2.5 year old concerns

[Babymad1234]

Hi everybody
I am a first time mom to an almost 2.5 YO ( 29 months ) and she is giving me a few reasons to be concerned for her development.
Language wise she seems on track with lots of back and forth conversation, albeit basic , lots of asking questions like when she is looking for something she goes “ where is bunny “ mommy what are you doing ? Etc . She answers some basic why’s and what did you do today questions as well . At times , for requests she still relies on single words though like food , milk please mommy . She uses some pronouns like me , my , it , she and me but mixes up you and I sometimes . A bit worried that doesn’t use I many Times and if she jumps in puddles she tells me about the Peppa and George episode jumping in muddy puddles . Is it scripting . If a child takes a toy away “ she won’t react .

Still repeats a lot of what we say but can answer yes and no and make verbal choices

Socially she is very shy but can parallel play with her peers in toddler groups and on several occasions she has exchanged her toys and played on the same toy with another child . She answers questions like what’s your name ? What’s bunny’s name ? How old are you if people ask her . She always follows directions if I ask her to tidy up her toys .

Tantrum wise she definitely has her moments but nothing that resembles to a meltdown. Her tantrums lasts nom more than five minutes and it is not a daily occurrence . She does get frustrated if her toy breaks or can’t do something right .

Sleeps 2 hour nap and from 7pm to 7 am .
Lots of imaginative play with her toys and I can get her to engage in activities for about 10 minutes .

She toe walks and has always done that since she was 14 months but with less regularity now ( only when excited )
She is a bit picky . On a day to day basis she would have breakfast with a cup of milk , multi seeded toast with butter and peanut butter and yogurt snack : almond croissant / banana , milk before nap lunch carrot with egg and mince meatballs ( not homemade ) dinner : homemade tuna sauce pasta with courgette , sponge , banana chips

Your child sounds perfectly normal
to me, everything you have said, we have been through will similar age DD. Including the food preferences (things she has gone off now will
come roaring back), “scripted” answers (she will have picked up the phrase from somewhere and is applying it).

My advice is to chill out and let your child be. Sounds like she is doing great.

@Babymad1234 you actually pm'd this user about their 20 year old thread?! That is seriously batshit and proof of how obsessed you are. I've read your previous posts and you really do seem determined to find something wrong with your DD, even though everything you describe sounds absolutely normal for her age. You have to address this, it's gone on far too long and I can't see how you can just enjoy your daughter when you're constantly analysing everything about her. It's more than anxiety; other's have mentioned Munchausen's by Proxy and I definitely think that's possible.

Go to your GP - about you, not your daughter. Your daughter is fine.

I have aversions to Brie; nobody likes every thing.

I didn’t start liking mushrooms till my 40s.

it’s more normal for kids to be fussy than happily eat anything

I completely agree. The OP has a track of asking for updates on threads that are several years old. It must be so upsetting for the posters who are going through genuine challenges. PMing a poster about a post from 20 years ago is absolutely insane.

i have anxiety but this is so far beyond this. No sane mother would worry about things like language acquisition, pronoun reversal, gestalt language whatever and over analyse her daughter the way she does. There's no warmth or love when she speaks about her daughter, she speaks her about some of labatory project, constantly observed and analysed for the tiniest behaviour. There's no enjoying her daughter at all.

I feel MN need to remove these posts when they come up. As no doubt the OP, will ignore everything on this thread and be back once again with a new username and another post about another non issue.

Oh she'll absolutely be back in a few weeks, and there will be people who have never come across her before trying to give help and advice. Probably people who have genuine reasons for concern about their own children. And as always she won't engage with anyone who tells her that her DD is developing normally for a child that age.

It's very worrying behaviour, and a little scary. WHY does the OP seem so hell bent on diagnosing her DD with ASD?! And how long is this going to go on for? Has the OP ever mentioned her DD's father? Or friends and family? Surely there's somebody that could help facilitate the OP getting some help because I actually dread to think how this is all going to pan out for the child!

Toddlers copy and repeat everything its perfectly normal, i have absolutely no idea what your concerns are she sounds like a normal 2yo