Dressing kids in matching clothes

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I don’t like parents dressing their kids of the same gender in the same clothes - twins and siblings about 15 months in difference.

Have friends who have nieces, nephews wearing the same clothes all the time. The children are individual, so treat them like they are.

it may look cute but it’s going towards resentment later on. As I have friends who were dressed in the same clothes as their sister as a child and hated it. They do have kids of the same gender. The only time they wear the same matching clothes is school uniform.

Didn’t see your post before I posted 🤦🏼‍♀️

I match my boy/girl children. Now is that better or worse than matching same sex? 🤣

I dress my kids the same or in the same colours when we do day trips. It make it easier to identify them.

When we were children my mum used to make a lot of clothes for my DSis and me and we often had the same style but different fabric or different style but same fabric or the same but a different colour. I'm not sure we always wore them at the same time though. We are both grandmothers now and definitely not traumatised!

I dont like it either unless kids are chosing to match. Personally I would always dress them differently.

Not as bad as the Xmas PJ'S though when you have 4 generations all wearing the same, that is so cringy 😂. Great Grandad Bert all the way down to little Ivy-Rose dressed in Matalans finest 🙈.

I hate it. I know a mum who has two boys, two years apart and she dresses them like twins. They’re the polar opposite of eachother and considering one is secondary school age - there’s no way he wants this. Literally, from the colour of their socks to the style of their hair - they’re dressed exactly the same head to toe. I don’t know why people do it? My mum had twins and she never dressed them the same past the age of like 3 as she acknowledged they were individuals who had their own personalities and their clothing represented that.

Yes, I've only got one and it's a complete tragedy to her when she grows out of something. It was the same with my stepdaughter at the same age and I had to take too-small clothes away or she'd keep squeezing into them!

Matching PJs at Christmas is so chavvy

My sister and I loved dressing the same when we were little!

I have twins and nearly always dress them in matching clothes or sometimes the same dress but different colours. I dgaf if you or anyone else doesn't like it. They are my children not yours and I think they look cute and so do a lot of others. They are still toddlers but if they get older and want to dress differently then that will be up to them. Not you or anyone else.
Not sure why you are so bothered by how other people dress their children?!

The only thing that will "cause resentment" is forcing children to do something they dont feel comfortable with.

If the child is happy to match
Happy to wear the same as mum/dad. Then let them they will eventually outgrow it and find their own style.

If you force them to always match or always wear matching w siblings or parents yes that can cause resentment. Doing it when them being happy wont.

Also while dressing like mum or dad is not my thing its not "wrong" its just not something I (or op clearly) would choose to do. Means someone has a different opinion to you. Thats ok.

This is what I was going to say! Each to their own but I just think it looks tacky.
I know a couple of adults that coordinate the colour of their tops too. Why?!!!

Aw I love them, I think it’s so cute, and not remotely chavvy. I do draw the line at spending £18 on pyjamas for the dog though 😅

Saw two sisters aged 3 and 6 - at a guess. The older one was screaming at her mum why does she have to dress her little sister.

Oh dear

I think it looks naff.

In the 80s sitcom, Ever Decreasing Circles, there was a couple called Howard and Hilda. They often wore the same jumper or his n hers of the same pattern.

My DM calls couples who wear similar or matching coats, jumpers (excluding uniform) Howard and Hilda

Im on holiday and just seen 2 boys matching. Older one looked to be about 13. Youngest was 5. My 13 year old would be horrified if I suggested he match his younger sibling!

he does have friends though who are 13 and 15 yo brothers and they are always dressed in matching clothes on their holidays too. Absolutely baffles me that they’re fine with this at their ages.

it does seem to be quite popular on holiday for some reason

This.

My girls (ds couldn't care what he was wearing) loved to dress the same. I'd hear one of them go into the other's room first thing and say "shall we be twins today" and then the discussion about which particular outfit they'd wear.

They did this until they were about 12 and 9yo.

I only had them dressed alike when younger if it was a special occasion because most of their clothes were from charity shops so they didn't normally have matching outfits.

My mum did this to me and my two brothers - it's not just when they're the same gender. Usually my mum would find a similar skirt or something, but I've never been particularly feminine so it was usually the same trousers and shirts as them. I hated it, I never did that to my DC. No idea why she thought it was a good idea, I felt it was a bit cringe

Are we talking full on matching from headbands to socks or the same M&S 2 for £9 dress bought in age 3-4 and age 5-6? Because I couldn't care one way or the other is my daughters wear the same M&S dress or not and certainly haven't conditioned them (heck, if I could my elder child wouldn't wear half the awful hair accessories she chooses) but some days they end up matching and most days not.

I don't buy the argument about dressing children as individuals. I let my children choose what is in their wardrobes but like most children, they have a mix of hand me downs, clothes bought as gifts and things I've picked up that I've liked. Mostly they like it all but it's not inextricably linked to their personalities, otherwise children wouldn't ever wear hand me downs. They're just clothes.

It’s what I call a wannabe middle class thing. Someone in our family dresses their girls aged 7 and 10 the same . You can see the embarrassment on the 10 year olds face.

If the 10 yo is so downtrodden and obedient that she can be forced to wear clothes she doesn't want to wear on a daily basis, the problems run FAR deeper than matching with siblings. 10 yos in healthy families are more than capable of saying, "I don't want to wear that." For that matter, so are 7 yos.

My Mum used to dress my sister and I - 16 month age difference -.identically. We hated it.
I've got sororal twins and I've never dressed them in matching outfits. I don't find it cute at all.

I don’t particularly like it either, for twins or siblings. Maybe a special photo, but day to day, no.

Yes. I’ve always disliked siblings in matching outfits (and even now, the colour coordinated families because they’re always just beige and cream!) BUT the first time I read about being out with kids matching for safety reasons it was a complete 180°: ingenious. I know some people take a photo of the kid before the outing, but I would not be that organized.

For clarification purposes I have siblings and if my parents tried to get me the same dress as my younger sister I would have been fuming.