Snoring spouse

[Chakhakhan77]

Has anyone actually managed to cure snoring? If not can anyone recommend ear plugs that actually block out the noise? My dh is not too much overweight, does not drink heavily and has never smoked.
We're in a static caravan with family on holiday and so I have no other room to escape too. The last day today, very hot and ive told them to go out without me. After a week from hell and arguing in the middle of the night, me threatening I don't want to do this again I'm so depressed. Stuck here on the last day as I needed a lie in. Feel like it's the end of nice holidays together, certainly abroad anyway, as we can't afford two single persons holidays. The argument from last night hanging over us and they've all gone out. I'm shattered and missing out. He says he will go to the doctors but what can they actually do. I've read increased snoring in males is normal after making any necessary lifestyle improvements, due to age. He's 61. I'll be moving to a spare room at home permanently at home when we get back, so I feel even worse.

@PoppySaidYesIKnow I'm cruising soon with snoring dh. I'm using the silicone ear plugs and maybe getting another music headband? Rain sounds block the snoring for me. I'll have day naps too.

Much sympathy. CPAP is worth exploring but does come with its own issues.

If at all possible, look into bricks and mortar self catering apartments/villas with enough bedrooms for everyone. Your money goes a lot further with this kind of accommodation overseas, but even in the UK you can find it for a similar budget to a caravan if you are careful with location and prepared to drive.

Breathe right nose strips stops hurting husband snoring completely. When he will wear them

I feel your pain. DH had a deviated septum and it was Hell waiting for surgery. By the time he had it I was so anxious at bedtime every little sound kept me awake even though his snoring had mostly stopped. I got Loops earplugs and they were a game changer. He does still occasionally snore if he lays on his back, but the earplugs block most noise out. We got a bigger bed too so we're not right next to each other. When on holiday we always get accommodation with at least a long size bed.

@DelilahBucket how do those earplugs work?

My husband’s snoring is off the scale. He travels a lot with work so is often jet lagged and he’s quite overweight. I had years of cramming earplugs into my ears, tried everything but nothing worked, plus I could feel the vibrations of the snores even though we have a super king bed. Anyway in the end I got an ear infection probably from ramming the blooming plugs down my ears and I was so utterly sleep deprived I could hardly function. So I decamped to the spare room a year ago. The cat followed, luckily he doesn’t snore!

Anyway I no longer go to bed dreading the noise starting, I sleep well even though I’m menopausal and it’s so peaceful. DH was ok about it as he no longer gets kicked all night and he was stressing & feeling guilty about keeping me awake. Now when we go on holiday we no longer use hotels but book an Airbnb or holiday cottage with an extra bedroom.

At home we have separate bedrooms. When we stay away in hotels we have separate beds and I wear my ear buds with music on to try and drown it out a bit. I can't stand the vibration which is why separate beds. And when we did caravans I had the bedroom and he stayed on the pull out sofa bed in the lounge. It has done wonders for our relationship. We no longer argue all the time (unless he falls asleep on the sofa when I'm trying to watch TV 😂)

Separate bedrooms here and holidays we go self catering in a 2 bedroom cottage or apartment. I put up with too many years of disturbed sleep.I actually moved when DH had to have a shoulder op and it hurt if I rolled into him.What a revelation and tbh out relationship is far better as I'm not tired and grumpy. We are going to stay with friends soon for 4 nights and tbh dreading it as I know DH will drink more usual and I will have nowhere to escape to.I physically cant keep ear buds in so have a headband instead but still not ideal.

I use these headphones/earplugs, mostly comfy when side sleeping, and listen to a taking book, generally get off to sleep within 30 mins. I use BorrowBox for the talking books which is connected to my membership of the local library and is therefore free. You can set a sleep timer, eg 20 or 30 mins. There’s loads of stuff on bbc sounds also.

Xmenha Invisible Sleep Earbuds... www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0CNSXM65K?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

I have been enraged by snoring. Last night DH was out drinking and came in to bed and by 5.30 I got up. I’m exhausted

I did the separate bedrooms first until he went to the sleep clinic. A night hooked up to a machine and he has his cpap. No more snoring.

