Holiday money

[PeoniesGinandBags]

I don’t think I’m being unreasonable but opinions welcomed.

currently on holiday with my partner and my DS. I have paid for the holiday for the 3 of us. It’s an all inclusive resort.

the agreement with partner was that he would cover any excursions and airport parking. This is significantly less in costs but he has had a year where he’s been stupid essentially and has been strapped for savings.

The week before we were due to go away, he asked me to book the parking as he would need to “pay me back”. I was irritated as the holiday has cost me over £6k but I begrudgingly did it because we needed parking. He paid me back a few days later.

On the day we left, I picked him up at the agreed place. He was 15 minutes late and had on the way he said “I feel shit but I don’t have any spends”. I said WTAF?! He say “well I can just pay you back for anything”.

It feels like that’s not the point though. I’ve worked my backside off for the holiday - I’m a single parent- and it feels like he can’t be arsed.

The holiday was booked a year ago so IMO plenty of time to save. I expected him to bring maybe £500 for trips…. I’d pointed out the 2 I thought would be good months ago and told him the price.

we’re still on holiday and he’s just informed me that “tomorrow he’s found a bar to go and watch the football so won’t be at lunch”.

AIBU to just be pissed off? He’s for form for letting me down and it feels like this is the final straw but I don’t know if I’m over-reacting?

I mean, I'd be cancelling his flight home and leaving him there....

Well, isn't he a catch?
If it's your car at the airport, I would get the hell out as quickly as possible and leave him in the car park.

How long have you been together?
Sorry but it very much sounds like he is using you. You have paid for him to go on a nice holiday and he doesn't even want to spend it with you. This would be the end of things.

Leave him in the bar watching football and don’t pay for anything else for him!! He won’t pay you back for everything you know that

I don't think its wrong to spend some time away from each other on holiday- the bar thing wouldn't bother me. But the free loading and not bringing any money absolutely would. I would ditch this relationship when you are back.

How will he be funding his time at the bar if he has no spending money?

He's a scrounger and a user.

You deserve better.

What a let down.

I would end the relationship as soon as I arrived home. I don’t agree with single parents spending money on men like this.

Well he can't go to the bar because he has no money... The fact that he plans to says it all really.

So he has money for the bar to watch the football then

do the trips and stuff with your son not him and split with him now and tell him he can’t stay in your room and to find alternative accommodation ! What an arse

Stop wasting money on this waste of space and save your money to spend on your son and yourself.

These men target single mums.

You’re being taken for a ride there. He’s got a nice free holiday out of you. I would be dumping this man as soon as you get home!

It’s a shame you brought him on holiday. After saying he had no money, I would have told him that he cannot afford to go and left him at home. I would certainly be saying that you’re not subbing him for the pub and end things when you get back and have been repaid. It depends whether the holiday was planned for you and your child, with him tagging along or if you both suggested it equally, but if so, I’d say you expect his contribution repaying for the trip because he’s let you down and you feel like a piggy bank.

Freeloading dick.

Is it AI?

He's playing you for a mug, OP.

Looks like you’ve found yourself a round example of the lesser walleted cocklodger. Characteristic include short arms and long pockets, regularly misplacing his debit card, a homeless emergency meaning he has to move in with you ‘just for a few weeks’ and being allergic to household contributions

Enjoy your holiday with your DS, take him on trips and leave the freeloading fucker to watch football to his hearts content knowing as soon as the plane lands, he’s history

Please say you don’t live together 🙏

Nope. Back into the sea for this one, you’ve caught a cocklodger.

You'd be under reacting by not ending it OP.

I cant believe he has money for the pub but didnt save for a trip.
Go on trips if you can afford it OP, take your DC with you have fun and leave DP to it. After all its all free in the hotel.

Hope you are okay OP.

He's playing you, quite obviously. Up to you whether you let him. I'd be binning as fast as possible. Don't be taken for a fool.

He was 15 minutes late and had on the way he said “I feel shit but I don’t have any spends”. I said WTAF?! He say “well I can just pay you back for anything”.

I'd have turfed him out of the car pronto and gone away with my son. What a freeloader.

Don't dump him yet OP!

Make him pay you back first. Otherwise I can GUARANTEE he will be gone in a flash and you'll never get the money he owes you.

And please OP for future reference - don’t ever bankroll a grown adult man. Use the money you’re wasting on this scrounger for you and your DS.

These men see you coming - they know exactly what they’re doing.

seems quite happy with the bank of @PeoniesGinandBags !!!! how is he funding the pub tomorrow????

Dump him now, for crying out loud. He can go home or get alternative accommodation. What a user.