinic appointment. He sounds like he stops breathing sometimes so I made him see the GP.

I just came in to recommend something very similar to PP. am on holiday with snoring DH at the moment it’s a game changer - white noise and off to sleep I go! Good luck it’s a killer being disturbed every night.
noise cancelling headphones work really well do not only ideal if you sleep on your back and don’t move !

I don't have a solution but just wanted to comment in solidarity - a week's holiday with my husband and a baby who still wakes twice in the night nearly broke me.

DH tried the nasal strips and whilst I thought they would be useless, it has improved the situation.

Your holiday sounds like my family holiday two years ago. My snoring husband ended up sleeping on the balcony at one point because he was sick of being told to shut the hell up all night.
He went to the doctor when we got home and was diagnosed with sleep apnea. The clinic give him a monitor to take home, he attached it to his finger and it measures your breathing. He was given a sleep apnea machine it is brilliant, no more snoring and everyone can sleep.

If you don’t want to wait for appointments ect you can just buy the machine, this is the one my husband uses. https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChsSEwiYur3nj56PAxWaj1AGHQ7AALQYACICCAEQGBoCZGc&co=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwqqDFBhDhARIsAIHTlkvAc-1G3MJtRndd0CKe82YP1zRurLFUDWHgTE7_tnzN9hxqPSGBzxoaAluBEALw_wcB&ei=6TqoaJ-CIOSOhbIP5PrMqAQ&cce=2&sig=AOD64_1rLPc4M4nwXdJQOIdPbHTTHmNSig&ctype=5&q=&sqi=2&ved=2ahUKEwjfmrfnj56PAxVkR0EAHWQ9E0UQwg8oAHoECAUQNA&adurl=

Define “not too much overweight “ what is his BMI?

If he’s overweight, that should make a significant difference. Does he drink alcohol?

He needs to be referred for a sleep clinic.

If my husband hadn't been diagnosed with sleep apnea, I might have murdered him in his sleep.

I wear mute nose plugs as have narrow nasal passage.
Dh also snores I wear foam earplugs and snoozeband over the top

@Chakhakhan77

Straight to sleep clinic when you get home. They will do a sleep study.

It’s not always necessary to be grossly overweight to have sleep apnoea.

Get him referred.

My husband has sleep apnea and was given a cpap machine but he found it too uncomfortable to wear all night. He's now got a snore mouth guard thing from amazon that for the most part has stopped the snoring. It's well worth getting it. The consultant suggested it as an alternative to cpap.

https://amzn.eu/d/9fY8CDD

If he's going to the doctor I'd give him a chance with that. IDK what they can do, but if this is the only problem I'd give him a chance to sort it. If he doesn't sort it out it's divorce time.

I had a snorer and I couldn't do it again. Just another thing I was putting up with in an abusive relationship and in his case it was self inflicted. The sleep deprivation was horrific. I'm an insomniac anyway and really didn't need being woken by snoring on top of that.

Honestly if I met someone who snores now I'd dump them for incompatibility. If someone developed it after years of living together they'd either have to sort it out pronto or we'd have to live separately, whatever that looked like and even if we stayed together.

I found nothing blocked out the sound of snoring, not even a brick wall and closed solid door of another room.

Get whatever earplugs you can for the final night. Separate rooms once home and he goes to the doctor for a referral to a sleep clinic study. He’ll probably be diagnosed with sleep apnoea and need to use a CPAP machine. You don’t have to be fat or drink heavily to have sleep apnoea.

Once his snoring is being treated then you could consider sharing a bedroom again, or not.

My DH and I both have sleep apnoea and snore. We both use CPAP machines. Such a difference. His snoring used to wake me at least three times a night, and I’d be practically homicidal each time. I hated his snoring and I hated him. He tried a snoring mouthguard but it didn’t work.

CPAPs are very quiet when the mask is fitted correctly with no air leaks. Quieter than a fan on low.

Another vote for CPAP, you can buy them privately if you don't want to wait for GP.

I feel your pain. Lack of sleep is torture. I had to resort to separate bedrooms as I was running on empty. I didn’t find earplugs that helped and my ears get so sore wearing them.
sorry no help but just wanted to offer solidarity xx

He needs to go to a sleep clinic for tests. My dad snored awful before he had a sleep apnea test and device and he isn’t overweight either.

People think only overweight people have sleep apnea but it’s not always the case.

I hear you. Separate rooms at home here now thank goodness but holidays - I just avoid unless absolutely necessary that we spend a night away from home. It’s like torture. I want to go on a cruise but can’t as I cannot sleep in the same room / cabin for a week and function on no sleep - would be no holiday for me. No answers for you but every sympathy.

I feel your pain. DH snores so loudly I heard him from OUTDOORS as I came home from a work function. Our bedroom is on the second floor and no windows were open since it was November. LOUD.

Things that worked for us:

1. I finally had to move to a separate bedroom, but his snoring was still keeping up me and DC all in our separate bedrooms. We now have 3 white noisemakers. There is one in his bedroom that I turn on after he falls asleep (he complains that white noisemakers prevent him from falling asleep), second whiten noisemaker in the hallway, 3rd whitenoisemaker in my actual bedroom.
2. DC use their apple airpods on noise cancelling mode rather than a 3rd white noisemaker in their room. On a recent holiday, they insisted I try one and OMG it works amazingly well. If you can sleep with earbuds in, I think they are smaller and more comfortable than over ear headphones. Just make sure to get ones with great active noise cancellation feature. I can vouch for the apple earbuds, their noise cancellation was phenomenal.