Who seems to be unreasonable and greedy? Looking for unbiased opinions and perspectives.

[SequinTheDay]

Indian family of 4 sons; father passed away leaving a will (registered and valid) splitting inheritance equally (25% each). Family migrated to the UK when kids were young.

• 1st son: Rebellious, estranged from parents for years, had a love marriage parents didn’t support. Claims to have signed a document 4 decades ago renouncing inheritance (no copy exists). Wants his 25%, plans to pass it to his kids.
• 2nd son: No contact with parents, divorced twice, parents still cared and loved him.
• 3rd son: Family favourite, expected to inherit everything or at least exclude eldest brother. Divorced once, remarried recently.
• 4th son: Follows 3rd son’s lead, divorced once, remarried recently.

Conflict: Eldest son’s brothers call him greedy/selfish for claiming his 25%. They thought inheritance would exclude him due to that old signed paper. Eldest wants to keep his share for his kids, not sell.

Question: Is the eldest son selfish for wanting the 25% left to him in the will?

YABU: Yes
YANBU: No

Not this again. If he renounced his inheritance why is he now wanting it? What we think is irrelevant, it will come down to what you can do living in a different country and the family dynamics

Is there anything more unedifying than a scrap over a will?

Seems to me the simplest thing is to split it four ways.

Why do you have to be so rude? Because he's been receiving swearing from his brothers and demands for power of attorney. The land is already in his name.

They all sound like a pack of greedy moaners to be honest. No wonder their marriages didn't last.

I know, it's so pathetic and embarrassment.

What they want the eldest brother to do is transfer the land in his name to theirs, so their children can have it. The eldest brother will receive zero money and just wants to transfer it to his 3 kids, so it stayed in the family per say.

Sorry - just seen your edit. It's already been split in 4 ways, each of them have 25%. The argument is the eldest brother won't transfer his share to their names. He wants to leave it to his kids.

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks and I doubt the eldest cares given he's so rebellious and estranged from the parents.

The only thing rhat matters is the legal document in this country that splits the inheritance between all 4 sons.

True, his wife told him to just block his family members because they keep ringing him and swearing at him! The legal document is all valid, registered and notarised with the government.

Because who cares? What we think is irrelevant. You had another thread like this, just sort out what you can, and it will be a long process. We can't advise you what can or will happen in another country. You seem obsessive tbh

As long as that’s legal, I think they should just accept it.

The will is the will: it’s split four ways so they ought to just lump it. Arguing about it suggests something of why the family dynamics are so bad - they’re all unreasonable angry people.

I don't understand why number one son is getting a hard time and number two son is not. Setting aside the potentially non-existent document, neither of them seem to have been in contact with the parents.

But regardless the father divided the money equally among the sons and they're entitled to keep it and do whatever they want with it.

Won't transfer for his share to who's names, his brothers? I don't understand why he should?

The father's will needs to be followed.

I know I would love my children no matter what, even if they were estranged from me, and I would want all my children regardless of contact with me to share my inheritance.

It's not a long process because the land is already in his name, the will has been recognised and its valid.

What he is doing gift deed power attorney to his kids. His brothers want to stop this from happening. Hence, the swearing and shouting.

Yeah, the will has all 4 sons name with each receiving 25%. It's legal and valid, recognised by the relevant authorities.

The swearing and shouting is so bad, he's just blocked them all. They kept trying to trick him into signing stuff but he's outright refused.

Exactly, my point!

Wow the other brothers sound so grabby. I'm guessing it's the 3rd brother who expected to inherit everything who's causing all the problems.
I don't know what each brother's marital and relationship status has to do with inheritance, unless this is a cultural aspect, if so forgive my ignorance.

The 3rd son, wants the eldest son to transfer the land to him so he can give it to his sons.

Exactly, everything is set 25% equal shares but he's getting grief for wanting his 25% share to give to his kids.

Yes, the 3rd son thought he was the favourite and golden boy. He expected to inherit the lot but his Dad left all 4 sons equal shares.

I wrote marital and relationship status, because the eldest wife has been in the picture a while and she had some land in her name. They're mad at this because she's an "outsider" and just married into this family. She has no rights to it. However, their Dad left her land.

The 3rd and 4th son marriages are very recent, so their names aren't on the will. 2nd son is divorced, so his wife name naturally wouldn't be on it.

So in conclusion, their mad the eldest son and his wife name are on the will.

The rest of the family need to respect their dad's wishes.
I'm guessing you're related somehow to the eldest. He needs to block them all and enjoy his life, the third son especially sounds unhinged.

In all honesty, it's such a embarrassment.

DS3 is being greedy.
DS1 should transfer the land deeds to his children now.
Power of attorney should be his children in any case or you (if you are his wife).
End.
Low contact or no contact with the brothers trying to cut him out.
Kudos to your FIL for not playing favourites and making his wishes clear.

Good username btw!