WhatsApp the craziest things your MIL has said?

[Summerends1]

• WHATS Not whatsapp (thanks predictive text!) 😅

My DD, 1 at the time, had the slightest runny nose, a little sneeze and MIL screeched, “You better call the Doctor and demand you get seen this afternoon! You better had, or you’ll have social services at your door for neglect!” That sneeze never transpired into a cold….. But whats the craziest thing your MIL has said? This is NOT a MIL bashing thread, but it perplexes me that woman says the darndest things, but thats just who she is as a person! I do love her, she just confuses me.

Both my ex MIL and ex FIL were batshit in different ways, although FIL was nicer, and generally just a bit oblivious. When we were first together she used to give me hassle for not ironing my exDHs shirts properly or not feeding him enough. Needless to say I put her right about the fact I don’t iron, and rarely cook, lol. She only had sons, no daughters, and thought the sun shone out of their arses. I was constantly amazed at how awesome she found some extremely mediocre men..

Some posters seem really scared to find quotes of what they've said themselves, aren't they? 😂

I have no quote to add, I just nod, smile and completely ignore what my MIL says or writes, I just reply "thank you, hope you are well" to any whatsapp message, so I have absolutely no idea what crazy thing she might come up with.

Haha, my mother used to come out with this when my teenage DDs started wearing crop tops. "They should be wearing a vest to keep their kidneys warm". My DDs just looked at her in horror at the thought of wearing a vest 🤣

Not really crazy but mine said i should feel embarrassed because my exclusively breastfed 2 year old had a harmless habit of putting his hand on my other breast for comfort while feeding. I was livid!

"do you think you could manage a girl" when we announced our first pregnancy. er, I'll try my best 😂

These threads always make me sad for having a boy and maybe becoming a MIL one day ….

Is that not the purpose of the thread? To sneer at and malign mothers of sons?
I wasn't actually being serious. I also have two sons. I'm just making the point that MiL are not a subset of women known for their weird, nasty and stupid behaviour.
Up to 80% of mothers have sons. Most of these sons will make them a MiL one day. Yet always there's this constant clamouring to belittle and mock them.
Given MiL is a catagory most mothers will join at some point, it's a bit self sabotaging imo.

“It’s your fault my son has flu because you’ve made him help out with the baby. He works, he shouldn’t have to do anything with the baby”.

What has been the most stupid and unhinged thing you have said @Summerends1

MIL questioned me repeatedly about my alcohol intake during pregnancy. As it happened, I didn't drink a drop (I know there is a big difference between a glass of wine here and there, and binge drinking on a regular basis though) and I don't think she's ever seen me have more than one or two drinks at a time prior to pregnancy. When we asked her why she kept asking this, she said that many children are affected by foetal alcohol syndrome and it's a very real concern. YES BUT WHAT DOES THAT HAVE TO DO WITH ME??!!

Not a MIL, but she was my dad's MIL!
My grandmother was a horrible woman. My cousin and his partner lived together, they just weren't married, when they had their son. He was the first great grandchild and everyone was thrilled, except grandmother, who never spoke to them again because they weren't married. Apparently they were disgusting and the child would have no surname.
The interesting thing is that when the old dragon died, we discovered she'd been 6 months pregnant when she married grandad! She'd lied about the year of her marriage. She wasn't always against pre-marital sex!

“Why are you breastfeeding when you can just give a bottle. My daughter had twins and she gave them only bottles with formula. She knows best so you should do it too!”

-Please note SIL was pulled up by a Doc as her children became grossly overweight due to too much formula and this delayed their walking.

“Why don’t you give your child a pacifier/dummy? My daughter always did and her children slept so well”.

Both of SIL’s twins now need braces due to front teeth protruding due to excessive use of dummy. She regrets it.

Thank God I ignored MIL! 😅

I think my MIL pontificating that children should have mothers at home, and that it was very detrimental for them to have selfish mothers going to work etc. was a big one.

She stayed surprisingly quiet when I finally asked how she felt having raised a son who was such a bad father he worked full time and was away quite a lot for work 😂

This is my favourite.

Not MIL but my own lovely but slightly bonkers mum.

On hearing that a friend had been involved in an accident and they had to operate and amputate his leg from above the knee, asked in all seriousness if they had managed to save his foot?!?

Turns out that she thought if you had your leg amputated from above the knee that they just took out the section from your knee and your hip - She had never really thought about it and just assumed they just stitched the rest of the leg and foot back on - but never thought to question whey there were not masses of people wondering about with one leg shorter than the other walking about (or in circles if you think about it)

Ha ha, not a clue where this old saying has come from but I can confidently say he never got a kidney cold lol

Years ago, when I first met my now-DH, he was still living at home. One day I borrowed a jumper of his, as we were in his mums garden and it was cold...

MIL: Oh, I was going to put that jumper on but it's far too big for me. Fits you nicely though" 🙃

New mothers of baby boys don’t yet realise that THEY themselves might be a dreaded MIL one day…. and her DIL will start threads about them.

MIL only become MIL from hell when they show no respect for boundaries and their DIL, and worst, blame them when their own son is not making all the efforts towards an unreasonable relationship.

MIL who give the same respect to their DIL as they give anyone else don't tend to have problems.

Why? 😂 just don’t be a bad person in general and you’ll be fine you really will

Sneering at mothers of sons is not the purpose of this thread. Its a sharing space for DILs who have been through hell and back to share some reasons why. In my own personal experience it was my MIL, my FIL is a great person! If you have a batshit FIL/ SIL/ BIL then by all means please share your experience if it helps, if you don’t have that experience then there is no need to comment. I was bullied and lied about for years by my MIL and I am in no way going to try and let others condone her behaviour in any way.

Exactly. I would never dream about lying, steamrolling over boundaries and being verbally abusive to any other woman, yet MIL’s should be able to get away with it..why exactly?

😂 I feel for you. My mother in law told me i didn’t have a hope in hell of birthing any babies I was far to weak and skinny to manage it! Turns out I birthed both in under 4hrs - imagine!

Exactly, thank you. I think one of the reasons, apart from the extremely bad behaviour, that new mothers feel upset by their mils is because having a newborn is such a vulnerable time both emotionally and physically for a mother. Unsolicited advice and criticism may be well intentioned, but is unwelcome. Wait to be asked. SS will not come knocking.
So if mothers of sons can try to remember that when their grandchildren are born maybe less threads like this will appear.

Unfortunately, that's not always the case. Because whether a woman treats other people respectfully is a matter of her personality not her role or life stage.
So these MiLs who show no respect were once simply younger versions of themselves, and were some other poor woman's DiL, showing their own MiL no respect.
If you are the MiL of a DiL like that, then it doesn't matter how respectful you are, you'll still have problems.