It’s not my fault I have to go and get water

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Does anyone find this attitude odd

Dh off work and Dd wants him around a lot

He went to go and pay a bill this morning and forgot to get water and Vimto.
When he got home I asked about the drinks and he said he’d forgotten and would go and get them.
Dd started making a fuss saying she didn’t want him to go back out as he’d only just got in.
He said ‘It’s not my fault I have to go and get water’ to which Dd said to me ‘It’s your fault!’

I said ‘It’s nobody’s fault that we need water
and drinks for the house hold, just like when I have to go and get shopping (90% of the time it’s me)

Does anyone else find this an odd thing to say?

Can I just say-

For Fuck's Sake!!!!

Send them off together for a shopping trip

OP: ‘DH is getting mardy with us all because he forgot his one simple task on behalf of the household and has to go fix his error’

MN:

‘Well it is a stupid task’
’Why can’t you do it for him?’
’Why isn’t your DD more independent?’
’if you were running your lives properly you wouldn’t need to do this particular task’

Then why bother posting instead of scrolling past?

People post all kinds of things on MN. There are plenty that are not a big deal.

sounds like a normal conversation when you come home and then have turn round an go back out again it’s bloody annoying. There is tap water and was vimto needed immediately?
Could have waited until the next time of going out

Yes!! Thank you 🙏 this is exactly it

Don't forget: "Why do you need to do this task? We make do with this other thing that negates the need for you to do the task. You should put a better system in place that means you don't need to do the task."
YANBU OP. He should have just done the thing he was asked to do.

👏 x

I / my DH would be telling DD that sometimes when people make mistakes it’s their job to fix it, even if it means missing out on things they’d rather do or playing games.

Its ultimately up to DH how he fixes it - takes the kid, orders it in, agrees it’s not necessary right now and we all go out later - but it’s crucial to realize that it’s his error, so his to fix.

Well except that it actually was his fault because he’d just been out and forgotten it.
I suppose this is the source of OP’s annoyance, he sounds like he’s playing the victim and indirectly blaming her for the fact that he has to go out again.

Let him clean the place and do food shopping, you won't get points for being a martyr.

"Dh, I can go get water, but you'll need to clean up in the kitchen, and sort food shopping"

"Oh, what's that? You'll go get the water then?"

Not as odd as starting a thread about it.

He dues this kind of thing a lot doesnt he? And then sills and puts the blame elsewhere?

I think I get what you mean op. Your DH is blaming you that he has to go out again and get water.
He forgot it, of course it's his fault.

He said ‘It’s not my fault I have to go and get water’

to which Dd said to me ‘It’s your fault!’

To which I would have said to both of them 'it is dads fault he forgot - not mine'* *why let him blame you and her believe that?

Or commenting on it…

How did you guess 😅this is my annoyance..and him saying ‘It’s not my fault’ is just odd phrasing

Does he take any initiative whatsoever? Or do you have to be the household project manager and line manager?

I straightaway said ‘It’s nobody’s fault! It’s a simple thing of getting things for our house, where we all live, as I do every day’ something like that

Just tell your husband to stop moaning, do it, and it is his fault he forgot the sodding water. Never mind what your kid said.

Then have a gin and go into another room! 🤣

It’s not idd phrasing, it’s a 7 year old boy whining and avoiding any responsibility.

Feels like it…

I'd be more concerned about DD being rude to me because her dad was being rude. That's not acceptable.

Have you ever tried talking to him about it?

I told her off, I quickly shut that down too as not having it