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myplace · 04/08/2025 11:15

TheignT · 04/08/2025 10:41

That's a good point. The woman who moaned at me was elderly which I nearly mentioned and then thought why would I particularly as I'm not spring chicken myself.

The one thing where I do mention age is when I say young men are almost always really helpful if I'm carrying heavy bags or trying to get GC buggy and bag into a train. It is a very distinctive thing, sometimes women offer and sometimes older men but if a young man is near they almost always offer. I always think they must love their granny.

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Love this. Was helping DM, so struggling a bit with her case going down the stairs. A man quietly grabbed the handle from me and continued on at speed down the stairs, released it at the bottom and continued on his way without breaking stride or glancing back.

No need for effusive thanks or embarrassment, just sheer utilitarian helpfulness.

He also sped up the obstacle we were for all the other travellers!

JustJane73 · 04/08/2025 11:15

My mum had been in hospital the last month and I had been visiting her every day.

I was reversing my car into a space last week when I noticed a man around 60 standing at the back of the space waving me back. I've been driving (and parking) for the last 35 years so more than capable of doing so without the help of a banksman. I also drive a Mini which is a piece of piss to park.

I wound down the window and asked him if he was ok, he then said "I just thought you'd need some help as I know most woman struggle to park straight" - fucking cheeky fucker.

Daisypod · 04/08/2025 11:15

AM1994 · 04/08/2025 10:17

When I worked on a till at a supermarket and was pregnant an older man pointed at my pregnant tummy and said you know there’s others things you can do like watch TV. I was pregnant with my second child, married, late 20s. Not that that should matter anyway. Then he got his receipt and walked off. I was fuming, as was the lady behind him who had heard

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i have 5 children and when people (mostly men) say this to be I reply with ‘if you think tv is better than sex you’re doing it wrong) usually shuts them up!

Absentmindedsmile · 04/08/2025 11:16

Er wow. Where do you live that people are that rude??

Middle aged men can be particularly annoying, especially at work ime, but I’ve never known such overt rudeness.

MrRydersParlourGame · 04/08/2025 11:16

TheignT · 04/08/2025 11:06

I live on a steep hill, for some reason there seems to be some convention that people park on the left as you are going up the hill. There seems to be a conflict of giving way if the obstruction is your side and giving way to the vehicle going up the hill. Everyone seems to swap which rule applies depending on if they are going up or down the hill.

Personally I think life's too short so if they think they have priority I just relax for the seconds it takes to let them go. With a school at the top of the hill it's only really an issue at school times. I always assume parents are dashing for work or whatever so as I'm retired I don't fret.l

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Yes, no hills involved in my experiences but you're very generous to try to find an alternative explanation for their rude behaviour!

Believe it or not I'm also a very relaxed driver and often give way where I don't technically have to if it makes things easier and everything flow better.

I do, however, object to aggressive road hogs throwing very visible fits about my continuing on my way (when I'm often already alongside said obstructions) in the safest and most efficient way possible either because of staggering ignorance or flagrant MeMeMe syndrome. I think that's reasonable!

glittereyelash · 04/08/2025 11:17

There's always a few idiots about sorry you had to put up with two in one day. My latest was a guy I see occasionaly on the local bus when I'm out with my son. At the bus stop he said i must find it hard being an unemployed single mother in this day and age and that he might be willing to help me if I smiled and was nicer to him. I'm married and work part time and at a guess I'd say that guy is considerably older than my dad. I relayed this to him and he said I was liar and lucky that anyone was paying me any attention.

Thepeopleversuswork · 04/08/2025 11:18

What a bellend...

Not me, but I observed something similar last week in the GP's office. A young mum came in with a small baby in a buggy and put the baby on her lap to sit and wait for her appointment. It was reasonably warm but not boiling hot by any stretch of the imagination. The mum was sitting next to the window and there was a shaft of sunlight of about half a foot which fell across her lap.

This guy opposite her suddenly told her it was hot and suggested she moved. She said, politely but confidently, that there was no need and she was fine, thanks. The guy persisted in offering her his seat etc. She continued to politely rebuff him. The baby was fine, happily dozing and drinking a bottle of milk, unperturbed with no indication of being distressed.

When the mum got called in by the doctor the guy started muttering to himself about the mum not taking his advice. Apropos of nothing he turned to me and said he was a father to four and why did younger people feel they always knew better?

I could tell by looking at him and by his behaviour that he'd never changed a nappy in his life, never done an hour of childcare and had had no practical input into raising his own kids. Just saw a young and inexperienced woman and saw a golden opportunity to throw his weight around.

