To think girls shouldn’t wear sandals in the park?

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It’s been a beautiful day here so I was at the park. DS was on the climbing which is huge, designed for older kids, not toddlers.

There were so many girls crying and panicking getting across it because their sandals were getting trapped. Their feet were sliding out of them because of their angles, and their dresses were hindering them.

AIBU to think girls who are going to park should be put in sensible trainers and trousers? The boys were managing with ease because they were suitably dressed. A substantial amount of the girls were struggling because of what they were wearing.

I’ll reply to your deleted post OP

There are thousands of shitty shoes out there for boys too. I don’t have a daughter, I have a son. Sometimes he’s in crocs at the park and they’re not the best either but we’ll have stopped off after spending the day on the beach where he wears them to paddle. I’m not carrying different shoes around with me all day long. Sometimes they just have to manage while they have a wee play. Sometimes (the horror!!) I look to see him stumbling and he’s taken them off and stuck them on the wrong feet 🤷🏻‍♀️ Normally he wears barefoot shoes and boots. I don’t look down on the boys running about in light-up trainers from next with big thick inflexible soles and narrow toe boxes.

You are massively het up over trivial nonsense. The girls could have been chuffed to wear new sparkly sandals that they chose for a family birthday and the park was a little stop off. Or maybe they just insisted, the same way wee boys insist on sweating in the heat in a full spiderman costume sometimes.

Kids of the 90s remember suffering in jelly sandals. Why? Because we loved them. Kids wear lots of stupid shit and it’s really not the end of the world unless they are in jelly sandals or crocs 24/7.

Well, it was deleted, so I’m not sure how you know what it was. But it clearly broke the rules of this forum.

‘Oh they’re lovely darling. They’ll be perfect for Susie’s party and Jessica’s Christening. Shall we look for some for playing in now?’

We are the adults.

Responding as if your own posts aren’t being deleted as well 🙄

“Shall we stop off at the park on the way home from the party? Oh no you’re in your party dress and sandals. Oh well, fuck it, YOLO!”

I think this is actually the only reasonable reason to have kids in the park with such inappropriate shoes on. It’s the only one which makes any sense, anyway.

OP is judging other parents and making a massive deal about something that is non of her buisness. Maybe they passed the park on the way home from somewhere else, who cares?

There’s plenty of room for YOLO with young children. My son wanted to wear one blue and one yellow croc, a set of rosary beads, and to bring a steel tape measure and umbrella to the beach.

I couldn’t care less. He’s a kid and he’s loving every minute of it.

You have no idea what any of those little girls’ days have been like. Maybe they’re all falling out of their sandals left, right, and centre, and ideally they shouldn’t be in them… but maybe they love them. I remember wearing my Clark’s magic shoes to bed in the 90s, I was so in love with them.

It really, really doesn’t matter.

None of those things hinder your son though.

My summer footwear want as a child was not if I could wear sandals to the park (I hardly ever wore sandals), but to wear trainers without socks. My parents tried to persuade me otherwise, but I did it anyway.

If kids can climb in sandals, let them wear sandals. If I see children staggering in flip flops or crocs it’s none of my business.

I’m amused by the argument “is a t-bar shoe a sandal?”. And also that men from centuries past fought wars in sandals. Brian “I’m not the messiah!” lost his sandal when fleeing his followers, who saw it as a sign, and incidentally called it a “shoe”, despite being open-toed. Perhaps the Monty python script should have been “is it a shoe or a sandal”? instead of “should we follow the shoe, or the gourd?”.

Meh. It’s a fraction of their day on some climbing equipment and maybe next time they’ll choose not to wear them 🤷🏻‍♀️ Their parents won’t be pinning them down and forcing them on. At school they’ll play in the playground and do gym in sand shoes. I’m sure they all own a pair of trainers too. You’ve seen a snapshot moment of some girls in sandals. I know a boy who broke his leg going down a chute in normal trainers because the friction of the sole on the plastic caught his leg and bent it backwards. The boy running about the park last week in full spiderman costume probably could have had cooler clothing on and not a mask over his entire head impeding his vision. Again, meh 🤷🏻‍♀️

Thank you, his sandals were like those but in blue. I just think the grips on the bottom aren't great and the path was gravelly.

I hope they’re aren’t pinning them down (metaphorically of course).

It reminds me of my friends’ mother when I was a kid. Her two daughters would be told not to get their clothes dirty. My own goddaughter isn’t allowed to play on the sand at the park because she’d get her dress dirty. Just a lot of emphasis put on how the girls look rather than their ability to play.

I have known similar parents. Boys suffer too, being bollocked for getting their designer clothes dirty. That will hinder play and development more than a pair of sandals. The vast majority of people are not like this. Any child living with that has bigger problems than playing at the park in sandals.

I know what it was because I wrote it.....

Well, for one, you can't split the crotch...

For two, you get a nice cool breeze in this heat.

I do wonder how children ever manage to even walk in crocs

What are you actually talking about? I had plenty of t-bar shoes and Mary Janes as a kid and have a few now as an adult. My daughter has them in multiple colours. They are lovely shoes. However, they are not sandals and if you called them sandals as a child, you were wrong.

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/ˈsandl/
noun
plural noun: sandals
a light shoe with either an openwork upper or straps attaching the sole to the foot.

I have linked to a pair of closed toe sandals above.

That's just bad parenting and nothing to do with clothes. The magic thing about washing machines is that you can fit a dress in just as easily as shorts and t-shirts.

I'm sorry you associate with such shallow people, maybe get some better friends.

I get a bit cross about stuff like this. There is some element of sexism to it. The sandals and the dresses aren't an issue themselves... it's the style of them that can be. I am a long distance hiker and I wear sandals and a dress to hike and scramble in all summer. Because I find it much more comfortable to do that.
Of course the sandals I wear are sturdy and the dresses I wear are short and loose so I have full movement.

Another point to make is that people don't always plan their days out. Most times I'm in the park with the kids it's been spontaneous. They'll just be wearing whatever they put on for the day. Sometimes it's not the most appropriate thing they could be wearing to play in the park in.. so what??
I once took them to the park after a wedding and my son was in a 4 piece suit and dress shoes, my daughter in a full frock and sandals. Neither of them complained, they still had fun. They are kids!
My daughters both can dress themselves quite eccentrically too sometimes too.
My daughter once went to the park in a mermaid costume.
It just doesn't really matter does it.

Go to Thailand and check out the footwear of the scaffolders, roofers, builders people digging up the road, people climbing telegraph poles etc

I get your point because I'm a teacher (abroad in a very hot country), and have girls wearing sandals despite being told repeatedly not to,and tearing their toes up on the playground. However, it's not your problem 🤷🏻‍♀️

All the boys and girls around here wear Keen sandals or Natives. They're unisex.

Yes this is another reason girls get held back in life we are even dressed for failure from childhood