Snoring spouse

[Chakhakhan77]

Has anyone actually managed to cure snoring? If not can anyone recommend ear plugs that actually block out the noise? My dh is not too much overweight, does not drink heavily and has never smoked.
We're in a static caravan with family on holiday and so I have no other room to escape too. The last day today, very hot and ive told them to go out without me. After a week from hell and arguing in the middle of the night, me threatening I don't want to do this again I'm so depressed. Stuck here on the last day as I needed a lie in. Feel like it's the end of nice holidays together, certainly abroad anyway, as we can't afford two single persons holidays. The argument from last night hanging over us and they've all gone out. I'm shattered and missing out. He says he will go to the doctors but what can they actually do. I've read increased snoring in males is normal after making any necessary lifestyle improvements, due to age. He's 61. I'll be moving to a spare room at home permanently at home when we get back, so I feel even worse.

I have a musicozy too. Not for snoring DH but because I’m a really light sleeper. I wear it with added ear plugs and it’s changed my life.

I'd send him to another GP. Could be sleep apnea. Did you go to the appointment?

@user1471462634 A smart watch for a sleep study? So no leads attached to the skull, chest, face? For an in clinic study there’s leads attached to legs as well to detect things like restless legs.

For those who have snoring partners that have encountered useless doctors please get them to go to a different one for a second opinion. Snoring is a potentially serious and fatal health condition. I stop breathing so many times per hour that death is a possibility. I have severe sleep apnoea. With a CPAP I breathe properly all night, don’t wake with a headache, don’t have to pee multiple times overnight, and don’t have a sore throat from snoring.

For those with partners who didn’t like wearing a CPAP, the partners need to stick at it. It took me months to get used to wearing it all night. I’d take it off in my sleep. Adjusting the settings, like a long slow ramp up in pressure and optimising the air temp and humidity, helped. Getting the right mask or nasal prongs and correctly adjusted headgear makes an enormous difference. Initially I was to aim for 4 hours of CPAP use per night to get a clinical effect from it. Once I had that I extended the time I wore it each night until I couldn’t fall asleep without it and slept the whole night with it on.

My DH snores extremely loudly. Doesn’t matter whether he is on his back or side. For him, we have tried nose strips, throat spray from Boots, mouth guards to adjust jaw, and various pillows. He’s also been to the GP who advised to lose some weight, but that didn’t work either. I’ve tried the sleep headbands/white noise but they do NOT drown out loud snoring. I have tried every earplug going, the best ones are the yellow and red ones from Amazon (I’ll try to find a link). But they still don’t cancel out the racket.

The only thing that works is sleeping in different rooms, which I’ve been doing since the start of this year as I’d had enough and had chronic insomnia. It has taken a while to retrain my sleep pattern but now I get an amazing nights sleep and we’re both happier.

As for holidays, I’ve made it clear that we’re not able to sleep in the same bed/room any longer. It’s not a holiday if I can’t sleep. Next year we’re going away to a villa so we can have separate rooms - he wanted to stay in a hotel for a few nights but we couldn’t get separate rooms so I said no. He wasn’t happy but I think it has made him realise that his snoring means we will have to take that into consideration for any plans to travel. Unfortunately, I’d have loved to buy a motorhome, there is no way I’m sleeping in a tiny space with that appalling noise going on.

So, I guess what I’m saying is, what have you tried already and if nothing has worked then the only solution is separate sleeping spaces.

Loop ear plugs…literally changed my life!!! I highly recommend

Just looked for loop ear plugs there's a few different ones at different prices?

I had same on holiday, I was so sleep deprived. DP has a mouthguard and had used a spray, both work to a degree. Will he use them? No, only when I wake him up and ask him to.
He doesn’t even keep his routine dental and health appointments so doubt he’d go to a sleep clinic.
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@CookingFatCat that's very selfish. How'd he like not sleeping properly? Can you sleep separately?

@YumYa He was sleeping on thr sofa bed for a little while as I started a new job but it broke.
He goes to bed before me and I can hear him from downstairs.
He also farts incessantly, in his sleep.
@Chakhakhan77 yellow and pink earplugs from Amazon are good ,

@Chakhakhan77 The pink and yellow earplugs from Amazon are good.

If there are no other concerns i.e. stopping breathing whilst sleeping, being excessively tired during the day etc (in which case GP will refer to sleep clinic for sleep apnoea) then he needs to go to the dentist for a snore guard. I've recently got one and DH says I'm now completely silent. Saved our recent holiday when we were in a one room apartment, that's for sure!

