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Am I exaggerating?

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iamstillfuming · 11/08/2025 17:24

Can you please tell me whether I am exaggerating and taken things too far in this situation, because I have been told by certain people that I must let it go.

My 10 year old son went out with my cousins boyfriend yesterday, he usually comes for him and takes him out for the day.

I got a phone call from the police to tell me that they had my son, and they were going to bring him home to me. I called my cousins boyfriend straight away, my instant thought was maybe something had happened to him, because why did I just receive a phone call from the police telling me that they had my child.

He didn't pick up, when the police arrived with my son they couldn't give me much detail on what had happened except they were called to a disturbance in a house and my son was found by them hiding in a wardrobe, he only spoken to them to give them my number.

My son isn't used to loud noise (he is very sensitive to noise) neither is he ever been exposed to any violence etc.

I asked my son what had happened, he told me that my cousins boyfriend had taken him to a house, people started shouting, arguing and fighting he got scared and hid in wardrobe, he thought that my cousins boyfriend would come and get him but he didn't and the police lady come and got him out.

I called my cousin once the police had left, she said that she'd try and get him on the phone then she'd call me back. I was told by her that something had gone on forgot about my child but he sent someone back to go and look for him.

All my cousin was concerned about is whether or not my son had said anything to the police i.e given them his name, then I got a phone call from him saying he is sorry about what happened and that he will come and take my son to go get a bike tomorrow, I hung up and called my cousin

I was very disrespectful to the both of then (with my words) I have had an argument with my cousin and then I called him and did the same to him.

My son is my only child, we have tried for years to conceive again but it just won't happen so we have accepted it. I can not even tell my husband about that has happened because I don't know what he will do to my cousins boyfriend.

I have had a few phone calls from family members and close friends, saying that I have taken things too far and that my cousin and I are too close for this to ruin our relationship.

I am also worried that social services might get involved, I have worked close with social services and they could put this down to neglect.

My son seems ok now, but I feel like I failed him yesterday, like I said above he is not used to things like this.

Sorry for my bad grammar or any mistakes, I didn't proof read before pressing send.

OP posts:
carmak · 13/08/2025 08:15

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OP, you sound slightly odd.

Ewock · 13/08/2025 08:18

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Ahhh there it is, I forgot summer holidays so all the idiots come out to play

iamstillfuming · 13/08/2025 08:20

Nope, I am not going to have people here be rude to me.

OP posts:
ElsieMc · 13/08/2025 08:22

Op, your response to @AuntyDepressant is bizarre. You criticise posters for making things up, then do the same yourself. When the vast majority of posters are telling you the truth as they see it, please listen. You have posted on a public forum where you will get responses you do not want to hear.

As you are sadly unable to accept these, I would get the thread removed. Of course you know your son best, but posters have simply responded to the info given by you.

Alltheyellowbirds · 13/08/2025 08:26

iamstillfuming · 13/08/2025 08:20

Nope, I am not going to have people here be rude to me.

That’s what you’re concerned with here? When your son has been exposed to god knows what for god knows how long?

OP the only one who has been rude to anyone is you. Everybody else has just been trying to help you, and getting understandably exasperated when you blanked their advice. If you didn’t want advice why did you start the thread?

Butchyrestingface · 13/08/2025 08:27

carmak · 13/08/2025 08:15

OP, you sound slightly odd.

Also seemingly pre-occupied with the oral hygiene of strangers on the internet.

Weird set of priorities.

carmak · 13/08/2025 08:31

I think we're all missing some vital information here, so the whole thread is pointless. OP is getting more peculiar with every post.

What adult says 'You're smelly'?

Fraggeek · 13/08/2025 08:32

OP is so convinced nothing untoward happened she'd probably say as much to her son if he came to her in confidence anyway 🙄

You never know something hasn't happened unless you're the child in this situation.

Anyone naive enough to believe people won't hide things from you are delusional.

Ewock · 13/08/2025 08:38

iamstillfuming · 13/08/2025 08:20

Nope, I am not going to have people here be rude to me.

If this is real.I hope, for your child's sake, that you get some help. Worrying more about people on here rather than taking what has happened seriously and cooperating with the police is worrying.

BeagleSkunk · 13/08/2025 08:43

iamstillfuming · 13/08/2025 08:20

Nope, I am not going to have people here be rude to me.

