To ask what you think to this? Is it selfish?

[Curlytwirly1]

If you knew that a single parent took a DC with active chicken pox to a shop? If they couldn’t get a delivery slot, and had no one to drop food off but fridge/cupboards empty.

So this single parent, with no support network who lives rurally and can’t get a delivery slot with any supermarket despite it not being Christmas / Covid etc…. Doesn’t have a tin of beans / soup / slice of slightly stale bread to put in toaster, bag of pasta and some oil? Literally… nothing

Those suggesting delivery- it’s often ridiculously expensive. A single parent often has a strict budget.

not everyone drives either.

It’s a hard situation

You don’t know any other parents from your child’s school?

I think there are very few people who wouldnt respond to e.g a Class WhatsApp appeal for assistance in those circumstances.

You don’t know your neighbours at all?

Or a friend of your parents?

For balance - I reckon loads of people just carry on as usual with a child with chickenpox if they’re not unwell.

Covid is also dangerous to vulnerable groups but advice is to carry on as usual.

I didn't say I would take a highly contagious child out - was just responding to all the comments about how easy it is to get same day delivery. Up until six months ago, it wouldn't have been possible in our area unless you had a friend or relative who could help.

Very selfish.

Can you not ask a neighbour? Put a plea out on Facebook? Text a parent you know from school? What about a dog walker or something who might be willing to help out.

I would go to a large garage and park up and dash in for essentials until I could get a food delivery. Or I would do a click and collect order at a supermarket as you can usually get those more easily than delivery slots (appreciate this assumes that you can drive).

If I was desperate, I'd ask on my local Facebook page if anyone could help. Surprising how lovely some people can be.

In your situation I’d drive to a nearby local shop and just run in for essentials leaving kids in the car.
I don’t think I’d say it was selfish to take the dc in if you literally have no other choice but if there’s a way around it you should be taking it for the benefit of others. But for you, feeding your children is the top of your priorities, that and getting medication.

I wouldn’t judge as (a) I am a lone parent and I know how tough life is sometimes and (b) I think the most contagious time is before the spots come out.

I would think that was pretty bad behaviour, sorry, unless things are really desperate.

Unless your cash situation is really dire and your really don't have any food you can get by on for a day or two, then I would book a delivery for a day or two's time and manage until then. If necessary, as part of "managing until then" I would either park outside a small local shop and grab a few things quickly and/or ask someone local to get a few things for you (local FB group? parents' WA group). Only if you really, really couldn't do any of those things would I take child in a shop (keeping a distance from everyone else)

Very selfish. Theres pregnant women and immunocompromised people. They should ask a neighbour to go

It's not the best for other people especially those vulnerable but it is best for this person's child to have food/medicine. That person will (I would hope) put their child's needs first and get them the food/supplies they need. Is it selfish? Yes but sometimes selfish is necessary

Yes, selfish. They could do click and collect so drive somewhere and collect the food within the hour.

I live in a town yet NONE of those options are available here. You can’t presume that everyone lives in large towns/cities where all of these are readily available. If I were the OP, I’d be stuck too. If I were lucky, I’d be able to get a slot the next day.

I used to live rurally and didn’t drive/had no support and so there’s no way I could have had shopping dropped off.

I’d not want to drag my child out unnecessarily and so I’d try not to take them out and leave it at least another day or 2.

But if you genuinely have no food in the house etc then you don’t have any other choice.

If you drive, you could go to a corner shop where you can park outside and just get the bits you need whilst she waits in the car.

I don’t see it as an issue! As long as they don’t touch anyone and keep them from touching things I don’t see the issue.

Not everywhere has Amazon fresh or uber groceries. I don’t in my area. I can only get next day delivery

Exactly this!
There is always hysteria on here if anyone mentions leaving the house with so much as a sniffle.....
As long as you cover your child (long sleeves/trousers) and don't allow them to cough and splutter over the produce the chances of anyone catching anything are very remote.
Since Covid people seem to want to isolate with every single disease. Unfortunately if we all do that immunity will drop and we will end up sick/dying from things we would previously fought off easily.
If people are vulnerable to certain things would it not make sense for them to be getting regular home deliveries rather than expecting the population to grind to a hault and isolate every time a bug goes around?

Oh, before anyone dives on me my husband was in the clinically vulnerable category during covid....

It’s chickenpox not the plague. A quick run in and make sure he doesn’t touch anything is reasonable.

Garage OP.

You might not be too worried about him getting ill but lots of other people do actually care about and want to protect the vulnerable people.