Stop being jealous of rich woman

[Sackofsatchels]

All this envy some of you have towards women married to rich men.
HE has the money not her if she's given up her job to look after the kids shes pretty much stuck can't even run away unless it's to live in a tent because he pays the rent and she has none of her own money. Technically could be starved by him because he's 100% in control of the finances.

Same goes for the kids actually just because they have a rich dad doesn't mean he isn't beating ten tons of shit out of them

Technically could be starved by him because he's 100% in control of the finances.

Or she could divorce him and take half his assets.

Why are you making a thread about this? To be a bit envious of people with money is human nature to a certain extent, but people get on with their own lives. Why do you feel the need to tell people not to be jealous? The other weird thing is you keep talking about women in very unhappy marriages, which no one would be jealous of.

When sharing finances with a cunt of a male can really fuck your life up.

This is quite pertinent. Instead of assuming jealously, maybe stretch your mind to mumsnetters thinking this is the case for rich and poor women. A wealthy man who financially abuses his wife; hides money before a divorce or whose wealth is all tied up in trust can also be a cunt who can really fuck up your life.

It's important to remind women sometimes that having a wealthy husband affords you a wealthy lifestyle, but doesn't guarantee your independentwealth.

Some of us are clever and know how to 'ensure' if you separate you do so in 'good standing'.
Some of us are eternally stupid/naive when we fall in love and do nothing to ensure financial security so get stuck in awful marriages or leave poorer than we went in.
Some of us are wealthy of our own accord and fall in love with a man who drains us of every cent when they leave us.
And some of us just get royally screwed by wealthy, unscrupulous men.

See it as caution and check you are secure, instead of assuming all the women on MN are jealous of you (some will be, but hey 🤷🏾‍♀️).

Is there something going on here? OP are you ok or in a situation where money is being withheld from you and/or your children?

Sorry..,who’s jealous or stuck? 🤷‍♀️🙄

Okay, so this is going somewhere different to the original post...

Okay

This is a very odd, generalising thread. Men can and do financially abuse women all the time, whether they’re rich or not. Not the same thing. Plenty of very generous rich men out there.

If he's abusive she potentially can't. If it's a reasonable marriage that just isn't working out, then of course she can do that and have equal access to the marital assets to do so.
Even if he is abusive and she has no access to cash, if the family is wealthy then she's more likely to have something she can sell to fund her exit that a broke woman won't.
But either way your issues is with abusive men and nothing to do with being jealous of rich people.

How about independently wealthy women? Are we allowed to be jealous of them?

U ok hun?

Well of course it’s not like she can divorce him and get awarded any share of his assets after all. Because it’s his money right? 🙄

Bizarre. You know lots of women are rich. And not just married to rich men?!

For what it’s worth I am married to a very high earning man, I don’t earn anywhere near as much. He is a wonderful and loving man, who treats me as an absolute equal, sees everything as ours not his. He pays a large amount into a private pension and ISAs in my name only, plus all savings are in our joint savings account.

One of my friends is extremely wealthy. It’s her family’s money. She doesn’t work.

What a bizarre generalisation.

Why does anyone make a thread about anything? Why do other people feel the need to make threads professing their envy but it's weird when I make a thread pointing out the wives aren't always living a life of luxury?

I'm not saying this situation applies to all women in wealthy families

So is any of this relevant to your life or affecting your life? Have you just seen a few threads on MN and its wound you up so much that you made a thread about it?

Are you trapped in an abusive marriage with a wealthy man and feel you can't leave, particularly as you fear being equally judged if you were to be dependent upon benefits as a result?

If so, there is help out there for you. Start with Womens' Aid.

I appreciate the concerned posters but I'm ok it doesn't apply to me just felt like making a thread about it

Noted.

Misogynist tripe, are you bored?

My expat friends are 90% ladies of leisure tied to husbands who work at high -level jobs here in Hong Kong. I've learned to appreciate how lucky I am that I am single, childfree and working because they don't have safety nets or their own income apart from what their husbands give them as pocket money. If something was to happen, redundancies, divorce, death, affair, injury, disability, termination, demotion etc. they'd be helpless. Even those legally allowed to work here can't because unless they've taken the initiative and got jobs then they're unemployable with no degrees, no applicable or recent work experience, no references that are up to date etc. They're accustomed to someone paying their way without thinking about a safety net. They've done nothing but trail hubby.
I know someone whose husband lost his job and was desperately looking for a job but because of his sector, it was almost impossible to switch. The wife only dabbled in 'part - time' work for a couple of days a week but was more interested in having fun lunching and travelling.
Considering that lots of the big players such as HSBC, JP Morgan etc. have been closing HK offices, it's a large risk to only rely on one income.
I have 15 years of experience in my field and have worked hard. I've built up enough to not fear unemployment anymore.

Surely if he was that rich they would not be renting

@Sackofsatchels You do understand how UK divorce law works? Right?

How very odd. Are you ok OP?