WhatsApp the craziest things your MIL has said?

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My DD, 1 at the time, had the slightest runny nose, a little sneeze and MIL screeched, “You better call the Doctor and demand you get seen this afternoon! You better had, or you’ll have social services at your door for neglect!” That sneeze never transpired into a cold….. But whats the craziest thing your MIL has said? This is NOT a MIL bashing thread, but it perplexes me that woman says the darndest things, but thats just who she is as a person! I do love her, she just confuses me.

My MIL was horrible. She was extremely religious in a fringy evangelical way, came from a weird and very rural family and had untreated/undiagnosed mental health problems. When I became pregnant with what was her first grandchild the very first thing she said, to my OH as if I wasn’t there, was ‘Is it yours?’. She then took almost no interest in my DS or any subsequent grandchildren of my OHs siblings. She was spectacularly racist about my SILs fiancée now husband to the point of refusing to go to the wedding. When another BIL had an accident that gave him facial injuries she insisted that instead of plastic surgery to fix some issues he’d even left with he should turn to prayer.

My FIL regularly wangs on about how much my kids look like him as a child. All to do with the superior family genes apparently. He’s my OHs stepdad so those genes really are something special.

I’ve had quite a few thrown at me. Some of my favs…”you’re a large size” when I was around 8 months pregnant with my third baby. “Why what’s wrong” when DH called her and asked would she be able to drop my DS home rather than us coming to collect him after I had just got out of hospital from deliverying my baby who was a late miscarriage. “Do you really like those?” About my cluster of ear piercing infront of all DHs family. Charmer…

I think it's a lot more with very unreasonable expectation from many of the MIL from hell - not all, but most.

Couple get together, child-free, busy and making the most of their time. Often see the in-laws a few times a year, but don't know them much more than they know the neighbours.
Then a baby arrives, and these kind of MIL expect to barge in and be intrusive with a fragile mother who barely knows her.

Of course it will clash.

I actually think that many DILs don’t even realise the double standards they have between their own mum and their mother in law! The latter can never win, just look at the thousands of MIL hating threads..

Omg - I think I am a decent host but not once in my life have I heated the plates!

Well seeing as though ny own mother died before I married, you may be right, I made the massive massive mistake of trying to hold my MIL up to the same standard as my mother , massive massive mistake, the shock when i found out actually she was in a complete different field compared to my own decent human being of a mother

“Have some gin, it cleans your womb out, that’s why the prostitutes drink it.”

She was a barmaid in a particularly rough pub…and batshit.

Ha! Nice one!

They’re allowed to have double standards. I don’t have a clue how often my DIL sees her parents. I really don’t care. I’m just happy to have a great relationship with her and my son anyway. I’m not her mum, she has one, I’m his.

I have great respect for you for this! Wonderful mothering! My MIL screamed down the phone at me that I was making a huge difference between her and my own family, all the while she had unlimited access to my children (because I was far too soft) whilst my own mother is in her grave, erm excuse me? Your jelous of a dead woman? Nice sure you have every right to be upset 🙄

Serious question , rather than having this bashed as a MIL thread and some victim blaming coming through, is anyone actually aware of a nice MIL support group or forum or thread?

I had a very difficult relationship with my MIL and she made my life miserable for many years.

It's still true that specifically inviting negative comments about MILs as a group buys into an unpleasant (and arguably misogynistic) narrative about this particular relationship.

@GreenDogDoti had this too. Every positive attribute about my DC is because of a likeness to her or DH wider family.

but women who dont have horrid MIL’s are not here in the first place. People who contribute to these discussions genuinely (i would hope!) have had a traumatic experience with their mother in law because its a shared lived experience. Not everyone has a bad mother in law, and if they dont thats great. This isnt about categorising MILs into a large group of crazy. Its asking people if they have a poor one, has she said some crazy stuff and oh good its not just mine then!

When DH refused to pledge his life to Jesus, as no 1 priority, even above wife (me) and children, Mil blamed me for influencing. 'She's only here for the money,' she told DH. Btw, there is NO MONEY. Hilarious. She softened in extreme old age, just before 'Jesus ' came for her, which was nice.

She bought me a bag of salt and pepper crickets as a Christmas stocking filler. She does stocking presents for us all every year, and she tries to make them a “surprise”.

I emptied them out onto the M11 for the badgers in the drive home

(not littering because badgers /dead insects)

Why MILs? Why not just anyone in your family?

I'm sorry for your friend that's really sad but i just burst out laughing it's so funny.

Ive said up thread, because in my situation my MIL was the main problem, I also said, if you have a crazy FIL/BIL/SIL by all means share your experience. I started this thread because my MIL has seriously affected my mental health, NOT my FIL not my BIL not my Aunt not my uncle not my sister etc etc….if I had a difficult FIL I would start a thread whats the craziest thing your FIL has said? But I dont, I have a good FIL

No, because nice MILs can’t exist!

No one is stopping you to start a thread about your "crazy" brother

They do exist though. Some of my friends have wonderful mothers in law, my brother has a lovely mother in law. I think I typed that wrong, I mean a nice support forum or thread for DIL’s who have a terrible MIL!

Why are people trying to derail? If you don't like the subject it's not compulsory to join in.
My late MIL was a nice woman, very quiet and private so we didn't get close but were friendly and i think that suited us both.
Fucking SIL on the other hand is as awful as they come. One of her dds even moved to Australia she is that horrible. We haven't had anything to do with her and her family for nearly 20 years but unfortunately dh brother died last year and we were all going to the funeral and i was a bit apprehensive because she has a grandson who is prone to violence which she encourages. Luckily both our sons wanted to attend and as they are both over 6ft and can look intimidating they escorted their dad and a few glances were exchanged but they behaved and we left straight after the service. Shocking that some people behave like that.

I’m really sorry to hear that. You deserve better x