to think my colleague should just admit she is on weight loss injections?

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At work we have all noticed Sally has lost a lot of weight in the past few months. She is always talking about diets and what she eats and does not eat anymore and makes a big deal about avoiding the biscuit tin in the kitchen. She keeps saying it is just willpower and cutting out snacks.

Last week I walked past her desk, her bag was open, and there was one of those weight loss injection pens in plain sight.

Now I cannot unsee it and every time she goes on about her self control it feels performative.

I am not saying she has to announce it to the whole office, but when she is preaching about anyone can do it if they just try it feels a bit dishonest.

AIBU to think she should either be upfront or just stop making a song and dance about how she has done it all naturally?

It was a WLI. I have friends who are on it openly.

She might be hiding it from her family at home. - there are lots of valid reasons why she keeps it with her.

Not everyone keeps it in the fridge.

This is true actually.

It sounds like this woman is really tedious to be honest. It's fine and pretty normal to talk about weight loss at work and indeed to share tips with people if they express an interest. It isn't fine or normal to make unsolicited critical comments about other people's eating habits or to go on and on about the topic to the point of obsession. So in a way it doesn't matter whether she's on a weight loss drug or not - she sounds pretty insuffersble so we are just quibbling about whether she does or does not have a layer of dishonesty to add to her annoyingness!

But as for whether she is taking anything... I agree with others that it doesn't sound likely that you saw what you think you saw based on the information given, and that even if you did, it would be cruel to comment. It's something with a lot of secrecy and shame surrounding it for many people. It also doesn't guarantee weight loss so will power and effort still have their role to play if she is taking something.

If you want to be more assertive with her and explain your boundaries to her, saying something like 'I appreciate weight loss matters to you and I'm happy for you, but it's really not a topic I want to hear about personally and I'd appreciate your not commenting on my food again' would be a better road.

They’re jealous of how you got your shit together and made a change.

Who gives a toss what they think. What you’ve done is AMAZING and no fucker should be pulling you down.

Oh please don't mistake me, we are not friends but unfortunately for both of us are obligated to stay loosely in touch. If my friends were on WLIs they'd just say it, not go about pretending that they'd suddenly and miraculously reformed their characters. But then they don't subscribe to the notion that overweight is a personality flaw to begin with so there would not need to be any shame in it.

Except everyone on a forum. How unpleasant.

I have no idea what you’re jealous of, or indeed if you are jealous. I wasn’t the one who said it.

Not rtft but you are not a girls girl. Leave this poor woman alone and have some bloody compassion.

Well quite! A pen, a needle, an alcohol wipe and a sharps bin seems quite onerous to carry round with her.

Why post on the thread if you think it is so unpleasant?

I am on WLIs and I cannot tell a WLI pen from another drug that uses the same kind of pens without getting very close and having a read of the drug label, possibly rotating the pen so that the drug info is at the top

Was your whole nose inside her bag?

It's not something I could identify at a mere glace, and I'm on em!

If you were that close, what dose was she on out of interest?

It is hard to have compassion for someone who tells me off for having snacks while she has them herself.

I've lost nearly 5 stone since November by changing my diet.

No jabs.

No exercise (due to ill health)

Maybe that's what your colleague did???? But no matter how she it, it's good news.

No my whole nose was not in her bag. But I don't walk around with a blindfold on either.

Do you go around lecturing others about how they need to adopt your habits and lose weight too?

She could be on it for diabetes, and they still should be kept in the fridge once opened - why would she carry around a very expensive thing that she only needs to use once a week?

In use insulin is actually best used at room temperature. The not in use pens are kept in the fridge.

Although in this weather both are probably better off in the fridge it might be tipping out of safe range for either at room temperature

She sounds most unpleasant to be around.

Could you just start asking her to stop talking about what others eat. She has no idea what eating issues or even disorders her colleagues could be experiencing. Protecting colleagues from this behaviour would be my biggest concern.

Could you take her on one side and explain that you don't give a hoot how she is losing the weight but you are concerned about the effect of her comments on others and please could she stop?

Plenty of people have already answered the fridge issue.

She might be hiding it from her family at home. She has mentioned they give her a hard time about her weight.

I do find it odd how losing weight seems to mean your lifestyle becomes everyone else’s business to comment on!

Whether she is on WLI or not, it’s her medical information to share as she wishes.

I have lost weight, not using injections (not that it really matters) and I hate people mentioning it! It makes me uncomfortable to talk about it because it feels quite personal and I’ve had people ask what I am taking to lost weight which is even more personal.

I think generally we should all just mind our own business and avoid mentioning weight changes unless the person themselves brings it up.

Because I wanted to make that point. What's your problem?

Reformed their characters 😂 Not changed their eating habits but reformed their fucking characters.

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"we have all noticed Sally has lost a lot of weight"

You are all making her feel like she has to explain it.

Are you prepared to divulge your personal medical details to her and to the rest of the office?

Once you’ve used your mounjaro pen it does not have to be in the fridge for up to 30 days.

OP, I agree with PPs that being on WLI is nobody’s business and doesn’t need to be ‘admitted’ to. You do also need to be on a healthier diet with WLI, they don’t automatically make you lose weight.

I do however get your point about someone going round holier than thou telling people that they should be eating better, and judging their choice of crisps over celery sticks being much, whether she was on WLI or not.

I’m with you, OP. People have a right to lose weight however they like, but it irritates me that at least three people I know well are very clearly not being open about how they’re losing quite so much weight and pretending it’s suddenly down to diet and exercise - despite having tried this numerous times.
I saw them in one friend’s fridge and didn’t say anything, despite the fact when other friends arrived, she completely denied it and said she has just been ‘restricting portions’. Why lie? Good on you for doing it either way, but be honest.