To think that approaching people whilst wearing this is unacceptable?

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Went for a walk with DD7 around the local housing estate this afternoon. We stopped to stroke a cat when a teenage girl who was standing outside her house vaping crossed the road to tell us the cats name, names of other cats in the area etc. She was basically being very friendly and informative (it wasn't her cat btw). Unfortunately she was also wearing a t shirt with a picture of a pink cat and the slogan 'F* off' underneath it. My 7 year old is well aware of this word as a swear word but I do try to limit her exposure to it and feel that if you're wearing a t shirt like this you should not be initiating a conversation with a 7 year old. I didn't raise it with the girl - mainly because her conversation was so friendly but it was a weird juxtaposition which made me and my DD uncomfortable (she asked me several times why she was wearing it after we'd walked away). Just feel a t shirt like this shouldn't be allowed to be worn in public.

I wouldn't make something like that illegal, that would be a terrible idea.

I do think it's incumbent upon the adults in the lives of teens like that to tell them that a shirt with a slogan like that is saying "Fuck you" to every person they interact with, and to expect some or even many people to react as if they had actually said "fuck you" to them.

I was at a festival this weekend and saw a man wearing a T shirt that said ‘Bring back fingering’ (I think it’s a Micky Flanagan quote). I was slightly shocked but also amused.

There were a LOT of children at the festival though and I did wonder how parents might explain it if any of the kids asked 😂

Overall, people are more crass than they were when I was growing up. I’m not a prude but I would prefer it if people were a bit more civilised in their behaviour, language and dress.

I swear like a trooper but not in front of kids or older people or in public spaces.

But sometimes you really don't know the answer.

What sort of parent, let's their daughter wear that?

"What sort of parent, let's their daughter wear that?"

One who has decided to pick their battles probably.

It does always amuse me when people on MN get on their high horse about how awful swearing is

When MN is one of few places online where you can swear freely and even use c*nt openly without having to censor it

Have you got/had teenage children? If the worst they want to do is wear a silly cat t-shirt, then I'd say somebody is winning at parenting, actually.

Me, probably 🤷🏻‍♀️

Not in this house it isn't.

It's a good lesson for you and your daughter to realise you can't control what other people wear or say, just concentrate on your own actions.

It's fine to draw a line in the sand, but the thing is you can only draw a line in your own sand. You can't control other people. So what would you suggest the OP do, harangue the girl? Speak to the parents?
Personally, as a parent I would not have let my teenage children leave the house in such a tee shirt, not because I find the word offensive but because they might look like little undisciplined, snotty brats to others, who could treat them harshly as a consequence. Other parents may not see it that way. Who am I to tell other people how to parent? As long as the children seem healthy and happy, not being abused or neglected, it's none of anybody's business.

My current favourite gig tee shirt. I wouldn’t wear it to work or to go shopping but for a night out absolutely. For context I’m 56 and actually don’t care what people think of me

@SeriaMau you asked if I get many men snig gering at me. How can they? Like every woman, I became (happily) invisible once I turned 50 or so.

Yeah I don't think it's very likely they would. But if someone reported it they might do? God knows why someone would report a t shirt with a fluffy kitten and fuck off. It's clearly meant to be amusing. But OP seemed very very offended.

YABU So long as the clothes people wear are legal, what other people wear is absolutely none of your business. If you didn't want your daughter to see the shirt then you should have kept walking

You could of informed the teen that the things we think say and do carry a frequency and those words definitely carry a negative connotation which attracts negative people/experiences. I thought I was a cool teenager by saying the nastiest things (like my shirt would of said f* you cu**) which those thoughts have created a lot of trauma sickness and hardship in my lifetime🙏🏻💙

There's more important things to worry about right now... You really need to be more concerned about the sickos who are molesting kids. Those are the true monsters...

That's my concern with my daughter, I have been seeing horror stories of CSA in the news and the perps are pastors, cops, coaches and teachers, people who are supposed to protect children. I just heard about a cop in PA who was arrested for filming and stalking young girls at an YMCA, while the cop was working!! The youngest girl was only 8 so protect your daughter from those monsters!!

They are literally destroying kids innocence, that's probably why this world is messed up bc this predators are corrupting our young with evilness.

Then, when your daughter gets older, don't think she's more safer... This place is dangerous for kids and any females so please keep your daughter safe from the predators bc it's happening a lot more now and at safe kid places...c

Protect your kids from predators bc that abuse really messes up a person for life 💯🙊🙉🙈

Ha Ha Ha ... Clunk !
That's the sound of me laughing my head OFF !!!
MY favourite T Shirt says :
BELOW
⬇️ME ⬇️* *

Hahaha!