To have moved her baby?

[EllyRoff]

In asda this morning. Woman has her head stuck in the reduced freezer grabbing everything she wants. She has parked her trolly - with baby in it - across the freezer so nobody else can get in it. I didn’t actually want to be in it but I did need the freezer next to it - which her trolly was also preventing from opening. I said “excuse me”. No response. I said it louder - no response. At this point an elderly woman came up behind her and tried to get in the freezer, around the trolly - no good - around the woman - woman positions herself in front of old woman. Old woman says “excuse me” - no response. She taps her on the shoulder - no response.

So - not willing to stand there like an absolute clown waiting for her to allow me access to the freezer I simply move her trolly gently out of the way. Suddenly she’s aware of the world around her and says “what are you doing??” I say “getting in to this freezer”. She says “you can’t just go moving someone’s baby!” (Hearing problems ruled out!!) I say “I tried to get your attention but you didn’t respond. Elderly woman then says “EXCUSE ME! I want to get in this freezer!” Woman blames ME for the delay saying I moved her baby 😂

WIBU to move the baby (inches!)

Maybe you should have shrieked, "I'M JUST MOVING YER TROLLEY OUT OF THE WAY, HUN!" in her ear.

Bet she'd have reacted then.

And?

Why does everyone else's convenience trump that of the woman shopping who reached the fridge first? Is no one teaching their children to wait their turn anymore?
By all means, I think if someone is chatting to a friend they've bumped into, on their phone etc then they're inconveniencing people by not moving. Actively retrieving items out of the fridge then people should be waiting their turn to get in that space.

The OP was after a different fridge. There was no reason for the woman to be blocking access to a fridge she wasn't even looking in.

Is no one teaching their children to be aware of and show consideration for those around them anymore?

It's just not nice is it to sneer like that. Who cares if it was reduced or 'the finest/best/whatever'

I think this thread says far about the op than it does about the poor mum buying reduced items.

I think most people try to be more courteous to elderly people in supermarkets. There's a higher chance they're not going to find it easy being on their feet for a long time or able to reach around people/squeeze past as confidently if not steady on their feet.

Oh behave 😂🫠

I’m not seeing the judgment

Exactly this. If someone is in my way in the supermarket I hover for a few seconds. If they appear to just be 'in the way' (ie chatting to someone in front of where I want to be), I say excuse me please. If they are actively shopping, they got there first and I either wait patiently or move on to somewhere else before returning to that freezer/shelf when it's free.

I'd say you're the entitled one here OP, assuming you could push in 'because I only wanted a yoghurt'. It doesn't matter what you wanted, she was there first.

I also wouldn't rule out a hearing impairment just because she was able to hold a conversation when looking at you. There's every chance she genuinely didn't hear you when she wasn't looking at you.

In your shoes, if she didn't move/acknowledge me on the second excuse me I would have just carried on to the next aisle and returned a few minutes later for my yoghurt. It really wasn't worth the agro. She may have overreacted by claiming you were moving her baby, when it was clearly just the trolley the baby was in, but moving anything belonging to someone else, without their permission, is a passive aggressive move.

You were too impatient, YABU.

This woman has obviously learned that nobody wants to move a trolley with a baby in it, so the baby has become a way for her to hog stuff.

Someone tapped her on the shoulder though? I can tell you, anyone with a hearing impairment (and I am deaf myself) is particularly sensitive to being tapped.

I agree with you. I also think it depends on age of the baby. And I don’t think we need to live in a world where one person is always absolutely right.

She didn’t hear or was out of it or being rude and didn’t respond. She has a baby so I’d assume fuzzy head from a bad night. So you were delayed and impatiently moved the baby and trolley but in a way you would have been fine with someone moving your baby. So maybe you weren’t wrong OP but you weren’t right either. I will defend the other woman for yelling. Totally normal response to someone moving your baby.

and why not - using a baby as a barrier isnt on

I think the point was... perhaps others might want some reduced items?
We're not supposed to get pissed off with people blocking access, ignoring your reasonable requests and taking all the reduced items?

Personally I think tapping anyone is pretty rude in itself. I would absolutely hate to be touched by a stranger in such a way in the supermarket. Unless you have an urgent need (wanting to quickly grab a yoghurt is not urgent), OP should have simply moved on when excuse me didn't work. People are in too much of a rush these days and that leads to rudeness (tapping someone actively shopping to get them to move, moving someone else's trolley etc).

I'm honestly not seeing the rudeness in 'blocking' the fridge next to her with her trolley that other people are. Where is her trolley meant to go? If she moved it horizontally across the aisle it would be blocking everyone. Of course her trolley is going to block a fridge while she is using the one next to it. Does nobody have any patience anymore?

YANBU
I was in the same supermarket yesterday (probably different branch - maybe not) and there were 2 women along with several kids each and trollies blocking the WHOLE aisle having a catch up
Several times I said excuse me - weaving around adults then kids .
Just brushed past them in the end
Time and a place !!!!!

Suspect she was ignoring both you and the other woman because she wrongly assumed you wanted a go at the discounted stuff she was blocking. She was fully aware of you ... obvious as she reacted when you moved her cart slightly.

YANBU

Please stop typing 'grab'/'grabbing'! 🤮

Yanbu
She deliberately ignored polite requests and deliberately blocked it so no one else could look.

I could be wrong, but I took it to mean the woman with the trolley was blocking it for other people, not judging her for buying reduced things! Maybe the older woman wanted to access the reduced section as well.

It's rude to block everyone else's way and ignore them when they try to attract your attention.

You're welcome to respond to rude behaviour by being a doormat if that's what floats your boat but others are under no obligation to do likewise.

Her trolley could have gone wherever the OP moved it to.

Exactly. Good for you. Not unreasonable at all. She would have pissed me off.

Ummm what? So if I sit down in the train, put my work backpack on the seat in front and my handbag on the seat next to me, would you politely stand?

Of course her trolley is going to block a fridge while she is using the one next to it. Does nobody have any patience anymore?'

Apparently not going by this thread.

Just wait people! Stop your pushing and your tutting.

She wasn't being judgemental about people buying reduced things.