To have moved her baby?

[EllyRoff]

In asda this morning. Woman has her head stuck in the reduced freezer grabbing everything she wants. She has parked her trolly - with baby in it - across the freezer so nobody else can get in it. I didn’t actually want to be in it but I did need the freezer next to it - which her trolly was also preventing from opening. I said “excuse me”. No response. I said it louder - no response. At this point an elderly woman came up behind her and tried to get in the freezer, around the trolly - no good - around the woman - woman positions herself in front of old woman. Old woman says “excuse me” - no response. She taps her on the shoulder - no response.

So - not willing to stand there like an absolute clown waiting for her to allow me access to the freezer I simply move her trolly gently out of the way. Suddenly she’s aware of the world around her and says “what are you doing??” I say “getting in to this freezer”. She says “you can’t just go moving someone’s baby!” (Hearing problems ruled out!!) I say “I tried to get your attention but you didn’t respond. Elderly woman then says “EXCUSE ME! I want to get in this freezer!” Woman blames ME for the delay saying I moved her baby 😂

WIBU to move the baby (inches!)

LOL

Look, it's quite simple. If you can do what you need to do without getting in other people's way, it's rude and entitled not to do so.

There’s no sign of her being judgemental here.

no it doesn't imply greediness to most sane people. It implies she is only looking to see which of the items on offer she would need and could afford..

How is that in any way similar? Loading your trolley while shopping with limited space is unavoidable, people should wait their turn. This situation is more similar to rattling on a toilet door stall knowing someone is using it and then berating them when they exit, would you do that?

Or implies she was in a hurry, or knows that the hoards arrive as soon as the reduced food is put in.

Wheeled halfway down the shop???

Think a fair bit of poetic licence is being used there!

The description sounds as though OP moved the trolley less than half a metre (perfectly fine) and not halfway down the shop (definitely not fine).

Also it’s not at all like moving someone in a wheelchair. My friend is a wheelchair user and unbelievably people do, on occasions, move him out the way. It’s incredibly insulting. I very much doubt the baby in this scenario was insulted in the least!

All these people who seemingly have all day to do their shopping that they can wait around until someone deigns to move.
YANBU but I'm enjoying the mental gymnastics from some on here who feel the need to find an excuse for her ignorant behaviour because babies or whatever

I think the issue is that there is a limited supply of reduced things and that there is room for 2 or 3 people to look. No shame in doing so. Blocking the access so you can take the best things, ignoring polite “excuse me”s and actively preventing other people from looking is out of order. It is this bit that symbolises selfishness and greed, not the wish to purchase reduced items. If there were unlimited supply it wouldn’t be a problem. But there’s often only one or two of things and this woman was obviously making sure she got first dibs. This is the greedy part.

People can do their shopping I whatever order they want, name of Christ

It's similar because the woman in the OP was blocking a space she wasn't actually using (the fridge with the yoghurt in it) because it was more convenient for her than moving her stuff out of the way.

Awkward. You might want to check a dictionary.

Oddly aggressive. Where have I said she has to do it in a set order? Surely I'm proposing the opposite? Unless it was the last item on her list, it was not essential to grab the yoghurt then and there if someone else was already there. She simply could have come back for it after getting other bits?

If it was that important for her to grab the yoghurt then and there (as you're right, she is entitled to shop in whatever order she pleases), then she needs to accept she may have to wait if someone else is 'blocking' her way because they're busy at the next freezer.

And yet you're still not telling me where her trolley is meant to go while she's accessing the freezer next door?

How dare her trolley block a freezer, rather than the alternative of sticking it out horizontally and blocking off the whole aisle!

I'd love to know where you park your trolley when reaching into a freezer? Maybe you climb in it so you're only blocking the freezer you're using, rather than the one next to it?

Where the OP moved it to?

It could have just taken a, sorry, won't be a moment. It's very rude to just ignore people that you can hear speaking to you.

I just wanted to say thank you!

I really needed a laugh today and I honestly belly laughed at this!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Me too, it really cheered me up. The mental image of walking off with baby and leaving him 3 aisles away for the sheer hell of it 😂

I've said about five times now that she could have put it wherever the OP moved it to. Or alternatively only blocked the one fridge rather than two.

It sounds like OP only popped in to get a yogurt. She didn't want anything else.

It also sounds like the baby's mother wrongly assumed OP wanted to access the freezer she was using which is why she ignored OP and refused to move her trolley.

So sticking out in the aisle? If a trolley isn't flush to the shelf/freezer it's sticking out, which is arguably causing more of a blockage to anyone wanting to wheel a trolley past. If you have a trolley sticking out on one side and people stood opposite, reaching into the opposite freezer, it leaves very little room for anyone to wheel a trolley or wheelchair through the gap. I get why the trolley was pushed flush to the freezer.

I totally understand that the woman in question was being rude to ignore people but I'm baffled by how many people apparently see parking up a trolley as blocking people. I still maintain this incident likely took place over a short period of time. OP sounds incredibly impatient to me. You'd have to be to physically move someone else's trolley with their child in it. OP wasn't unreasonable to say excuse me in the first place, in the hope of jumping in, but they were unreasonable to take it as far as physically moving the other person's child when there were alternatives (like simply walking away and coming back). The woman in question overreacted by shouting but that's likely just the protective mother bear instinct coming out. She clocked OP moving her trolley with her child in it. In that split second she didn't know what was happening, OP could have been trying to make off with her child for all she knew. It was an overreaction, but I get it.

I thought she was judgmental about the woman hogging the reduced items and preventing anyone else from getting a look-in

It’s that new baby entitlement.

One of the reasons I hate Liverpool is because of the time I was stood waiting to join a queue at a Sainsbury’s local, bloke with buggy blocking the entry to the queue, “excuse me” several times, totally ignored, so I stepped round the buggy to join the queue and he went off on one, no buggy or baby touching took place. “Don’t you fucking touch my pram, don’t you fucking go near my baby, who the fuck do you think you are going near my fucking baby” I tried to defuse the situation and he said “fuck off back to where you came from” - that will be West Yorkshire then, born and bred, just over the hills.

TBF, the staff were lovely and concerned, but it left a sour taste for years. I get the mamma bear instinct, but seriously, get a grip.

Ha haaa!! Good to see that some PPs in here have a sense of humour 😅

Because the dictionary says it does?