To think DP’s friend should give him a lift home

[Irelanderin]

DP doesn’t drive, and is meeting a friend later round the corner from his work.

I’m picking him up when he’s done (with our toddler in tow). It’s about a 20/25 min round trip for me.

It would be about a 10 min detour for his friend if he was to drop him home after.

AIBU to feel a bit miffed that he hasn’t offered? Probably not helped by the fact I’ll have to rush dinner etc either before or after due to the time it will be.

Quite and actually it makes perfect sense. It's OP, not her DH, who thinks he should get a lift to save £15.

Unless it s for medical reasons I don’t accomodate non drivers. They are CF’s imo especially if they expect it. Sounds like yoor DH doesn’t expect it only you!

If he’s not drinking then is renting a bike or scooter possible where you live?

Hes a grown man and should be responsible for getting himself to places if he won't/can't drive. Does he expect his work colleagues to drive him to work too?

Except on this occasion OP is annoyed that her husband's friend is not providing a taxi service which she feels means she will have to even though the timing is inconvenient for her.

It's their business if they have an arrangement where she is the driver and he contributes to the relationship with skills she doesn't have but she has posted on public forum complaining that a third party isn't filling in for her.

No, she's saying she thinks £15/20 for a taxi is a waste and would prefer to go and get him to save money, but would prefer it more if friend did it.

I'd do it for my DH, but if OP doesn't want to, let him spend the £15.

Yabu.

Your husband needs to facilitate his own journey home whether that be walking, bike, taxi or bus

She explicitly says in her OP that she's miffed the friend hasn't offered and she will have to rush dinner to do it.

In your argument her doing all the driving is fine if the husband is bringing something else to the table but it seems that OP wants her husband's friend to enable his refusal to learn to drive when that role is inconvenient for her.

Man deliberately chooses not to drive. YABU.

If you don’t drive you have the financial benefit of not having the costs of buying and running a car.

That funds your access to public transportation and or taxis when required.

Its not up to others to make detours to take you your destination (or rather your other halves).

You are looking at the wrong person here and if you don’t like giving your partner lifts then don’t and especially don’t blame others for whom it might also be inconvenient.

Over the years I’ve worked with a few non drivers. Most were totally independent in getting where they needed to go and didn’t expect lifts. If offered they were grateful (and offered petrol money) but never asked or expected.

A small minority though felt that “detours” such as you describe (or much longer) were of no consequence nor was how often they were expected/demanded/pestered for.

You might want to guess which cohort actually got offered the most lifts…..

Why do none of these people who can’t drive and no bus service, just get a bloody bicycle.

otherwise pay the taxi money.