Dressing kids in matching clothes

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I don’t like parents dressing their kids of the same gender in the same clothes - twins and siblings about 15 months in difference.

Have friends who have nieces, nephews wearing the same clothes all the time. The children are individual, so treat them like they are.

it may look cute but it’s going towards resentment later on. As I have friends who were dressed in the same clothes as their sister as a child and hated it. They do have kids of the same gender. The only time they wear the same matching clothes is school uniform.

Your infants get upset if you don’t buy matching?

Honestly, I think it looks a bit naff. I did have matching Christmas outfits for mine; he had a jumper and she had a dress in the same pattern but I do think it looks a bit silly. But it doesn’t harm anyone.

This. I bought 9yo a Pokemon t shirt then the 7yo also wanted it too! Their choices🤷‍♀️

Nice for pictures

Argh so wrong😖

In what way is it wrong? If the Mum and daughter are happy and having fun in matching outfits, how does that impact on you in any way at all?

It just looks so stupid - in my opinion of course.

I have 9yo & 4yo girls and they love being matching. Holiday clothes they love to match, but generally day to day they like it too.

i always find posts like this really weird. Just do whatever you want?

Nothing to do with kids being individual, my kids couldn’t be any different personality wise it’s irrelevant what they wear. If they like it then il buy it. When they don’t want to then I won’t.

I can’t believe there are people out there judging shit like this it’s beyond bizarre & baffling to me.

For God’s sake. When I was seven (early ‘90s), my mother made us Christmas dresses with the same taffeta skirt, only the top of hers was black and the top of mine was white. We had fun and it wasn’t “wrong.” 🙄

I think you need to get over it! It really isn’t a big deal.

I have 2 boys and 2 girls and used to dress them in matching outfits, it made packing for holidays a breeze, and being able to spot them in a crowd so easy. I only dressed them alike until they were about 5 or 6, after that, they developed their own sense of style. I had to smile though when recently, I met my sons for dinner, and both were dressed in black jeans, white t-shirts and black biker jackets - and they are in their 20s now and have lived apart for years.

Dressing up with your kids for fun is apparently not allowed on Mumsnet, no matter how happy it makes them!

My kids are much older than most mentioned here and they are still delighted by the odd matching day. Yesterday on holiday all four of us were in shorts various shades of blue and white t shirts (different brands) and they were very happy to look like a team

I absolutely hated being dressed in identical clothes to my sister, sixteen months younger. It was only years later though that my youngest sister told me that she got both sets of hand me downs and that was even worse.

Exactly this 👏 I have a 4 and a 6 year old with 18 months between them and they always ask to wear the same (not every day, but every now and again) and they love it. Saves arguments, keeps them happy and as soon as they don’t want to do it anymore, absolutely no problems

For me, it’s the opposite.

DS2 can take some persuading to wear new clothes (he’s not keen on change). If he grows out of something I can give him DS1’s hand-me-down and he doesn’t realise it’s not the one he’s been wearing the whole time, and I don’t have to persuade him to wear something new/different.

I think it's totally fine as long as the kids don't care/like it too. I have memories of me and my younger DSis (4.5 yr age gap) occasionally wearing matching tops or dresses or whatever and we both loved it. Obviously I soon grew out of that and then that was that.

I had twins, and when they were little, my DM liked to see them dressed the same, so I’d put them in the same clothes when we went to visit her. What I liked best was when they were “the same but different” - say, the same style dress in different colours, or dungarees with different coloured tops. When they got older, they’d choose their own clothes, and they don’t dress alike now they’re adults.

My DM used to buy my DDs matching outfits. If she took them out for the day she would make sure they wore the same outfits. Her reason was that it made it easier to spot them in a crowd and, if one of them ever got lost she could point the the other one and say “this is what they are wearing”

I used to dress my girls the same for special occasions when they were little, and then get something for DS that was in the same colour/pattern neighbourhood.
Family party or a wedding or something, DDs would have the same dress.
Now they are older, and in different size ranges, it doesn’t happen as often anymore, but they do get excited and ask for the same shoes or the same tshirt if they are available in both of their sizes 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm sorry but it's weird.

"They want to" well you've conditioned them to so of course they do. Kids who aren't bought identical clothes don't care because they aren't conditioned to look the same.

As for twins, that's even weirder. Walking around with an identical image of yourself. No wonder lots of identical twins end up being enmeshed with their sibling or absolutely hating them. Jeez you even see adult twins dressed identically. It's just weird.

For those that think they "grew up normal" the face that you remember wearing the same clothes says it's not. The majority of kids couldn't tell you what they wore yesterday let alone 20 years ago.

Twin girls here...still love matching clothes at 6

My kids are 16 months apart. Girl and boy.
They actively choose similar colours. They'd love it if I bought them matching outfits.
(I don't). Elderly twins live in the small town I'm from, they must be 70+ - dress identically every day. Live together. Have dressed the same every time I see them. I remember them from when I was about 5. I'm now 36.

I absolutely did not want to do this, but currently my 3 year old is obsessed with wearing the same things as her sister (age 6), down to socks and underwear!

Unfortunately, the younger one is very big for her age and the older one on the smaller side, so they are almost the same height (in fact the 3 year old is very slightly heavier!) and the hand me downs the younger one should be wearing are often outgrown by the time she gets them - they are mostly being passed on to cousins at the mo.

I’ve been buying a few t shirts and things the same (and stuff off Vinted!) to avoid the younger one having tantrums, and I can often get away with her having something similar but not identical, but while the older one is quite patient with it I think she will get fed up eventually; hoping DD3 will grow out of it before then! She is starting school nursery in Sept so maybe having the same uniform will scratch the itch??!

It’s cute when they’re little.

There’s a mum in our village with nearly 16 year old identical twins. They have matched exactly every single day since we’ve known them (pre-school). Even down to matching socks.

Let them have some individuality! Then she moans they always get referred to as ‘the twins’

i find it creepy. But I find identical twins creepy to start with so maybe it’s just me.