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AIBU?

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To be absolutely furious with my neighbour?

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Smurphy99 · 02/08/2025 20:17

I live in a rented semi detached house. The neighbour attached to me I generally get on quite well with. However there are a few issues that are really starting to grate on me.
Every evening her and her partner smoke weed on their patio, just meters from my back door. In this heat obviously we have the windows open, I have a young child (DD3), and the house is absolutely stinking of cannabis. I hate hate hate the smell and often by the time we have smelt it we don’t have enough time to get all the windows shut before it’s lingering in our house.
As if this wasn’t bad enough, she has now quite spontaneously brought a parrot.
I have nothing against parrots or indeed most birds in general, however she leaves it in its cage 24/7 and every evening for hours opens her back patio doors and pushes its cage out into the garden for it to get some “fresh air”. Queue a CONSTANT, extremely loud, extremely high pitched almost whistle noise from said bird. This goes on and on and on and on. I regularly text her complaining that we need sleep and the bird is driving me insane, to which she does in fairness close the doors. However it’s every night. I don’t know if any of you have a young parrot but the noise is just grating.
There have been various other issues, such as her children loudly playing in the garden at very unsociable hours of the evening, loud arguments between her and her partner and lots of banging noises from the house late at night and early mornings.
I do in general get along with them and don’t want to rock the boat, is there a polite way I can request her to smoke at the bottom of the garden? And for goodness sake get rid of the bird? We do share a landlord and at this point as I listen to the bird shriek AGAIN, I’m considering making a serious complaint. AIBU?

OP posts:
99bottlesofkombucha · 27/08/2025 00:27

ThatRareLimeFinch · 21/08/2025 23:53

not all cannabis is illegal in the uk though. you can get cannabis on a medical prescription here, through both the nhs (although this is less common) and through private medical pharmacies.

I doubt this is medically prescribed. Somehow.

PixieTales · 27/08/2025 14:58

ThatRareLimeFinch · 21/08/2025 23:53

not all cannabis is illegal in the uk though. you can get cannabis on a medical prescription here, through both the nhs (although this is less common) and through private medical pharmacies.

Unlikely that’s the case but even if it is doesn’t make it any less anti social.

It absolutely stinks, like sweaty armpits.

If people want to smoke it that’s their choice but do it in your own home and stink that out rather than forcing neighbours to put up with the stench.

ThatRareLimeFinch · 29/08/2025 15:04

PixieTales · 27/08/2025 14:58

Unlikely that’s the case but even if it is doesn’t make it any less anti social.

It absolutely stinks, like sweaty armpits.

If people want to smoke it that’s their choice but do it in your own home and stink that out rather than forcing neighbours to put up with the stench.

my point wasn't about the anti social aspect.
it was about people making blanket statements that cannabis is illegal in the uk.

i simply pointed out that, that isn't 100% true.

i'm not saying this is the case in this instance, but medically prescribed cannabis can legally be taken in public spaces.

i do however, think that there should be an element of common courtesy around this.

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