2.5 year old concerns

[Babymad1234]

Hi everybody
I am a first time mom to an almost 2.5 YO ( 29 months ) and she is giving me a few reasons to be concerned for her development.
Language wise she seems on track with lots of back and forth conversation, albeit basic , lots of asking questions like when she is looking for something she goes “ where is bunny “ mommy what are you doing ? Etc . She answers some basic why’s and what did you do today questions as well . At times , for requests she still relies on single words though like food , milk please mommy . She uses some pronouns like me , my , it , she and me but mixes up you and I sometimes . A bit worried that doesn’t use I many Times and if she jumps in puddles she tells me about the Peppa and George episode jumping in muddy puddles . Is it scripting . If a child takes a toy away “ she won’t react .

Still repeats a lot of what we say but can answer yes and no and make verbal choices

Socially she is very shy but can parallel play with her peers in toddler groups and on several occasions she has exchanged her toys and played on the same toy with another child . She answers questions like what’s your name ? What’s bunny’s name ? How old are you if people ask her . She always follows directions if I ask her to tidy up her toys .

Tantrum wise she definitely has her moments but nothing that resembles to a meltdown. Her tantrums lasts nom more than five minutes and it is not a daily occurrence . She does get frustrated if her toy breaks or can’t do something right .

Sleeps 2 hour nap and from 7pm to 7 am .
Lots of imaginative play with her toys and I can get her to engage in activities for about 10 minutes .

She toe walks and has always done that since she was 14 months but with less regularity now ( only when excited )
She is a bit picky . On a day to day basis she would have breakfast with a cup of milk , multi seeded toast with butter and peanut butter and yogurt snack : almond croissant / banana , milk before nap lunch carrot with egg and mince meatballs ( not homemade ) dinner : homemade tuna sauce pasta with courgette , sponge , banana chips

Again?! WHY do you keep posting when everyone has told you time and time again there are no concerns.

Sounds like my situation too. Deafness in the family. Mine can hear as they have confirmed and is awaiting some SALT intervention.

Oh ok. Perhaps quote the one you’re referring to - I’d worry that this particular OP would leap on this to add fuel to her UR anxiety!!

I’m not sure what your question is.

she sounds like a normal 2.5 year old. I have a 2.5 year old and a 4.5 year old and they are/were very similar at that age.

I think it's that poster as well

They do sound scripted at times at this age - my 2.5yo said today when it started raining, ‘we’ll that’ll be good for the plants then’ 🤣🤣🤣

Yeah it’s normal.

Oh it’s you again. Your kid is still fine.

My daughter is around the same age and sounds very similar to yours. She sounds perfectly normal.

Yes, you are being unreasonable. My son turned 3 this month. He is autistic and has a large team of professionals involved to help support his needs. He sleeps 4-5 hours per night, is delayed in every area of development and has been having ASQ checks every 12 weeks since just before 2 years old because of his delays. He eats nothing but rice, bread and crackers. He harms himself on a daily basis, runs into walls and bangs his head against the floor, bites himself to the point of bleeding.

It honestly sounds like you're bragging about a child who is doing exceptionally well and I'm unsure which part of your child's development you're concerned about because everything you've said sounds very typical and very braggy tbh.

And OP should be glad it was nothing worse than that - I discovered with my first how much they copy, when she dropped her doll and bent to pick it up whilst holding her back (I was pregnant) and muttering “for fuck sake” under her breath 😅🤦🏼‍♀️

It's annoying when you know they can hear but they won't do the SLT until they've checked the ears isn't it. He had to wait 40 weeks just to get that appointment 😡

Same. My son doesn't speak many words at all but they are always clear and pronounced well. He definitely isn't deaf. He can hear a biscuit packet across the room! Luckily my son is now being prioritised because we had been waiting since last July.

🤣 mine always hears a biscuit packet too. Glad to hear he's being prioritised. It's just so wrong that they make you wait so long in the first place. Let's hope we both get some answers sooner rather than later 😊

This poster , who I am assuming is the 'obsessed with ASD' poster that people are referring to PM'd me recently regarding a post of mine from over 20 years ago when I was worried about my DS . She was asking how things had turned out!
She seriously needs help . Not only that but she is incredibly insensitive to anyone who has a child/children with ASD. The implication being that this is the worst possible thing that could ever happen to HER!

They rejected the referral from earlier in the year said it's too early to determine and they needed to wait until they are 3. They suggested re referral a couple months before he turns 3 so we are just waiting to send the paper work in. It's not too bad because we are getting more 'evidence'. I think it's LA dependant because I know someone in a neighbouring district who got a diagnosis earlier on and again their child seems less severe. We have 2 school years until he starts so I'm trying to trust the process.

I was thinking we hadn't had a post from you in a while. As someone said top marks for not mentioning gestalt language, echolalia and Afrid.

I saw another post a couple of days ago and Gestslt language was used
The problem is many posters do reply in good faith with their own experiences and it's not helping the Op at all

Hard agree with this.

She'll latch on to anyone who validates her concerns and ignore the rest.

Terribly sad for the little girl behind all this, who sounds like a perfectly normal, lovely child, whos mother for some reason is obsessed with her being ND.

Its modern Munchausens by proxy.

Please please get help OP.

She sounds like a completley normal and lovely two and a half year old. Please don't diagnose your child before she has even gone to school. From experience as a teacher children do better without a diagnosis so long as their issues aren't causing serious obstruction to their learning. But anyway, your child doesn't fall into this category she's developing very normally.

I must have missed the previous post but I absolutely agree. I've given up typing anything useful for the OP as it's ignored and then she'll go off on a completely different tangent.

I really hope the OP gets help for herself for the sake of her daughter. I have genuine concerns for her daughter, not for her development but for how obsessive the OP is in that their must be something wrong.

@Babymad1234 Your child sounds completely neuro typical. However I think you definitely need help. You are overly anxious and seem to be looking for issues. This will start to affect your child if you don't get help for yourself as soon as you can

I am also struggling with food at moment . I mean I feed her but she is capable of self feeding and she seems to recoils from heathy food . She tries everything new even if it s just a bite .

So what are you complaining about? That's completely normal at her age. You're just bragging at this point. All of your concerns are just braggy little messages about how typical your daughter is and is a slap in the face to people with children with real delays and diagnoses. Stop being so desperate to have a ND child.

Oh please