Stop being jealous of rich woman

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All this envy some of you have towards women married to rich men.
HE has the money not her if she's given up her job to look after the kids shes pretty much stuck can't even run away unless it's to live in a tent because he pays the rent and she has none of her own money. Technically could be starved by him because he's 100% in control of the finances.

Same goes for the kids actually just because they have a rich dad doesn't mean he isn't beating ten tons of shit out of them

So no "rich" women has access to her own money, savings, or assets then. You make it sounds like women don't work at all.

I really hate the ‘don’t be jealous becuase lots of awful things are probably happening to her’

why not ‘don’t be jealous, just work on watering your own garden without self soothing by imagining awful things befalling those more fortunate than you’

which one can do without lecturing other people about it

YABU because I'm not jealous.

The very rich women I know either work spectacularly long hours or they have to cope with a rich husband who is used to getting his own way. Or they inherited wealth and are neurotic from being sent to a school where they were required to be both beautiful and academically perfect.

I'm perfectly happy with my grammar school, 2:2, scruffy house, 9-5 and 'adequate' pension. Infinitely less stressy. 😊

That's really not my experience of MN at all. Most posters will absolutely advise not to leave yourself vulnerable, financial or otherwise, no matter how wealthy your husband is, precisely because they might end up not being good partners forever. Nobody on here wants to see a woman backed into a corner and MN usually rallies around posters who are.
Now to your other scenario, if someone on benefits is dating someone very rich at which point should they forfeit the benefits... I'm guessing that is the crux of your post.. for me, it's when you are living together, making a life together, sharing a household and all tasks and bills together.

If you don't work and you live off your husband's earnings then as someone once said, it's. Not. Your. Money.
My salary is my money because I work for it.

I'm not. But your post implied women are usually only rich because of their husbands? Not through hard work?

I couldn't care less if someone of either sex is rich. I just hope they pay their taxes and give something back to society because they care about the less fortunate.

I'm very privileged despite being a disabled benefits claimant. I have a roof over my head and can live my life with relative freedom. I don't live in a war torn country with extensive poverty and zero human rights.

So I count my blessings. As opposed to getting jealous.

It's rather disappointing that you seem to think women can only be rich by being associated with a man.

….also mention to SS re the children being beaten.

Come again??!!

That's not how it comes across. You never said "some" women, it sounds like you're talking about all. You also equate dating with moving in. If a couple is going to live together, they should talk about how bills should be split first, that's common sense.

I don’t think I’ve seen any jealously but I have seen people get frustrated with women who don’t work and their entire lives are dependent on a man.

Some posters are saying it’s joint money but it’s not fully.

If a man is verbally, emotionally or financially abusive then she cannot kick him out or ask him to leave.
Her only option would be to leave herself and without her own income where would she go.

Same with if he got seriously ill or sacked.

I think it’s so important that both adults have their own jobs and own money.
Even SAHP should have some sort of cushion to leave if they need to.

I don't understand this thread.

Rich women make their own money

If he really owns all the money OP they aren’t managing their wealth right

100% agree. There are other costs to pay, other than financial/money. I would rather work 60 hour week than be beholden or reliant on a man.

thanks I’ll let my rich husband know!!

Well you may not but there's plenty on here happy to report a woman for welfare fraud for not declaring a new partner straight away and exercising some caution getting to know him because just because one is dating someone doesn't mean they help you financially.
Same applies to millionaire couples plenty of birds in golden cages out there

There's no way a woman can be wealthy in her own right. NO WAY. They are all prisoners.

I thought it would be obvious I wasn't talking about all rich woman tbh

ooooooooookay........

I don't really understand who your beef is with, OP.

Are you pissed off at people assuming that all women with healthy husbands are happy?

Are you pissed off at people who are jealous of women with wealthy husbands?

Are you pissed off at people having a go at "benefits scroungers"? Your post makes no sense.

Also do you know some women earn their own money?

Just remember next time you envy wealthy housewives :
If he can love you, he can hate you.
If he can marry you, he can divorce you.
If he can adore you, he can abuse you.
If he can feed you, he can starve you.
If he can live you, he can leave you.
Earn you some run money and some fun money.

Why assume it’s the mans money? wealthiest women I know the money is hers. She is properly insanely rich. She is kind to her Dh though and he lives a lovely life because of her.

What are you banging on about ?

Rich or poor, some men and women can cause hurt to their spouses/partners.🤷‍♀️

Seems to be a lot of people who don't like this post.
What part do you disagree with?