Why’s my sofa in your lounge?

[BdayQ]

We are in the process of moving house and are currently in a rental whilst we wait for the new house to be ready (expecting it to be about 6 months)
We have a fairly new 3 piece suite but only room for the chairs in the rental place, so ILs offered to store the sofa until the new house is ready. They have a big house and said it could go in a downstairs bedroom that never gets used. DH took it over in a van and took into the room it was supposed to stay in.
Anyway, we’ve come to stay with them today for a couple of days, went to see SIL this evening and there’s our sofa in her living room with a toddler and a dog sat on it! No covers or anything and just sat there like it’s supposed to be there.
DH didn’t know it was there either until we saw it but he wasn’t saying anything, so it was left for me to question why it was there… nobody could give a good reason why it’s at SILs house and were looking at me like I was mad for asking. DH then said we wanted it back in the spare room at ILs house rather than being used in SILs heavy footfall house and potentially getting damaged.
We did say if there was a problem storing it at ILs as per the agreed plan, it wasn’t a problem and we could arrange a storage unit instead. ILs just looked surprised/confused and said it was fine to move it back to theirs “if that’s what you want” in a bewildered sort of way. Apparently SIL scoffed like we were idiots for even bringing it up and said “FFS, what do you think it’s going to happen to your precious sofa?!” although that was when I was out of the room and DH only told me later that she said that.
AITA here? I pretty much know I’m not, but ILs and SILs reaction suggest they think there’s nothing wrong with moving it - but the audacity! And why the secrecy? Apparently they didn’t tell us because it wasn’t a big deal. But like I say, there’s also seemingly no good reason for it to have been moved, they’ve not even attempted to give a reason/excuse, just the offer to move it back to ILs “if that’s what you want.”

I was going to ask if your sister in law didn't have a sofa, but then read your update and she does so that's just bizarre.

Oh I can so imagine MIL and SIL saying “seems a shame for that to take up space when it could be put to good use!”

Some people can be very lacking in boundaries when it comes to family property!

No dog is truly hypoallergenic.

HTH.

I love dogs but wouldn't want one on my sofa, yuk! You can smell a dog as soon as you walk into the house, and if you can't, you're nose blind!

Im really curious where is her sofa?!?!

And it'll soon be a "you don't really need it back do you? THINK OF SIL CHILDREN! they won't have a sofaaa!!"

I’m not sure it’s about hating dogs.
I have a dog, a child, and also a sofa. I’d be incredibly annoyed if someone else’s dog and child(ren) wrecked my sofa when they weren’t meant to have it in the first place! I can’t smell my own dog in my own home but I can smell others it’s not because they are dirty, it’s just things have a smell.

You're being ridiculous! I love dogs but I don't want someone else's dog (or toddler) on my sofa. And the cleanest dog in the world is still going to have dirty/shitty paws.
You have no idea if OP's sofa has removable covers or not (and even if it does, they never look quite the same when they've been washed).

SIL thought she'll have it, ruin it then you won't want it and she'll get to keep it.

Simple.

And yes, it's horrid. And they/she had zero right to take it and not tell you. I'd be fuming and have it straight back.

So it was supposed to be at ILs in a room that's never used?

So how did it end up at SIL's?

Who said what?

"We're storing BdayQ 's sofa"

"Oooh no, I'll have it"!

"We'll bring it over"

Not weird they are proper cheeky fuckers using it like it was their own. No way. I would not trust the person who was originally storing it tbh they all knew and didn’t care. You should pay for storage before they ruin it omg got to be one of the worst cheeky bastards on here. They are all being utterly unreasonable.

That is so bizarre, no wonder you are raging

What a complete bunch of CF's!

I’d start calling them the outlaws.
What brass neck cheek - get it out if there fast.
Never ask for a favour from the outlaws again!

It can be cleaned but what if some one spills some thing that will not wash out? And if a lot of ppl pass through using the sofa it will be flattened seating.

@BdayQ you are definitely not being unreasonable, I’d be very pissed off.

Tell SIL she can keep it and she can pay you the full price for a new one

Get it back and don't ask them for any favours ever again. I would hit the fucking roof. They all sound like complete twatwaffles.

I just can't see the benefit to her in 'borrowing' it. Surely she'd know you'd want it back with little notice leaving her with a gaping hole and no settee.

Buying a new couch isn't that straight forward.

So I reckon she knowingly threw out/gave away her old couch with the intention to take your one and keep it permanently! Cheeky cow! Otherwise why would she have conveniently got space for it?!

The amount of effort lugging the bloody thing about alone would make me think there must have been a fair amount of planning involved in the couch napping.

This is so the kind of shit certain members of my family would do and think people were being "OCD" (and OTT) for being pissed off about it. Lesson learnt - they just will never 'get it' so don't entrust something you want taken care of with them ever again. They genuinely don't and won't get it - there's no point falling out with them over it unless you actively want to.

What on earth state would it have been in after six months?

You paid good money to enjoy a brand new sofa. If you'd wanted one that had been used for six months by kids and a dog, you'd have bought one from Facebook marketplace for a fraction of the price.

This is an insane situation, and all the more so because none of the in-laws can see that it is

You love dogs, but then say yuk! Someone who loves dogs wouldn’t say that.
I’ve never walked into someone’s home and could smell their dog, nothing wrong with my sense of smell.People who care about their dogs, bathe them regularly, change their bedding, put covers on their furniture and make sure they’re fleaed and have their vaccinations Getting back to the thread, l agree with op, personally l wouldn’t let my dog go on someone else’s sofa, that’s just down to manners, courtesy.
Doesn’t sound good, the houses you go into because it definitely sounds like their dogs are being neglected.

I can love dogs and not want one on my couch. I have never met anyone who's house doesn't smell like dog if they have a dog. I would get a dog, but I don't want my house to smell.

Nope. A toddler and a dog very much can ruin a sofa which has only a limited lifespan anyway. Not a reasonable analogy at all.

Oh stop with the “hater” nonsense. Are you 15?

That sofa has had a dog’s minging arsehole sat on it and is most likely covered in greasy dog hair. It’ll stink. That’s before any damage from toddlers jumping up and down on it. I’d be fuming.

Right. Our dog passed not so long ago. We were both absolutely heartbroken and still miss him terribly, and if we could have him back we would do so in a heartbeat.

But - we reluctantly were talking the other day about how much cleaner the house is, dog hairs to a minimum, doggy smell dissipating. It takes less to hoover, mop and tidy. He had several dog beds through the house and he still sneaked onto the couches when he could, we tried to avoid it, he had a good sized back garden to play in, and he still managed to get his hairs everywhere. He was a short haired dog and he was bathed regularly and he still smelled of dog, because all dogs do.

Again, we would have him back, we loved him, it wasn't his fault and it was part of the bargain we accepted when we brought him home.

But we won't be getting another dog for the foreseeable future and this is why, dogs are dirty and they smell of dog. ALL of them - and that cannot be avoided or denied.

People who cannot smell dogs must live in a constant smell to the point where they no longer notice it.

It is the height of rudeness and pure entitled ignorance to let a dog onto someone else's sofa without their permission.