Bless ya cottons.

You’re in for a treat if anything does come of this. SS and police aren’t known for tact and manners around child endangerment.

We’re going to look like your best friends.

WillyWonkasPurpleHat · 13/08/2025 08:53

I dont see why you are still here and answering posters @iamstillfuming ?

They are obviously annoying you and you feel they are making things up, so why dont you just unfollow the thread?

You haven't added anything useful to what happened and appear to just be fed up with people's posts

Borisssss · 13/08/2025 09:10

She managed to ignore my querie where in her OP the uncle/cousin BF apparently collected her DS from her house on Sunday - whereas in a later post she changes her story to her dropping her DS off at her cousins for childcare so that she could go to work.

Tedsnan1 · 13/08/2025 09:49

iamstillfuming · 13/08/2025 07:40

Oh be quiet, look at you making up scenarios in that head of yours.

Why aren't you making up scenarios? If this had happened to my child my head would be spinning with all the awful possibilities, and I'd have to do everything I could to find out the truth. What are you afraid of uncovering? Why aren't you protecting your child? Or do you already know and have been complicit up to this point because you get free childcare?
My mind is boggled.
Oh, and what exactly does this cousin's boyfriend do for a job if he's available weekly to take your so out?

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 13/08/2025 10:11

carmak · 13/08/2025 08:31

I think we're all missing some vital information here, so the whole thread is pointless. OP is getting more peculiar with every post.

What adult says 'You're smelly'?

Is that what the deleted post said?! 🤣🤣
😂
Laughing as it's like being at school
We'll have "you're rubber, I'm glue..." next lol

AuntyDepressant · 13/08/2025 10:17

Looks like I missed all the fun. I’m assuming I am getting a little too near the truth for someone’s liking. Why don’t you send your cousins dodgy boyfriend round to sort me out? Give me a second to hide in the wardrobe before he turns up lol 😂

carmak · 13/08/2025 10:30

So the OP's post was deleted, a pity really, it was a corker and too funny to be offensive. I expect whoever it was aimed at had a laugh.

Alltheyellowbirds · 13/08/2025 10:31

AuntyDepressant · 13/08/2025 10:17

Looks like I missed all the fun. I’m assuming I am getting a little too near the truth for someone’s liking. Why don’t you send your cousins dodgy boyfriend round to sort me out? Give me a second to hide in the wardrobe before he turns up lol 😂

Edited

IIRC you were told to go clean your teeth and put some deodorant on because you smell 🤣

AuntyDepressant · 13/08/2025 10:33

carmak · 13/08/2025 10:30

So the OP's post was deleted, a pity really, it was a corker and too funny to be offensive. I expect whoever it was aimed at had a laugh.

It was aimed at me. And I missed it. I hear it was full of ‘smelly poo bum wee’ and stuff. I’m honoured to have had such a toiletry effect 😂

AuntyDepressant · 13/08/2025 10:34

Alltheyellowbirds · 13/08/2025 10:31

IIRC you were told to go clean your teeth and put some deodorant on because you smell 🤣

Blimey. Sounds like someone’s been in my wardrobe again 😂

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 13/08/2025 10:35

Alltheyellowbirds · 13/08/2025 10:31

IIRC you were told to go clean your teeth and put some deodorant on because you smell 🤣

😂

carmak · 13/08/2025 10:35

AuntyDepressant · 13/08/2025 10:33

It was aimed at me. And I missed it. I hear it was full of ‘smelly poo bum wee’ and stuff. I’m honoured to have had such a toiletry effect 😂

Shame you missed it, imagine a 5 year old throwing insults. Grin

grumpygrape · 13/08/2025 10:51

I can't decide whether to unwatch this thread or keep coming back just to wonder at how surreal it all is.

Iwasneverafan · 13/08/2025 10:53

Sames ….. but I know I need to have a wash and brush my teeth before commenting 🤣

AuntyDepressant · 13/08/2025 11:22

Well I’ve brushed my teeth now and put on some Mum roll on so I’ll keep watching the car crash for now…

carmak · 13/08/2025 11:26

AuntyDepressant · 13/08/2025 11:22

Well I’ve brushed my teeth now and put on some Mum roll on so I’ll keep watching the car crash for now…

My washing's on the line, just to be on the safe side.

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