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To ask those who are not white brittish how they feel about the flags?

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PicaK · 18/08/2025 13:32

Birmingham and Tower Hamlets are having St George England flags put up by privately funded groups.
I'm horrified by the implicit racism. I've seen a lot of white people applauding this and "time we took back the country" comments.
I haven't seen many non white people commenting. My feel is that they are too intimidated to do so. Am I right? Or is it indifference or is it that you're dealing with racism on a daily level and this is just one more thing.
Please don't post if you're white.whatever you feel about the flags. I want to hear on white viewd

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Dangermoo · 18/08/2025 18:13

Piggywaspushed · 18/08/2025 18:09

I don't understand how you can reply with so little empathy to someone who so articulately and openly explains their experiences and emotions.

I do have empathy - for any victims of racism, bit I won't be joining in on hating my own country, flag and skin colour - because that's what all this is really about. That's directed towards the OP.

User32459 · 18/08/2025 18:13

The England flag should be everywhere in England. The Scottish flag should be everywhere in Scotland. The Wales flag should be everywhere in Wales. The Irish flag should be everywhere in Ireland. The British flag should be everywhere in Britain (although I get this is more contentious outside England).

Our culture should be preserved with pride.

Rosscameasdoody · 18/08/2025 18:14

Piggywaspushed · 18/08/2025 18:09

I don't understand how you can reply with so little empathy to someone who so articulately and openly explains their experiences and emotions.

And who clearly sees the flag as representative of those from whom she has suffered appalling abuse. But it still doesn’t change the fact that the flag itself is not racist. It’s racists who have hijacked it for their own purposes and the only way for decent folk to take it back is to fly it. With pride.

Dangermoo · 18/08/2025 18:15

TonTonMacoute · 18/08/2025 17:33

@Cloudymonday

Also I have noticed that in other countries where the national flag is officially on display, the far right extremists tend to make up their own flag, because it doesn't make sense otherwise.

The Nazis didn't use the German flag, they invented the swastika flag, which of course became the German national flag for the period of the Third Reich.

St George's flag has been hidden away as something to be ashamed of for so long, it's made it an easy target for the extreme right, meanwhile depriving the majority of ordinary English people of the right to have a national flag they can display without apologies and explanations

Extreme right and far right have long since lost their meaning. Anything to the right of centre, is considered far right. Other countries can be patriotic in flying their flags but not good old England.

MavisandHetty · 18/08/2025 18:16

Dangermoo · 18/08/2025 18:11

👏 👏 exactly. People want you to apologise for being British and/or English. It's so bloody boring - every VE, VJ, armistice, St George's day - same old bitching. Where I live now, nobody feels ashamed to fly those flags.

Nobody requires you to apologize for it. Not your responsibility or fault (probably). Mature adults require other mature adults to have some perspective, a minimum of respect and empathy and understanding, a minimum level of humility and understanding. That goes for everyone, everywhere, both ways.

As for "so bloody boring" - you don't know what you've got till it's gone.

Hagr1d · 18/08/2025 18:16

Rella357 · 18/08/2025 13:45

Sometimes I do side eye someone's house if they have the St George's flag and assume they may be racist. As someone who has been racially attacked I'd rather assume someone is racist and be pleasantly surprised than assume I am safe and be proven wrong. However for some reason the British flag doesn't evoke the same emotions in me. Whenever there's a major sporting event though I don't think twice when people have flags outside.

Exactly this.

(Brown person, born here, who has experienced a lot of racism..)

Dangermoo · 18/08/2025 18:17

MavisandHetty · 18/08/2025 18:16

Nobody requires you to apologize for it. Not your responsibility or fault (probably). Mature adults require other mature adults to have some perspective, a minimum of respect and empathy and understanding, a minimum level of humility and understanding. That goes for everyone, everywhere, both ways.

As for "so bloody boring" - you don't know what you've got till it's gone.

I don't understand your last paragraph?

justasking111 · 18/08/2025 18:17

ShorehamGirl · 18/08/2025 18:08

I have an issue with any flags being attached to lampposts across the city, yes

You'd hate my bit of Wales. We've flown many other countries flags. One summer it was the flag of Japan I recall. We're twinning with everyone.

Piggywaspushed · 18/08/2025 18:17

Anyone would think this flag thing is new.

It really isn't. See also : the 1970s.

New Labour and Britpop did a lot of good work to reclaim British identity - hence some of the rehabilitation is some minds of the Union Flag.

People do also seem clearer nowadays so you are less likely to see union Flags at England matches.

Dangermoo · 18/08/2025 18:18

justasking111 · 18/08/2025 18:17

You'd hate my bit of Wales. We've flown many other countries flags. One summer it was the flag of Japan I recall. We're twinning with everyone.

