To have moved her baby?

[EllyRoff]

In asda this morning. Woman has her head stuck in the reduced freezer grabbing everything she wants. She has parked her trolly - with baby in it - across the freezer so nobody else can get in it. I didn’t actually want to be in it but I did need the freezer next to it - which her trolly was also preventing from opening. I said “excuse me”. No response. I said it louder - no response. At this point an elderly woman came up behind her and tried to get in the freezer, around the trolly - no good - around the woman - woman positions herself in front of old woman. Old woman says “excuse me” - no response. She taps her on the shoulder - no response.

So - not willing to stand there like an absolute clown waiting for her to allow me access to the freezer I simply move her trolly gently out of the way. Suddenly she’s aware of the world around her and says “what are you doing??” I say “getting in to this freezer”. She says “you can’t just go moving someone’s baby!” (Hearing problems ruled out!!) I say “I tried to get your attention but you didn’t respond. Elderly woman then says “EXCUSE ME! I want to get in this freezer!” Woman blames ME for the delay saying I moved her baby 😂

WIBU to move the baby (inches!)

Stand by her, fold your arms, stand with your legs apart in defensive stance. Keep up till she is finished and sees you. Then say: Finally!

It’s really not that deep.

My thought, reading your post was a bigger issue. You spoke to her several times, the other woman also spoke to her. My thinking is how safe was her child if she didn't hear 2 people speaking to her. What if her child had a problem while in the trolley?

Oh, she heard them. She was just choosing to ignore them.

A trolley on its own with only groceries in? I'd have sent it flying down the aisle! A trolley with a baby in it? No I'm sorry I wouldn't have moved it even only the few inches you did.
However I would've talked to the baby and said along the lines of I'm sorry you have such a rude mummy who thinks its ok to block the way I hope you have other influences so you learn manners as you grow...

This is good advice, but to OP. Just go and do your other shopping and come back when the other shopper is done.

So he was racist? Sorry that happened to you. That poor baby growing up with that scum.

At what age would this be unacceptable though?

If it was a toddler in a buggy would you have done the same?

What about a toddler in a wheelchair?

Or a teen or adult in a wheelchair with a carer?

I don’t think what you did was the worse thing I’ve ever heard but I personally would have waited for her to be done/asked again.

A teen or adult in a wheelchair, I would've asked them if I could just pop in for a second to get a yogurt.

I would've moved a baby/toddler in a buggy myself after being ignored by the parent twice. I would've asked first like OP though.

She’s not? She’s just saying maybe the woman was being a bit selfish. Maybe other people wanted to have a look and she’s in there long enough to be ignoring people.

This. I think moving a baby is way over the line. Moving someone's trolley I have no issues with

Seems I am a minority, but I'd never move a trolley with someones child in it 😱 i'd rather move on and come back

Not sure if I’d move a trolley with a baby in it but I get fed up with other shoppers being totally oblivious to anyone. Blocking shelves etc. It’s usually a couple stood together gazing at the ready meals or whatever and blocking everyone else from
getting anywhere near them.
Last werk in Asda a couple were holding hands sauntering down an aisle in front of me so I couldn’t get past. I sighed when they finally rounded the corner and the man immediately started on a rant as to what the problem was, to which I retorted they’d blocked the aisle because they couldn’t keep their hands off each other for two minutes.
He called me a c**t, and when I asked if he considered that appropriate language to use in front of a child - they had a boy of about eight or nine with them, he launched into “it’s none of your f-ing business.”
I had the last word though, commenting to the woman - who hadn’t said a word - that she’d got a right prize there.
People are ignorant and self-centred, either because they really don’t give a shit or are too thick to realise they’re in the bloody way.

But you haven't said why?

Why wouldn't you move it a few inches so you could reach into the fridge and grab a yoghurt, having tried repeatedly to get the mother's attention?

It's someone's CHILD. Does that need a why? My why is, I feel extremely uncomfortable moving a trolley with a baby in it that isn't mine, for any reasons, unless that child was in danger. It's just a freezer, it's not that deep, I can walk around the aisle and come back to it. An inch or a meter, I'm not moving a tiny human away from it's parent.

Yes it does need a why because "It's someone's CHILD" still doesn't answer the question?

The 'tiny human's' big human had her head in the freezer anyway, you wouldn't be ripping the child from her breast 🙄