2.5 year old concerns

[Babymad1234]

Hi everybody
I am a first time mom to an almost 2.5 YO ( 29 months ) and she is giving me a few reasons to be concerned for her development.
Language wise she seems on track with lots of back and forth conversation, albeit basic , lots of asking questions like when she is looking for something she goes “ where is bunny “ mommy what are you doing ? Etc . She answers some basic why’s and what did you do today questions as well . At times , for requests she still relies on single words though like food , milk please mommy . She uses some pronouns like me , my , it , she and me but mixes up you and I sometimes . A bit worried that doesn’t use I many Times and if she jumps in puddles she tells me about the Peppa and George episode jumping in muddy puddles . Is it scripting . If a child takes a toy away “ she won’t react .

Still repeats a lot of what we say but can answer yes and no and make verbal choices

Socially she is very shy but can parallel play with her peers in toddler groups and on several occasions she has exchanged her toys and played on the same toy with another child . She answers questions like what’s your name ? What’s bunny’s name ? How old are you if people ask her . She always follows directions if I ask her to tidy up her toys .

Tantrum wise she definitely has her moments but nothing that resembles to a meltdown. Her tantrums lasts nom more than five minutes and it is not a daily occurrence . She does get frustrated if her toy breaks or can’t do something right .

Sleeps 2 hour nap and from 7pm to 7 am .
Lots of imaginative play with her toys and I can get her to engage in activities for about 10 minutes .

She toe walks and has always done that since she was 14 months but with less regularity now ( only when excited )
She is a bit picky . On a day to day basis she would have breakfast with a cup of milk , multi seeded toast with butter and peanut butter and yogurt snack : almond croissant / banana , milk before nap lunch carrot with egg and mince meatballs ( not homemade ) dinner : homemade tuna sauce pasta with courgette , sponge , banana chips

Which bits are the concerns?

Her behaviour sounds quite normal for a child that age . 🤷‍♀️

She sounds like a great kid ☺️

What are you worried about?
Her development sounds perfectly normal

Nothing concerns me there, I worked in preschool (2-4) and her language sounds good and everything else standard

Sleeps 2 hour nap and from 7pm to 7 am .

Can I swap please? 😂

I cannot work out what you are concerned about! Maybe start her going to nursery if she doesn’t. DC don’t make friends or play collaboratively at 2. She eats. She talks. She plays. She has few tantrums. From 3 I’d definitely be planning nursery.

What are you worried about?

My son is nearly 2.5 and sounds pretty much the same! I have no concerns about him at all - he seems very similar to other kids his age. Some speak a little bit more, some speak a bit less. Some eat more adventurous meals, some hardly eat anything 🤷🏻‍♀️
Nothing in your post seems concerning.

Are you our previous frequent flyer who posted monthly about "mild ASD", Gestalt language development and other concerns? And who was told by many professionals that none of your "concerns" are anything but typical child development?

It may be helpful to note that, in your list, noone can spot which bits you are concerned about.

Dear OP.

Nothing, NOTHING here points to Autism and, from your description, your child sounds like a well-adjusted 2.5 year old.

Yours sincerely,

Parent of actually Autustic 7.5 year old twins

HTH

I wouldn’t be concerned. She’s very young and sounds like she’s doing well. Her diet doesn’t sound “ picky” either.
Please try to enjoy your DD.

When she speaks sometimes she says “ oh that’s a lovely colour “ like it is a script she learned from me

Oh.
Well my slightly older child says, "Good job, Mummy!" And "Well done, Mummy, that's good work!"
Copying is how children learn.

OP, that's exactly what they should be doing - they're learning and they can only learn by example.

She’s fine. They do that at 2. Mine says “oh for goodness sake” when she drops something which is probably a phrase learnt from me. How else do they learn? You are worrying she’s a gestalt processor which is common in autistic kids but there is nothing in your OP that makes me think that. Has she had her two year review? Might help to ease your anxiety because she sounds lovely but extremely normal.

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They all do that @Babymad1234

I've had four, and this is completely normal.

Copying adult utterances is part of language development. All kids do it. You're being over-anxious, OP. First time parent syndrome. Try not to worry, and just enjoy her.

This OP seems to post regularly with concerns over completely normal things.

OP, if you are genuine, the signs of autism you are noticing are things all toddlers do to a greater roe lesser extent. It's when these things persist beyond toddlerhood that you need to worry.

If there are other things that are raising red flags for you then a health or education professional will be better placed to assist you. And they will do so with much more patience and gentleness than Mumsnet!

Top marks for not mentioning echolalia.
Your child is still normal, wonderful.
Sad to hear you are still concerned and haven't got help with your anxiety.

Blunt but so correct. My almost 3 year old has no words at all, barely eats anything and has some sensory issues. Yet even I'm not jumping to autism. You've got absolutely nothing to be worried about

I still don’t follow. Why would this concern you? You must know toddlers copy everything. My 2 year old has come out with some crackers and we had no idea where he got them from and then realised it was from Bluey. It’s sweet and he copies us all the time, hence why adults have been spelling swear words for decades. I regularly say ‘I will lose his S H I T’ when I walk to my husband 😂

I've worked as a preschool manager for 18 years. She sounds very typical to me. I would be worried with copying sentences in speech unless its the only way she does speak.

Thinking with my work cap on and following what we would do with WellComm targets. If you want to push and inbed the use of I. You need to use it first. Its sounds weird but it works so if she askes for a drink. Give her the drink and say "I want a drink please" rather than "do YOU want a drink" or "you're jumping in puddles" use "I'm jumping in puddles. It will and does eventually stick.

Snap. My 30 month old has no words, screeches, spins in circles, flaps his hands, doesnt make eye contact, doesn't respond to his name most of the time, lines up toys, is obsessed with numbers and will only eat a small selection of mostly beige carbohydrates. Even then there's not enough evidence for autism according to the LA.

To be honest I blame social media for the scaremongering. Just enjoy you're amazing child OP, let her copy the quirky things you're saying. Let her dance on her tip toes when she's excited. I'd do anything for my boy to interact like your child is.