To think girls shouldn’t wear sandals in the park?

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It’s been a beautiful day here so I was at the park. DS was on the climbing which is huge, designed for older kids, not toddlers.

There were so many girls crying and panicking getting across it because their sandals were getting trapped. Their feet were sliding out of them because of their angles, and their dresses were hindering them.

AIBU to think girls who are going to park should be put in sensible trainers and trousers? The boys were managing with ease because they were suitably dressed. A substantial amount of the girls were struggling because of what they were wearing.

How many girls were crying and panicking about this? I have never seen this.

My eldest went through a phase of wearing a party dress everywhere when she was about 3-4, don’t think she wore sandals with it but it didn’t hinder her. She’s now a decent competitive climber, and to be fair sometimes chooses to climb in a skort.

My kids all wore sandals in the summer. Hiking ones for my boys and sturdy teva style but leather ones for DD. They never wore trainers in summer, too sweaty

https://www.clarks.com/en-ie/girls/girls-sandals/g_sandals_ie-c

i wouldn’t have thought twice about DD wearing any of these in the park, they look ideal. Would likely have bought the 2 buckle navy ones

Heaven help those children of yesteryear who used to run about playing blind man’s buff, in sandals! Unsuitable footwear, and they couldn’t see… such peril.

Mind you, I get mildly annoyed when I see car drivers getting in or out of their cars wearing flip flops: the danger of that is known.

But they do have an open work upper, that's why they are sandals.

Running on flat ground is not the same as trying to climb and navigate climbing frames though. And by 'yesteryear' I guess you're talking about sturdy old-fashioned sandals that buckle/strap firmly round the feet, not the kind that can flip off or your feet easily slip through, which is what the OP is talking about.

Or… girls aren’t allowed to just get on with their lives, instead they’re held back having their clothing choices policed, interests dismissed/reduced (“You can’t want to go on the climbing frame AND have a princess dress”); meanwhile boys are left to get on with it. It’s telling the OP claims to have never seen boys in inappropriate clothing: they do, they’re in silly things all the time, just no one stops and invents scenarios of mass numbers of boys unable to climb. It’s only girls who are policed and made to change their behaviour.

(“You can’t want to go on the climbing frame AND have a princess dress”)
No one's saying that The OP's point is that girls in dresses and sandals were finding the climbing frame difficult because of them.

the OP claims to have never seen boys in inappropriate clothing: they do, they’re in silly things all the time So you're saying she's made it up that the boys were suitably dressed? Why do you say that?
no one stops and invents scenarios of mass numbers of boys unable to climb
And again, why do you say that the OP has invented seeing a lot of girls unable to climb?

No they don't, they have a solid upper with two small holes! The entire sole is connected to the upper.

The holes on T bar shoes don’t make them sandals 😂

That’s now.

This series of posts began ‘years ago…’

When guide kind of shows definitely were known as sandals, differentiated from your winter lace-ups.

And girls and boys clothing was not so polarised.

And actually the young girls in the unsuitable footwear were very much for exploring the site, and interested.

As were my kids at that age, and me before them.

Sandals and dresses just get in the way and are not practical for play on climbing equipment at all. Agree that girls sandals are usually flimsy with no grip.
It's the same as dresses in soft play, they just get in the way and trip them up/ get caught. From my dd being about 6 months she's mainly been in leggings and trainers, basically practical clothes because we are usually at a park or field.

I wouldn’t even waste your time, it’s like trying to tell someone the sky is blue - I’ve come
to the conclusion that poster is either on the wind up or 🦇💩

I'm not really clear what the relevance is of the side argument about the definitional boundary of sandal but I still think it's mad how much vitriol has been spent on a topic as innocuous as a trip to the park. Fair enough to point out the general flimsiness of shoes marketed to girls and campaign for better options, but to demonise parents for "allowing" their kids to wear them to the park still feels way ott to me. It's a kids' playground, not a treacherous expedition.

I don't think sandals are ideal.

But I think they are at least strapped on, which is more than can be said for crocs.

Also, I often feel this about wellies in the winter. Very practical for getting there but not the best for climbing.

But life is not always ideal and I certainly wouldn't turn down an impromptu park visit simply because my dc was in sandals (or wellies). (Wouldn't be in crocs as I think they are dangerous full stop - but it's up to their mothers if they think they are fine.)

Theres alway one…

OP is making a point about H & S, not legislating what girls are allowed to wear. I understood them to mean that only girls in this case (but maybe more frequently in general) tend to wear sandals.

How you interpreted the OP in that way is bizarre.

Actually there’s not one. I completely agree and loathe OPs sexist attitude.

I can’t even imagine being that miserable of a person that whilst in a playground with your family instead of enjoying watching them play/play with them you’re watching random little girls judging their footwear, judging their parents and worst of all judging them for wanting to wear dresses/skirts and sandals in summer.

Agree. Have you read the thread? The op was definitely legislating about what girls were allowed to wear and vilifying their parents for not doing the same. Health and safety concerns about sandals in a children's playground are overblown. My DD did break her arm once at a playground but I assure you she was wearing op approved attire. It was one of those things

OP was actually there and saw what was going on. None of us did.

“Legislating” 🤣🤣🤣
”Vilifying” 🤣🤣🤣

Hyperbole much?

She’s clearly touched a nerve with some, though.

Noo not in the name of taste, but because I tire of seeing children yanking them back onto their feet after trying to climb or run in them.

Yes I came back to make this one point 😁

My girls and boys have both just been to the park in sandals. They've been wearing then pretty much all summer! I don't think they have any issues cycling/climbing/running in them. They've climbed all over rocks on the beach etc. But water drains out and they are easier for them to get on/off quickly.

Dresses i would agree are rather more of a hindrance.

Hrft, but I swear by old lady closed toe walking sandals and tears what my boy has too. If I had a girl she would have a pair too.
One pair the sole is a bit slippy for climbing, other pair fine, like trainers.

If its chilly he wears socks and sandals fortunately he's not fashion conscious yet.
If its very wet trainers or wellies. Lots of kids wear wellies alot and just slip them off at the playground.

The willingness of the female of the species to limit their freedom of movement and dexterity, from unsuitable restrictive clothing, horribly high heels, loose sandals to grotesquely long fake finger nails is astonishing to me. That adults do it to themselves is sad but it's their problem - remember the thoussnds of pairs of discarded women's shoes in New York in the aftermath of 911?
That children do it or have it done to them is an indication that appearance is more important than practicality even for the youngest of girls.
How very, vety sad.

The irony! 😂

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