CommunistOrca · 04/08/2025 11:18

I was whistling at work yesterday. I work in a ladies clothing shop and it's usually pretty quiet on Sundays so we're all a little more relaxed. A customer's husband came storming over and told me women shouldn't whistle. It's not ladylike. He proceeded to tell me a rhyme, something along the lines of "a whistling woman and a crowing hen will fetch the devil from his den". I laughed and told him I wasn't a witch. He told me to stop being stupid, he wasn't calling me a witch, he was calling me common. I just shrugged at him and moved away. I carried on whistling 😗

Purplecatshopaholic · 04/08/2025 11:18

Jeezo, do you live in Wankertown, or Twatville?

Rightsraptor · 04/08/2025 11:18

I believe you, OP, as I know this rubbish happens all the time. But two in one morning is very unlucky.

I sometimes get men trying to 'help' me cross the road!!! And no, I'm not particularly old and doddery, but I am aware I'm not very quick Strangely, I have no desire to find myself under the wheels of an articulated truck. I use my own judgement when crossing roads and am not impressed by some bloke telling me 'it's still safe to cross' as the green pedestrian light disappears. I know the speed I move at, he doesn't.

Due to joint issues, I did once use a walking stick and it was way worse then. I'd often use the wait at a crossing as a kind of rest period, so I'd be quite pleased to have to remain on the side of the road for a short while, but the number of times some man would appear and try to get me to cross. I really don't know why they can't leave us alone.

Thepeopleversuswork · 04/08/2025 11:18

glittereyelash · 04/08/2025 11:17

There's always a few idiots about sorry you had to put up with two in one day. My latest was a guy I see occasionaly on the local bus when I'm out with my son. At the bus stop he said i must find it hard being an unemployed single mother in this day and age and that he might be willing to help me if I smiled and was nicer to him. I'm married and work part time and at a guess I'd say that guy is considerably older than my dad. I relayed this to him and he said I was liar and lucky that anyone was paying me any attention.

Good grief. What a nob.

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Siblingsadness · 04/08/2025 11:19

I live in a very average market town. For those of you saying its never happened to you, so you struggle to believe it. I'm very lucky that I have never been mugged or burgled. If a woman came on here and said she had been mugged or burgled, I wouldn't say "hmm this has never happened to me therefore I doubt it"

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TheignT · 04/08/2025 11:19

MrRydersParlourGame · 04/08/2025 11:16

Yes, no hills involved in my experiences but you're very generous to try to find an alternative explanation for their rude behaviour!

Believe it or not I'm also a very relaxed driver and often give way where I don't technically have to if it makes things easier and everything flow better.

I do, however, object to aggressive road hogs throwing very visible fits about my continuing on my way (when I'm often already alongside said obstructions) in the safest and most efficient way possible either because of staggering ignorance or flagrant MeMeMe syndrome. I think that's reasonable!

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I didn't mean you were unreasonable, I just think the situation on my hill is funny because the two rules clash and most people seem to pick the one that suits them.

Sorry my amusement didn't come across.

LimpysGotCancer · 04/08/2025 11:19

KimberleyClark · 04/08/2025 10:34

The first one,fair enough he was a twat. But the second one, why wouldn’t you just say “I don’t know, I’ve never tried it” instead of going into detail about your own cooking, which wasn’t what he was asking?

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Yeah OP did you not know you can only give factual one word yes or no answers? Who do you think you are trying to develop a normal conversation like a human?

And in case it's not clear, obviously YABVVVVVVU and THIS IS ALL YOUR FAULT, IF YOU'D TRIED BEING A BIT NICER THAT POOR MAN WOULDN'T HAVE HAD TO CALL YOU A SILLY COW. Do better.

Ponoka7 · 04/08/2025 11:20

AM1994 · 04/08/2025 10:17

When I worked on a till at a supermarket and was pregnant an older man pointed at my pregnant tummy and said you know there’s others things you can do like watch TV. I was pregnant with my second child, married, late 20s. Not that that should matter anyway. Then he got his receipt and walked off. I was fuming, as was the lady behind him who had heard

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The same dickhead will be ranting about the immigrants and the most popular baby name being Muhammed.
It never ends, me and my friend, both nearly 60, still get it. A lot of men our age are exceptionally bitter and want to take it out on women.

LBFseBrom · 04/08/2025 11:20

I think both men were rude, particularly the one in Tesco.

Imbusytodaysorry · 04/08/2025 11:20

Siblingsadness · 04/08/2025 10:44

Nope, not up for a rewrite. I didn't go into detail about my cooking, I said I added onion and garlic to a cheaper thing rather than buying an onion and garlic sauce. I was hardly pretending to be Gordon Ramsay. Also, unconnected to the parking also didn't deserve to be called names

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@Siblingsadness now you have someone telling you that your reply was wrong ffs .