I'm still in my room though. I love my room

We have separate bedrooms at home and I book separate rooms on holiday. After one holiday where I decided we'd share a room, never again.

Depending on how deep sleeper you are, the snorer reads a book whike non snorer falls asleep, and asleep for a good 15 + minutes or whatever they need to go deep. Then snorer falls asleep. Not great if non snorer is a light sleeper though.

endless earplugs that I’ve not tried but reading everyone else’s ideas.

As others have said. He needs referring to a sleep clinic and maybe needs a cpap machine (which is actually quite a soothing swooshing sound). I suffered for so long and I refused to leave the nice comfy bed and demanded he did! I used to survive on 3 hours sleep! There was nearly a murder! Good luck

Honestly it can be relationship ending. I genuinely feel actually hatred for my husband in the middle of the night if he is snoring especially if it's been a few nights of it together. He normally stopes when I poke him to roll over. Logicallly I know he can't help it but my brain doesn't make the distinction at 3 am and I'm just in awful form the following day.

Sorry, he complains he can't get to sleep because if the white noise machine?! Wow.

You and your kids are well-trained/very patient. Has he been tested for sleep apnea because this sounds extreme. I would be tortured by this and it would be relationship-ending.

earplugs I wear them every night! The Howard light ones that are pink and yellow are a game changer. They take a bit of practice to get them in properly but they work really well. Can still hear alarms etc but they dull the snoring and it doesn’t wake me up

GP gave my husband two decongestant sprays to try and it had made a massive difference. He uses one regularly and the second is if it’s particularly bad. He still gets the occasional snore but nothing like before. The rage his snoring induced was off the scale, it was torture! He had me in tears. Have you also tried changing pillow height ?

I got custom made earplugs, they kind of drowned out the noise but I'm a light sleeper so it was hit & miss. I've also developed a slight issue with one ear and don't want to make it worse so have stopped using them.

The thing that helped was a CPAP machine, you could actually hear the silence but he didn't like wearing it.

I bought him a mouth guard which 90% worked but he said his gums hurt so back to musical beds in the night.

We've booked our next holiday but I'll insist he wears the mouth guard at least, can't afford separate rooms, so he'll have to compromise.

The mouth guard was from Amazon around £15, you may need to change every so often, definitely worth a go though.

Solidarity to all those suffering the effects of a snorer, it's no fun at all.

(I've had a lovely night's sleep as I'm away at a friends for the weekend, what a difference.)

Agree the Howard Light small pink and yellow ear buds are amazing. I suspect they've saved many women from digging deep holes under patios.

Loud snoring is red flag for Obstructive Sleep Apnoea, so definitely need a proper assessment. Can go via your GP (be warned waiting lists are long) or via a private company such as Vivisol UK. The test itself is like wearing a smartwatch - very non-invasive. It will give a proper diagnosis on whether it is "just" snoring or whether it's sleep apnoea (oxygen levels dropping and breathing pauses), plus how severe any sleep apnoea is.

CPAP is needed for severe obstructive sleep apnoea, but a proper mouth guard (Mandibular Advancement Device) is equally as good for mild or moderate. See a specially trained dentist to get one of these (you can get sleep tests through a specialist dentist too). They are very effective and much more portable (and discreet) than CPAP.

Living with untreated sleep apnoea massively increases some health risks, such as stroke, and has also been shown to cause health problems for the sleep-deprived partner. I live with a snorer with sleep apnoea- the mouth guard has changed both our lives

You have my sympathy OP, I am in the same position.

did manage to get DH to go to the GP a few years ago. He was very quickly dismissed as had no other symptoms of sleep apnea. GP told him to ask his wife to sew a tennis ball into the back of his PJs 🙄🙄🙄

the bastard snores on his side too so a tennis ball would be no help. Depressing how little they can offer.

He probably has sleep apnea. Actually quite dangerous and carries considerable risks. He needs to see gp.
Hell for anyone around them at night!!!

Agree with PP saying our relationship is so much better now we have our own room and can sleep. Plus I like having my own lovely room, I’m tidy and he’s messy.

Try some medical tape. You tape it over the mouth at a diagonal. It trains him to breathe through his nose not his mouth. I’ve tried this and it does help.