Dressing kids in matching clothes

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I don’t like parents dressing their kids of the same gender in the same clothes - twins and siblings about 15 months in difference.

Have friends who have nieces, nephews wearing the same clothes all the time. The children are individual, so treat them like they are.

it may look cute but it’s going towards resentment later on. As I have friends who were dressed in the same clothes as their sister as a child and hated it. They do have kids of the same gender. The only time they wear the same matching clothes is school uniform.

Agree with you - it's really naff.

My kids have chosen their own clothes from around age 2. Some times they choose to wear the same thing. Most times not. Not sure why you think they'd do something that they also resent

My mum used to do this to me & my sister, I totally hated it. Still annoys me now 😂

This!

My girls are 5 and 6 and I have to buy them the same outfits all the time otherwise they argue that ones got it and the other hasn’t. They don’t always wear the same at the same time but they do have the same if they want to wear the same as each other.

Not sure why it bothers people to be honest. Keep your noses out and get on with your own life. More to worry about than kids wearing matching outfits!

Idk about this, but the thing I really hate is seeing little girls done up like a dog’s dinner in fussy, flouncing dresses and hair pulled back tight into complicated styles.

Gives me a real visceral feeling of “this is not right”. It may be because my Mum did this to me against my own inclinations though!

I love siblings in matching clothes, especially on holidays. Last week I was on my hols in Crete and saw a family with three boys all in matching chino shorts, navy polo shirts and the same colour crocs. They were having a photo taken and all of us in my party commented on how great they looked. I’m guessing they were about 4,6 and 8.

Yeah I do this, mostly for that reason, but also because my 4 year old will often refused to get dressed into appropriate clothing but she loves matching with my 2 year old, so it’s an easy win.

I also love co-ordinating outfits (e.g Next has loads of striped fruit dresses in at the mo, so I dress them in the same dress but different patterns because I think it’s cute).

As soon as it’s clear they don’t like it, I’ll stop, but for now it’s handy and cute (in my opinion).

Ah it’s cute for special occasions and also sometimes just convenient if you find something nice that they bother like. All the time is a bit full on. Seriously doubt there is any psychological damage for doing it the odd time. I think the advice is not to do it with twins to help them devleop their individual identities.

I have 2 daughters (2&5) who absolutely love wearing the same outfits. I haven’t bought many matching pieces but they often ask to wear the same thing.

I do it for my girls who have a big age gap! My older daughter (7) loves it and asks for it. But she’s a girly girl.

I learned it from my mum as I was dressed like my siblings and loved it.

My boys are 6 and 3 and actively ask for the same clothes sometimes. Not going to say “no” to their choice just in case some random person thinks it’s strange 🤷‍♀️

I think it’s cute! We only do it for special occasions though, I can’t afford to buy 2 of everything, the youngest gets the eldest’s hand me downs! I always laugh when people say about kids being individuals, like at the age of 3 or whatever they’re really going to particularly care or know what their own style is (of course some kids will, but not most). Most people with same sex children will hand the clothes down, so it’s not like they’re being individuals anyway.

There can obviously be an issue with twins being treated as one person but it’s really unlikely that comes from clothes. My identical twin nephews are 6 and aren’t bothered if they wear the same or different.

Mostly kids see being equal as having exactly the same. If I came home with something for one of my children the other might wonder why he didn’t have it too. I can understand why people just buy multiples of the same item in different sizes and then all the kids get the same.

That's wrong

I’m not a fan either but then I went on holiday with a friend group and one couple dressed their boys (4 & 6) in the same clothes. It made so much sense because it was easy to keep an eye on both when you’re in a busy space, even just the hotel disco. You could instantly see where both boys were because they had the same tops on.

My DM used to dress me and DB the same, and as the eldest I hated it.

My DC had totally different colouring to each other so what suited one looked awful on the next. I never went down the matching route with them.

I particularly hate it with same sex families where you've got 3 little girls with identical hairstyles. I bet the eldest resents it.

This is the most fucking annoying and pointless sort of reply on this site and it does my head in. It’s a discussion forum. People can discuss whatever they want to.

It is naff, as a regular occurrence. As a one off it can be cute though.

I always thought it was a class thing, to show you didn't use hand me downs?

On twins I think it's nice, on different ages I always think the older one always looks sort of overgrown as the smaller one in inevitably looks cuter 😁

As ever, it's up to individuals, as long as the kids are looked after.

Rochelle Humes does this with her 2 girls. I'd say it's very embarrassing for her eldest girl as she is about 11/12 and she's wearing frilly party dresses and the other girl is around 7/8.
My sister has twin boys and she dressed them the same but in different colours when they were little but not since maybe age 3.
I've seen on holidays the whole familes wearing matching swimwear and outfits in the evening time.
I'm lucky if my kids will wear matching pj's Christmas eve

When my DS were small, I bought them Dr Suess tshirts. One said Thing 1 and the other said Thing 2. Still makes me laugh and they're in their 20s now!

If they're identical twins I think it's actively annoying.

If they're fraternal twins I think it shows a lack of imagination but it's not quite as annoying.

If they're not twins at all I just feel sorry for the younger one who will probably have to own the same outfit twice. I used to know a woman who was the youngest of 3 sisters, all spaced about 2 years apart, whose granny used to make them matching hand-knitted jumpers - she would appear to be wearing the same jumper for anything up to 6 years.

I don't have a problem with it if it's basics. By all means buy all your children the same blue jeans - but let them wear something different with them so they don't look like they're wearing a uniform!

I think it’s cute when they’re little. I’ve never done it bar Xmas pjs as mine are different sexes. Friend of mine has identical twins who wear the same thing every single day. Even down to their socks. They’re going to high school in September. Even the bobbles in their hair match. I’m guessing at this point it’s their choice to match so much

This- I always think matching outfits means no hand me downs, which seems like an utter waste of money. You’re buying everything twice.

but this misses me think, perhaps that’s the point in a “considerably richer than yow” way?

I don't know why you're getting so concerned about it. I loved it when my brother and I matched. Sometimes, my daughter and I match too. Babies and toddlers don't care at all and it's easy for parents to pick up 2 of the same outfit in different sizes. I'm sure if older children don't like it they can speak to their parents about it.

If you have two close in age, people often buy them the same outfit as a gift. Often they choose to wear it at the same time. It's really not more deep than that.