Why’s my sofa in your lounge?

[BdayQ]

We are in the process of moving house and are currently in a rental whilst we wait for the new house to be ready (expecting it to be about 6 months)
We have a fairly new 3 piece suite but only room for the chairs in the rental place, so ILs offered to store the sofa until the new house is ready. They have a big house and said it could go in a downstairs bedroom that never gets used. DH took it over in a van and took into the room it was supposed to stay in.
Anyway, we’ve come to stay with them today for a couple of days, went to see SIL this evening and there’s our sofa in her living room with a toddler and a dog sat on it! No covers or anything and just sat there like it’s supposed to be there.
DH didn’t know it was there either until we saw it but he wasn’t saying anything, so it was left for me to question why it was there… nobody could give a good reason why it’s at SILs house and were looking at me like I was mad for asking. DH then said we wanted it back in the spare room at ILs house rather than being used in SILs heavy footfall house and potentially getting damaged.
We did say if there was a problem storing it at ILs as per the agreed plan, it wasn’t a problem and we could arrange a storage unit instead. ILs just looked surprised/confused and said it was fine to move it back to theirs “if that’s what you want” in a bewildered sort of way. Apparently SIL scoffed like we were idiots for even bringing it up and said “FFS, what do you think it’s going to happen to your precious sofa?!” although that was when I was out of the room and DH only told me later that she said that.
AITA here? I pretty much know I’m not, but ILs and SILs reaction suggest they think there’s nothing wrong with moving it - but the audacity! And why the secrecy? Apparently they didn’t tell us because it wasn’t a big deal. But like I say, there’s also seemingly no good reason for it to have been moved, they’ve not even attempted to give a reason/excuse, just the offer to move it back to ILs “if that’s what you want.”

They've all got access to a phone to ask OP would she mind.
They did it quietly because they hoped she wouldn't realise or if she did, she'd be too embarrassed to demand it back and they could write it off as the sil "storing" it for her.

I think your ILs are really cheeky they should have asked you.
Generally it is not a good idea to store your things in someone else’s property.
All dogs smell but some owners get blind to the smell of their dog.

Yeah, they totally did not expect to get busted, so had to downplay the sheer CF-ery of their behaviour because there is literally no explanation that would make this ok.

That's bonkers. But if SIL didn't need the sofa, we're your ILs keen for her to take it instead? Then you go off the deep end because WTF (understandably) and she's offended because she was doing her parents a favour and you've made her feel like her kids are too filthy to sit on it?

Sil obv has a huge living room if can fit in a corner sofa - 2 seat sofa and 2 chairs Plus your own sofa

misses point of Thread 😂

but yes cheeky

so you will have 5 grubby fingers if kids on it and a slobbering dog

def get it moved

if it wouldn’t have been an issue why didn’t they say to you …….

I'd be furious about that especially having a dog parked on it. Totally unacceptable 😑.
I would suggest that they keep that sofa and purchase another new sofa for you in 6 months time when you need it.

Totally agree. As a child my Mum was widowed and money was tight, so 'things' were precious and cared for. Family over the road were really well off (lovely too) and had so much more than us. BUT nothing was ever cared for, dog all over carpets and sofa with muddy paws, new vacuum trashed in a year as never put away and left out in the rain, watches etc regularly lost! Oh and they were the only people I have ever known who regularly ran out of petrol! They never understood we cared for things as there was no money to replace them!

Dogs smell, even well looked after dogs still smell at times. They walk outside through all sorts then put their paws on the sofa. They go to the toilet then put that bare bum on the sofa. I don’t hate dogs either but I know full well it’s gross

This! I’d be more concerned about the 5 kids than the dog.

Agree with this - it’s a dog bed. Cheeky fuckers.

Their reaction is so weird and gaslighting. Making you feel like you’re the crazy one

How absolutely unbelievable.

They are unhinged and complete cheeky fxxkers.

That would be the end of my relationship with ILs and SIL. Rude, gaslighting and very odd.

Like a couple of other posters, my own mother gave my stuff away. (I was in my early 20s and travelling, she had lots of room including an internal garage where my stuff was stored carefully and temporarily and utterly not in her way.

The irreplaceable art deco antique bed head and bed end I had bought for myself with money from my first job, and cherished?
Gone when I got back. Someone from her church had, “needed a bed.”

My cherished record collection? She’d sold
it.

Utterly bewildering. Still pisses me off.

This is crazy!! 🤪

Wow entitled and gaslighters. Very weird family if you ask me. I would have been raging

CF sofa-stealers.
They knew it was wrong because they didn’t ask you or tell you.
I would go nuclear.

I'd be bloody furious if I were OP.

I know someone with five children and a dog and, believe me, their sofa, which isn't very old, is filthy.

I have a small dog, who I love dearly, but I always have a throw on my sofa so that I can take it off and wash it because she's a dog and dogs are not clean.

I certainly wouldn't want someone else's dog and their children climbing all over my sofa.

Storage immediately. They should pay for a deep clean. What cf.

AITA here? This isn't Reditt. 😆
However YANBU.

CF behaviour at its best

personally i would take it elsewhere to store now

Such CF territory!!

DD and BF have a brand new bed stored and his brother tried to take it ‘just for now’ who wants a soon to be newly weds sleeping in their bed?

Honestly I believe it totally!

Did they hope that you wouldn't notice it among the other furniture at SIL's or that when they returned it , it was in worse condition than when you left it with them?

I hope you've rescued it. Entitled fuckers.

I would be absolutely raging!! How dare they. I have 5 kids, they absolutely destroy our sofas.