To think this behaviour can be seen a bit rude?

[Ffghdss]

We are from an Indian family and DS has a name that often goes mispronounced. It never really bothered him. In sixth form the school opens up to externals and becomes mixed so there's new people to meet.

In class his table were chatting and DS said something around the lines "well this is actually how my name is pronounced". One (white) girl on the table found this absolutely hilarious and made attempts to pronounce DS's name correctly. She pronounces it like 3/4 correctly and makes a genuine attempt. I don't think that's an issue and think it's nice.

But DS told me that the first time she attempted to say his name she burst into a fit of giggles. DS tells me now every time she says his name she'll laugh a bit and giggle to herself. DS personally doesn't mind as he's got a crush on her.

It was just that he was telling me about her and how she's one of the few people that make an attempt to actually say it's name how it's actually pronounced. But it's just for some reason she finds it "funny" and laughs after saying his name.

When DH and I moved to the UK we didn't let people say our names in a different way just so it was easier for others to pronounce. I don't like the idea of this person thinking DS's name is a "funny foreign name".

Exactly. Thank you for understanding. I'm worried this person thinks DS's name is "silly" and "foreign".

She might, but who cares what she thinks. Him ignoring it is his way of dealing with it, so I think you should let him manage it the way he wants to. Hopefully he'll realise what a dick she is anyway, and not want to be friends with her at some point

To be honest, it’s not so much this girl that bothers me, it’s the tidal wave of presumably adult posters on here defending her. It’s actually quite shocking.

@CurlewKateyes quite.
I wonder how many of the posters on here have thought about how this might feel, your name is part of your identity. It’s also a big signifier of culture. If I sent CVs in with Paula Garcia Lopez rather than Paula Cole, I would get very different reactions when I showed up, add race into it as well, you can understand OP’s discomfort with the girls behaviour.

Sounds like she’s flirting with him

Why do people say this after I say that DS told me she turned him down?

Thank you. DS's name is very important to me. He's my first born and I named him

Because no woman has ever flirted with someone they don’t want to date?

Mocking someone isn't flirting ffs 🙄

Ignorance.

Thank you. DS's name is very important to me. He's my first born and I named him

Of course it is. People often mispronounce my son's name - the equivalent of pronouncing Daniel as Danielle. It upset him as a child and irritates him as an adult. Especially when he has corrected them and they still do it.

So, yes, it's rude. And it's racist.

Repeatedly mispronouncing someone's name and laughing because it sounds 'funny' to their ears is a micro aggression.

If someone has told you the correct pronunciation of their name, you should be able to use it, whatever their name is without giggling when you say it.

When I was at primary school, there was one Indian girl in the whole school and she happened to be in my class. Most of us had never met a non white person before. And yet we all still managed to get her name right and without without laughing.

There is no excuse or defence.

I've changed my mind @Ffghdss I think DS should ask her what exactly she's finding so funny rather than ignore it. Or maybe he should imitate her back so she can see how ridiculous she is

Exactly. There's no need to giggle at his name and find it amusing every single time.

There are too many people on MN who can read minds. Especially over the Internet.

People mispronounce my names often and yet I rarely bother to correct them. Life is too short....

I think DS probably wouldn't do this because he's got a crush on her is probably just happy that she's smiling and laughing around him.

All I know about this was that he told me about her into "bumped into X at a the party, she's one of the few people who tries to say my name the correct way"

You'll be much happier when you tell him to stay away from her. Just do it, no need for approval from people on here.

Good luck telling someone in sixth form who they can and can’t associate with

I'm not going to say anything. I just wanted to know if what she did was okay. I always thought that it's not.

Not to me.

The baby name threads on AIBU say it all. Plus, where else would most children be learning to make fun of names they’ve never heard of, parents are bad if not worse when it comes to making fun of children’s names.

I think it says a lot about a person to make fun of anyone’s name and even more so to make excuses for such behaviour.