To ask neighbour to close curtains

[Handrearedmagpie]

First of all, I know IABU. It's more a question of HOW unreasonable.
My young DS is autistic, non speaking and has a severe learning disability. Meltdowns are triggered by sudden changes like adverts on the TV. Neighbour diagonally across street from me has very large windows and an ENORMOUS TV. Never shuts her curtains/blinds so DS can watch her TV from our house and fixates on it when his own tablet is removed before bedtime.
Every. Single. Night. It's meltdown when adverts appear on her TV. Obviously I shut our own blinds but he knows her TV is there and just opens them again, or he will go upstairs and hyper focus on her TV from my bedroom window.
How horrendously unreasonable would I be to ask her to close her blinds for half an hour at night just to avoid this nightly hysteria??! I'm at my wits end with it.
YABU - absolutely unreasonable. It's your child's disability to manage.
YANBU - you can only ask and see what she says.

So now people aren't 'normal' because they don't expect the neighbours to want to control when they close or open their own curtains? 🤔🫣🤣

Some people are being weirdly obsessive about arguing with any poster who doesn't share their opinion. Whilst frustratingly they'll no doubt feel they've 'won' if allowed to have the last word sometimes they're best off being ignored. Its like speaking to a lump of wet cement with some people isn't it.

Don’t be a smart arse. Presumably you have some basic grasp of human psychology? Asking puts pressure on the person to say yes. I would definitely say no and I would be annoyed to be asked, but the act of asking would also cause me to feel stressed and uncomfortable, because I hate confrontation, and would also feel self-conscious that this neighbour is monitoring my home and getting upset with me.

The OP wants to guilt-trip a complete stranger to do something in her own home, not just once, but EVERY evening. Anyone who says they’d agree to this stupidity is lying.

Nobody is being weirdly obsessive, it's a discussion thread.

Well have to agree to disagree on that I'm afraid

No she didnt say every evening. She said it would help if it was a week/ a few days to break the association.

Its always the ones with dirty hands that point fingers, the hypocrisy is blinding ☀

Bu the way, other posters have suggested helpful practical solutions to the OP. The suggestion of privacy film over the window in question is a simple and inexpensive solution.

OP also said she had tried putting a lock on the door but her son had broken it - so get it replaced with a more robust lock, perhaps higher up where he can’t reach it.

What kind of person leaves the curtain open! Does the light not shine on their TV?!

Look at it this way:
If you ask her and she says no she will think you’re bonkers
if you ask her and she says yes your problem is solved.

If you don’t mind being thought of as bonkers by a stranger in the pursuit of making your DS’s life easier (which I suspect is the case) than bite the bullet

I have no.idea what you're even talking about or how this is helpful to the thread. Have the day you deserve sweetie

You can form whatever incorrect opinion you like. HTH.

😂

Irony bypass here.

Shut your own curtains and ensure your child stays away from them.

Indeed! It’s going round in circles now so I’m
saving my sanity!
You can’t have a discussion with someone who thinks their opinion is the only right opinion!

She didn’t say that in her OP. She said it as an afterthought once she started getting push-back. And anyway, what if the ‘one week’ trial period worked but then Mrs Jones resumed her old routine and the child’s meltdowns resumed immediately? Then what? Ludicrous.

Sorry answer. Would be no why can't you change your routine to suit your knee d instead of expecting others to accommodate

Another irony bypass. 🤣

RTFT.

The OP has addressed this and said film on the window would likely cause him to headbutt it until he injured himself.

I can’t believe people are being so vile. I don’t have kids or much SEN experience but if a neighbour asked me to close just one of the blinds in a dual aspect room for half an hour per evening for one week to see if it stopped a severely disabled child becoming distraught, of course I would. You’d have to be a selfish arsehole not to.

This is your problem. Find a way to fix it. Leave your poor neighbour alone FFS.

Get a window privacy sticker. I'm sorry. I do feel for you. But it isn't their problem. This level of entitlement really irritates me.

Referring to people as vile for wanting to be responsible for their own curtain closing/opening is a tad OTT.

No. I've read OP's posts and that's still the answer.

I would tell you to bugger off. What I do in my own home is my business

I’d happily oblige.