Apart from getting him checked for sleep apnoea, which I’d recommend too, this is what works for us: my partner wears a custom made mouth guard at night, which is done by a specialist dentist and does treat sleep apnoea too, it helps a lot with his snoring. It’s not completely gone, so I went to the audiologist and got custom made silicone earplugs. Brilliant!

He should see his GP.
You should sleep in the spare room, ear plugs, whatever you need.
Don't feel guilty, you need your sleep.
Very much more common than you'd think. 💐

Go to a dentist and ask about sleep well. It's a mouth guard shaped to his mouth. Expensive but total game changer. Good luck.

DH decided to go off all junk food a few weeks ago. His snoring has stopped.

edited to say his snoring was frightening, so loud and I honestly thought he had sleep apnea. He went off junk to improve his general health. The snoring cure was a complete surprise but such a relief.

We were given a CPAP by the NHS for mild sleep apnea because of the mentally stress the snoring was causing.
Life changing! LIFE CHANGING, because it silences snoring totally. and also DP went from being tired in the day to feeling much more energetic.
You can buy one yourself - and ignore anyone saying, it’s need to be set up by a tech etc. because they’d don’t, you can do it yourself.
Recommend getting a sleep apnea check done- snoring is a MAJOR sign and it’s easy.

A have a friend who did this - his snoring could be heard from other floors! His mouth piece means he’s now silent.

I used Bolsen earplugs and asked the GP to give me sleeping tablets. You have my sympathy it is horrendous!

I have my own room when we go on holiday. It costs us more but the alternative is no sleep,arguing and misery...
At home, we have our own room too.

Sleep is precious.

I’m a terrible snorer & my husband regularly sleeps in spare room. If we’re away in same room he uses industrial ear defenders 🙈Have been checked & I haven’t got sleep apnea. An ENT surgeon I worked with suggested the Snorban mouth guard & I don’t snore at all with it..assuming I don’t spit it out! It adjusts position of jaw. Think it was around £40.

Mouth tape, I find helps

@Chakhakhan77 I have slept in a different bedroom from my DH for 20 years, since the DC were still at primary school! I had my own bedroom when we moved into a 4 bed house. Saved our marriage! I couldn't live on no sleep, (and I didn't get any sleep because of his muthfukkin' snoring like an old rhino!) As has been said, sleep deprivation is a form of torture, and is extremely bad (if it's long term,) for your mental, and physical health

As for your issue, the holidays. Our DC have left home now, and when DH and I book a trip together (abroad - or in the UK) we always book 2 single rooms. The last (1 week) holiday we went on via a travel agent cost us £89 each extra. To have a peaceful, relaxing night's sleep, I thought this was worth it. It's just the same trip, with a single person supplement. It doesn't cost you double of everything as you seemed to imply in your OP.

I could never share a bedroom again if my life depended on it. I am waaaaay too used to my lovely cosy OWN bedroom.

The combo that works for us is:

DP wears a nose thing that has a magnet on each side and opens up his nostrils. He also uses two pillows as he's a side sleeper and it keeps his neck in a better position.

I use the same earplugs a PP mentioned- the yellow and red ones from Amazon- plus a musicozy or similar headband with white noise playing (actually a mix of air, brown noise, heavy rain and violet noise!). I have eczema in my ears so the earplugs sometimes make them sore, so for a couple of nights I sleep on the sofa (or DP does) to give them a break.

It's extra hard because he works varying shifts but if your DH doesn't have sleep apnoea and need medical intervention then the above might work for you.

I do look forward to the day when we can move house and have two equally comfortable bedrooms though!

I feel your pain. My DH has bought nose bands and things like that (that don’t work) but refuses to go to GP. I have explained risks of stroke etc, he regularly stops breathing. I have had to wake him in the night to get him going again! He won’t go in the spare room so I tend to. Have told him I’m moving in there permanently when back at work. I have shouted, cried you name it! I do sleep with noise cancelling headphones but the hurt my ears and have to have music or talking book quite loud which then wales me up. He also goes for several wees in the night which wakes me and I sometimes don’t go back to sleep at all. Will try those pink and yellow plugs for when I move in to spare room, you can hear him all over the house.

Google Mandibular Device for Snoring. They take a bit of getting used to for the wearer, but they do work. It makes the difference between me able to share a bed and get reasonable sleep and it being totally impossible.