To think that approaching people whilst wearing this is unacceptable?

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Went for a walk with DD7 around the local housing estate this afternoon. We stopped to stroke a cat when a teenage girl who was standing outside her house vaping crossed the road to tell us the cats name, names of other cats in the area etc. She was basically being very friendly and informative (it wasn't her cat btw). Unfortunately she was also wearing a t shirt with a picture of a pink cat and the slogan 'F* off' underneath it. My 7 year old is well aware of this word as a swear word but I do try to limit her exposure to it and feel that if you're wearing a t shirt like this you should not be initiating a conversation with a 7 year old. I didn't raise it with the girl - mainly because her conversation was so friendly but it was a weird juxtaposition which made me and my DD uncomfortable (she asked me several times why she was wearing it after we'd walked away). Just feel a t shirt like this shouldn't be allowed to be worn in public.

🤷‍♀️ in a few years she’ll be swearing too (for her to know it’s a ‘bad word’ she’s obviously heard it a few times already). No big deal. The vaping is the worst aspect anyway.

Hopefully your child picked up the teenagers empathy and love of animals, which is by far the most important aspect of this little interaction.

Oh please! If she’d turned up to babysit or to facilitate a church group wearing it I’d have been a bit 🤨 but otherwise crack on.

I’m commenting on you implying there are only two options.

Omg do you live in Disney land. You can't control what your child sees outside the home. Youre totally overreacting.

A lot of people seem to find a t shirt that says ‘Woman: Adult Human Female’ to be extremely offensive.. where does it end, policing t shirts..

I also remember using words like fuck, crap etc at school with friends aged 7 or 8 and not knowing what they each meant or how bad each was on a scale, or that they had another meaning other than as a swear word and that they weren't to be said in front of grown ups. Also saying "twat" when I was about ten and my DM suddenly going quiet, shocked, then laughing when she realised I thought it was a variation on "twit". She just said "No, don't say that" and provided no further explanation. I also thought penis was spelt peeness and your vagina was spelt virgina as I never saw them written down until my parents bought me a facts of life book aged 11. On balance I think it's best just to explain things to your kids as they become curious, in an age appropriate and straightforward way, as actually the confusion can be more scary or embarrassing. DD1 asked how DD2 had got into my tummy when she was three.

You interpreted it as hostile. That’s not the same thing.

I wouldnt like that Tshirt and wouldnt like my teenage daughter to wear it.

But you are an adult so you should really be ware that swearing is more complicated and nuanced than “bad and angry words”.

Why not take this as an opportunity to discuss the complexities and politics of swearing with your daughter?

You could have said, "I don't know why she's wearing that t-shirt.", and dismissed it out of hand.

Not as bad as i saw, A child of around 9/10 with a picture of a cat and underneath said Stroke my pussy now that's grim

I'd just say 'sometimes teenagers like things with rude or silly things written on them'. If she asks why then say 'because they think it's funny'.

If she keeps asking then it's because she wants to understand and she wants an answer rather than to be brushed off with I dunno.

I think in just a few years, you and your DD will look back and really laugh at this. ‘Remember when we bumped in to that really sweet, chatty girl who was telling us all about the local cats? But she had Fuck Off written on her tshirt? I was paranoid about you reading it as you were only 7, but it’s quite funny when you think about it.

I can seriously see where your daughter gets her "dweller" tendencies from
apple And tree and all that

😂😂

I can't decide if this poster is serious or not. Imagine saying that to someone!
Some of these posts come straight from the 1950s.

This, football words aren’t allowed outside the stadium. I don’t mind them joing in the chants inside though, it’s a bonding experience!

Do you get offended a lot op?

I think it’s a great opener for discussing choices and clothing/ language for a particular setting. I’m a right stickler for kids being made to wear appropriate clothes for a setting - funeral, wedding, formal birthday meal, church service, job interview. But by the same token I’ve worn all sorts in my teens (and don’t now ha ha). Use it as a learning experience

YANBU.
I was at a family attraction recently and there was a man with young kids wearing a hoodie with swearing clearly visible on it. He’s got no excuse for being such an ignorant fool. It’s not edgy or funny. You just look like a knobhead.

I have customers that come into my shop wearing T shirts with slogans that make me think 'really? You thought that was an appropriate message to send to everyone around you?' Some of them are veering towards being so utterly offensive that they look like an arrestable offence. But I don't say anything, I just mentally put that person on my 'racist, sexist, homophobic dick' list.

But teenagers love to get that kind of response. Making people annoyed is what they're all about, so I cut them some slack.

I did sneak to the park to drink alcohol, I did bunk school. But I didn't have any tshirts with swear words (or even FCUK) written on them? 🤔🙃

You have chosen to interpret it as hostile to you (and your daughter) when in fact it's yet another of the very very many t-shirts/mugs/bags etc beloved by "catophiles" who hold to the idea that all cats, however pretty they look, are actually saying fuck off to everyone and everything. Have a Google. You'll be amazed at the choice.
Just talk to your daughter normally about it. If she dwells on things, that must be partly because of how you react to such stuff. And stop petting other people's cats.
I assume it's something like this.

Jesus. This is such a non-event. Just tell your dc that the girl was lovely and maybe she just liked the picture of the cat. You’re being ridiculous.

I hope I’m you when I’m 74.

Seriously, worse things are happening in the world right now. Your child already knows the word and not to use it. Be grateful for the pleasant interaction and stop focusing on a minor negative.