So a random man approaches you and asks you a question and a poster on here didn’t think you responded appropriately. If the man didn’t want a strangers honest reply he shouldn’t have asked !
It’s not like you were rude .

BlakeCarrington · 04/08/2025 11:21

I’m playing a new game. I live rurally and there are loads of little narrow lanes where you have to sometimes reverse to let other motorists past.

Most people are fine and polite about this, but I have noticed a trend of middle aged male motorists sitting there in the middle of the road, making no attempt to give way and forcing those coming the other way to reverse for them like it’s their lordly right.

Ive now stopped reversing for them. It’s great fun. I now just sit there eyeballing them and waiting (using their own technique) while they expect me to reverse. Nope! Hahaha. They end up reversing with bad grace in the end and I have a little chuckle. Highly recommended!

navybeans · 04/08/2025 11:21

I suppose the issue is is that men can mock us but if we do it back we could get a broken jaw. It's not a level playing field.

TheignT · 04/08/2025 11:23

Siblingsadness · 04/08/2025 11:19

I live in a very average market town. For those of you saying its never happened to you, so you struggle to believe it. I'm very lucky that I have never been mugged or burgled. If a woman came on here and said she had been mugged or burgled, I wouldn't say "hmm this has never happened to me therefore I doubt it"

Has anyone said they don't believe it? I thought people were giving their experience. I just said it hadn't happened to me although thinking about it a man was rude to me when I went to local tip once. He did squirm when I challenged him.

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Siblingsadness · 04/08/2025 11:23

navybeans · 04/08/2025 11:21

I suppose the issue is is that men can mock us but if we do it back we could get a broken jaw. It's not a level playing field.

Cue some knobhead coming on here saying women can give men broken jaws as well

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Ponoka7 · 04/08/2025 11:23

CommunistOrca · 04/08/2025 11:18

I was whistling at work yesterday. I work in a ladies clothing shop and it's usually pretty quiet on Sundays so we're all a little more relaxed. A customer's husband came storming over and told me women shouldn't whistle. It's not ladylike. He proceeded to tell me a rhyme, something along the lines of "a whistling woman and a crowing hen will fetch the devil from his den". I laughed and told him I wasn't a witch. He told me to stop being stupid, he wasn't calling me a witch, he was calling me common. I just shrugged at him and moved away. I carried on whistling 😗

I always reply that I don't have to be a lady, being a woman is good enough.

Ooothatsagoodone · 04/08/2025 11:23

Siblingsadness · 04/08/2025 10:06

I've got 2 today and it's not even midday yet
I swim every day at 6am . There's normally about 6 of us, today I had the pool all to myself. I swam in one of the lanes as i am working on staying straight during certain strokes. After about 20 minutes a man got in the pool. I've seen him before, he always goes in the unlaned bit and does physio walking up and down.
Today he came over to the lane and said I shouldn't be in there as its the fast lane and I wasn't fast. I thought he was joking so I laughed. He then said he wasn't joking and I needed to move. Of course I told him not to be ridiculous, no one else was in here and if someone fast wanted it, I'd move. He called me a silly batch.
Then just now in tescos, I was in the pasta aisle and a man picked up a jar of pasta sauce and said "is this any good" I said I wasn't sure sorry, I normally just get the passata and put onion and garlic in it. He sort of mocked me and said "ooh good cook are you" I said yes, I'm OK and I enjoy it too. He then said "well at least I can parallel park you silly cow"
Now I know I just encountered 2 nutters (maybe a third is on the way) but I'm a bit cheeky and a cow before lunch today despite just going for a swim and buying cheaper pasta ingredients. 🤣🤣

Men. A special breed of their own 🙌

noideasurrounded · 04/08/2025 11:24

PollyBell · 04/08/2025 10:36

I have had more issues with women being rude than men but not sure what age has got to do with it

Agree. Obnoxiously ,rude tossers exist in both sexes and at all ages !

LancashireButterPie · 04/08/2025 11:24

It's just nasty people isnt it.
My poor 88year old mum (who is had to coax to come shopping with me), was trundling around the supermarket on her wheeled walker, and a middke aged man yelled "FFS biddy, who let you out, get a friggin carer" she never went shopping again.

Conversely at a station last week a woman was struggling with a buggy to get up the stairs. There's at least 60 steps. I said to DS (24yr old nurse) go and offer to help her. He said "she might not want help" and I replied "it's still nice to offer".

He walked over, said "can I help you" and she yelled "don't touch my fucking pram, you freak"....nice.