You're in Wales - it's allowed.

miserableandworried · 18/08/2025 18:20

Worralorra · 18/08/2025 13:54

Do you also question what it feels like to white British people, to have flags of other nations flown with pride in theUK, while they are somehow expected to hide theirs as if they are ashamed of it? Indeed, councils have been removing the St George flags wherever they find them, while at the same time refusing to remove Palestinian flags, which could be causing offence to the many Jewish people who have lived in this country for generations.
Once you start banning one flag (and that the flag of the Country it is actually situated in) then you may as well ban all flags. If that’s not practical, then none should be banned.

This

Piggywaspushed · 18/08/2025 18:20

Rosscameasdoody · 18/08/2025 18:14

And who clearly sees the flag as representative of those from whom she has suffered appalling abuse. But it still doesn’t change the fact that the flag itself is not racist. It’s racists who have hijacked it for their own purposes and the only way for decent folk to take it back is to fly it. With pride.

It's not obligatory to be proud of it though? Pride is a very loaded obligation.

justasking111 · 18/08/2025 18:20

Dangermoo · 18/08/2025 18:18

You're in Wales - it's allowed.

That's a relief

To ask those who are not white brittish how they feel about the flags?
2dogsandabudgie · 18/08/2025 18:21

skippy67 · 18/08/2025 17:12

Yep. Just for saying you're English. Fact.

I've never heard that. I have crossed out white British on a form before and written white English. No one has ever questioned me.

NotEnoughKnittingTime · 18/08/2025 18:24

2dogsandabudgie · 18/08/2025 18:21

I've never heard that. I have crossed out white British on a form before and written white English. No one has ever questioned me.

I might do this actually.

Dangermoo · 18/08/2025 18:25

justasking111 · 18/08/2025 18:20

That's a relief

Twinning of the castles?

Loadsapandas · 18/08/2025 18:26

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 18/08/2025 16:55

I wouldn't be putting up a flag up in Newham - it's really scary!

How and why is Newham scary?

What makes it so?

and what makes you think there are no Union flags erected in Newham and what do you think would happen to those erected?

Dangermoo · 18/08/2025 18:26

Piggywaspushed · 18/08/2025 18:20

It's not obligatory to be proud of it though? Pride is a very loaded obligation.

No it's not obligatory, it's also not a wrongful thing to be proud.

BruFord · 18/08/2025 18:27

Saponarium · 18/08/2025 14:25

Non white here and this post says everything I was going to say.

It's slightly worrying the number of seemingly racism-illiterate people on this thread who apparently can't fathom how a flag could ever be linked to racism, as if it's never occurred to them before. "How can a flag be racist?". Context is absolutely everything.

@Saponarium@FallingIsLearning Do you feel that the best way to reverse this is for more people to fly the St. George’s flag (or the Union Jack)?

Genuine question, I live in a very diverse American city and the Stars and Stripes are everywhere so no one bats an eyelid, it’s just the country’s flag. Some people fly a couple of flags if they have ties to another country.

Dangermoo · 18/08/2025 18:28

Piggywaspushed · 18/08/2025 18:17

Anyone would think this flag thing is new.

It really isn't. See also : the 1970s.

New Labour and Britpop did a lot of good work to reclaim British identity - hence some of the rehabilitation is some minds of the Union Flag.

People do also seem clearer nowadays so you are less likely to see union Flags at England matches.

Edited

Labour and British history! That party is normally trying to distance itself from anything white British. Much less so, since they ousted Corbyn.

whynotwhatknot · 18/08/2025 18:30

so now i cant put up my own flag-i get people are adding to the my country thing but its my glaf and no im not bloody racist

Piggywaspushed · 18/08/2025 18:32

I always thought one way in which the British somewhat side eyed the American was their flag waving patriotism. Our diffidence about flags and anthems is quite distinctive. I like it that way. But it does allow certain groups to step into the void, I guess.

Lincolnlemons · 18/08/2025 18:32

It shouldn’t be intimidating or have racist connotations but has unfortunately often been used by the EDL etc. That said, they were bound to jump on it when we make sure to say “Happy Eid” but feel the need to swap “Merry Christmas” for “Season’s greetings”.

Tl:dr It shouldn’t be a racist symbol but is heavily used by racists because we’ve let it happen

Dangermoo · 18/08/2025 18:33

The flag doesn't need to be reclaimed from anybody. It will always represent the UK and nothing will change that. I will certainly carry on waving it, at military celebrations. I'm extremely proud to be English.

browneyes77 · 18/08/2025 18:33

I’m non white and these flags have been put up in my area of Birmingham. They’ve been up since the women’s Euro’s.

I have zero issue with it.

They weren’t put up to be ‘racist’.

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