2.5 year old concerns

[Babymad1234]

Hi everybody
I am a first time mom to an almost 2.5 YO ( 29 months ) and she is giving me a few reasons to be concerned for her development.
Language wise she seems on track with lots of back and forth conversation, albeit basic , lots of asking questions like when she is looking for something she goes “ where is bunny “ mommy what are you doing ? Etc . She answers some basic why’s and what did you do today questions as well . At times , for requests she still relies on single words though like food , milk please mommy . She uses some pronouns like me , my , it , she and me but mixes up you and I sometimes . A bit worried that doesn’t use I many Times and if she jumps in puddles she tells me about the Peppa and George episode jumping in muddy puddles . Is it scripting . If a child takes a toy away “ she won’t react .

Still repeats a lot of what we say but can answer yes and no and make verbal choices

Socially she is very shy but can parallel play with her peers in toddler groups and on several occasions she has exchanged her toys and played on the same toy with another child . She answers questions like what’s your name ? What’s bunny’s name ? How old are you if people ask her . She always follows directions if I ask her to tidy up her toys .

Tantrum wise she definitely has her moments but nothing that resembles to a meltdown. Her tantrums lasts nom more than five minutes and it is not a daily occurrence . She does get frustrated if her toy breaks or can’t do something right .

Sleeps 2 hour nap and from 7pm to 7 am .
Lots of imaginative play with her toys and I can get her to engage in activities for about 10 minutes .

She toe walks and has always done that since she was 14 months but with less regularity now ( only when excited )
She is a bit picky . On a day to day basis she would have breakfast with a cup of milk , multi seeded toast with butter and peanut butter and yogurt snack : almond croissant / banana , milk before nap lunch carrot with egg and mince meatballs ( not homemade ) dinner : homemade tuna sauce pasta with courgette , sponge , banana chips

Please consider taking a break from social media. The algorithm has picked up on you having a toddler and is now flooding you with content trying to convince you she has autism because the algorithm’s job is to maximise your anxiety and engagement so that you keep consuming this stuff and watching the videos.

If this is the OP everyone thinks it is then she really needs to start questioning herself as to why she so desperately wants her child to be autistic.

My son only speaks one word words at 3.5 and has just been referred for a ASD assessment. I don't think he has said mummy properly yet. What are you worried about? (I appreciate I am lucky compared to the ones whose children are non verbal!)

How come you aren't thinking your child has autism yet? I hope you don't mind me saying but maybe it is worth asking for a referral for ASD.

She sounds a lovely two year old. She will start more social play when she’s 3-4yo and her speech will jump about that age too but she sounds in the normal range right now.

Are they on the waiting list for an assessment? Just mine seems less severe but he is already being put on the waiting list.

Not entirely sure why OP would want her child to be autistic.

Especially as it takes years to get assessed.

But she is learning from you. That's a completely normal part of development. My 2 year old keeps saying, "That's actually...' because she's heard me saying it.

Absolutely nothing you have said would give me any concerns. My 3 year old toe-walked for a while and outgrew it. The rest is completely normal for a child that age. Min3 and 2 and 3 and part of their play and games involves repeating things they've heard and seen, over time and as they get older they start building on this and adapting it more (my 3 year old is now doing this).

Mine managed to pick up “What a twat” from being in the car with me 😂😂😂

Also I still walk on my tiptoes sometimes and I’m 34 and neurotypical. I just like it.

She sounds normal - your insane anxiety very much does not sound normal.

Where did you learn to say “oh that’s a lovely….” ?

from your parents/community/society?

perhaps she’s heard you say it a few times and is testing it out, to check she’s using it in the right context?

pretty certain my (nt now 5 yo) did the same. Especially after hearing stuff on paw patrol. I’d say to her, “where did you learn that?” All the time.

THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH YOUR CHILD !!, it’s almost like some people want a label for children with nothing wrong with them , as a mother of four and now a nan to four , every child is different has different milestones and personalities, Parents with children who have genuine concerns about there child must be so frustrated with these posts ,

Yes we've started getting "well done mummy!" for using the toilet!

I'm assuming this poster has considered it. She's not "jumping to" autism because there are other conditions that might present with similar delays.

OP your examples of "scripting" are nothing of the sort. You're describing normal language acquisition: this kind of copying phrases peaks around 3. Scripting is where a (usually older) child uses scripts exclusively/mostly in place of spontaneous utterances. Eg they always say "Paw patrol is on a roll" when they want to go regardless of the situation, or they said "that's a lovely colour" every time they wanted to express approval, even if they weren't taking about colours. You really need to seek help because you'll ruin your relationship with your perfectly typical child.

Even if she is gestalt processing, that’s fairly normal for all kids until around 30 months anyway

therapyworks.com/blog/child-development/gestalt-language-processor/

Because he's still a toddler with all the different fussiness that some toddlers have. When he's a bit older and if it's still the same, then I'll look at getting him assessed. I think people are far too quick to try and get a diagnosis before ruling other things out

Yep

😂 my eldest picked up similar from DH in the car

Personally I think parents know when there is something amiss even from a young age. I don't think most parents of a child with ADHD or autism actually look for a diagnosis. Have you got a referral for speech therapy?

This is completely normal speech development. They mimic things. My nearly 4yo says "Mamma Mia!" because of Mario and Luigi, he also says things like "You can say that again!" which is hilarious especially when he gets it in exactly the right context. This is how young children learn how sentences work, they borrow things and try them out and then they try bits of their own in them and so on.

It is only of concern for speech development if they speak only in scripting/echolalia and do not use any single words or phrases they have put together themselves. It is absolutely normal for a two year old to use a mixture of single words, gestures, whole learned phrases (scripts) and their own combinations of two or more words, to communicate. It is very good if your daughter is using multiple ways to communicate.

Seeking this kind of reassurance online is unlikely to be helpful for your compulsive thoughts or anxiety, in fact it is known to make these things worse - it would probably be really useful to speak to your GP, not about your daughter but about these worries in general. e.g. How much of your time are they taking up? How often do you google this or look at child development books or post questions on websites like mumsnet? The moments where children use adult turns of phrase are so funny and cute - it's such a shame for you if those are being hijacked by anxiety or obsessive thoughts.

She sounds completely normal op, toddlers repeat what they hear all the time it's how they learn. I'd only be concerned if that's all she did all the time but it sounds like that isn't the case.

Why? The kiddo’s speech development is bang on average.

He's got a hospital appointment next week to check his ears as there is a lot of deafness in my family so they want to rule anything ear related out first. Then HV said they'll refer for the SLT.

I was referring to a different from the OP. Saying no words at nearly three isn't average and it does warrant a check.