To think DP’s friend should give him a lift home

[Irelanderin]

DP doesn’t drive, and is meeting a friend later round the corner from his work.

I’m picking him up when he’s done (with our toddler in tow). It’s about a 20/25 min round trip for me.

It would be about a 10 min detour for his friend if he was to drop him home after.

AIBU to feel a bit miffed that he hasn’t offered? Probably not helped by the fact I’ll have to rush dinner etc either before or after due to the time it will be.

No, non drivers cannot expect their friends to drive them home every time they meet up, and nor can their partners.

You can tell your husband to make his own way home like the adult that he is if you don’t want to do it, but it is definitely not something the friend is obliged to consider.

This ones on DP to ask him for a lift home.

There might be a reason why he can’t run him back but I don’t think you should feel miffed that he didn’t think of it. You probably weren’t on his radar.

No bus option?

How dies he usually get home from work?

Bus, cycle, taxi?

Why can’t he make his own way home? How does he usually get home from work?

And why can’t he ask his friend for a lift? It shouldn’t be for the friend to offer but for your DH to ask.

You wouldn’t be unreasonable to refuse to collect your DH, but YABU to expect the friend to offer.

Why can’t your DP use public transport or an Uber?

I can’t stand people who don’t drive, but expect others to be running them here there and everywhere.

Don’t want to or can’t drive? Absolutely fine. But then take responsibility for getting yourself from A to B without inconveniencing others.

I don't see that the friend is under any obligation to offer the non driver a lift home.

Why hasn’t your husband offered to get a bus or taxi?

Can your husband not get a bus or taxi? It would be nice if his friend offered but it's not up to him to get your husband home.

Sounds like an opportunity for him to walk home .... cheaper than the gym!

Bus. The route to our area stops by the time he will be done.

Taxi seems a waste of £15/20

Has your DP actually asked him for a lift?

if it’s inconvenient for you just like dh make his own way home be that public transport or taxi. Yabu to be miffed at his friend, be miffed at your dh, who opts straight for you picking them up.

Most adults plan how they get home when they make arrangements. Why are you rushing to pick him up like a childminder. He should figure it out himself

It’s not a waste if it saves you stress and allows your DP to spend time with friends.

You must live quite rurally if your busses stop when it’s still a toddlers dinner time. I would consider moving somewhere closer to transport routes as your DP doesn’t drive, otherwise this problem is only going to grow as your child/children get older.

It would have been nice to have been offered a lift but then it inconveniences them almost as much as it would you. A twenty minute round trip for you isn’t much considering it sounds like a one off.

Kids to consider?
Does this happen frequently?
what’s the screaming rush for dinner?

You’ll spend more than 10 mins on this thread op

Is there a medical reason he can't drive?

No. He did lessons years ago and didn’t get on with it. Has said for years he will get round to it but has done nothing. He’s 41

Yes but taxis should be part of his plan for his evening? And factored into the cost.

he first drive so he needs to factor the cost of transport into his journeys. HE should be asking his friend.

why is any of it your problem.

Then why do you have a problem with him paying for a taxi out of his own money?

Then it's up to him to get himself home id say.

It's a 20 minute round trip. That's nothing. I'm not sure why it's even an issue for you.

So he's a non driver through choice, this one's on him. He needs to sort out his own transport and stop depending on others to ferry him around.