To think any man who participates in Bonnie Blue’s stunts should be publicly identifiable?

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I’m talking about things like the “1000 men in 12 hours” she declared - if a man chooses to take part in something like that, I think he should have to show his face and name. Transparency, right?

You want to line up for it? Fine. But own it. Be publicly accountable for the behaviour you’re willing to engage in.

I wouldn’t want anyone in my life or circle - friend, partner, colleague, who saw that and thought “yeah, I’m in.” So crack on if that’s your vibe but women should at least have access to the list.

AIBU?

That's because it didn't happen. Sorry I'm male and I know we can be absolutely despicable. However, I could believe she could find 10 or 20 men to participate.... but no way would 980 others be involved in something so explorative or both her and them.
Sadly I think she has experienced trauma in her life and has some kind of mental illness. The publicity she has generated for her only fans account is the reason she has come out with such a story

I don’t know about making them publicly identifiable, but I would be devastated to find out any family or friends were involved. These stunts are vile and it’s obvious she has some serious mental health issues.

A prostitute accepts payment in return for sex.

She's an adult performer not a prostitute - but definition.

You find it hard to believe that she found 1000 men who will willingly participate? Sorry is that a joke?😂

Strongly disagree.

And I don't like these stunts one bit.

What is the thinking? To shame men into not doing it?

The same arguments could be applied to anonymous posts on Mumsnet surely.

Sadly it did happen. It was documented online at the time and they showed the queue of men waiting their turn.

The men lining up look like they absolutely stink to high heaven too. Crusty, filthy socks, grubby finger nails. Ugh

I wouldn’t want anyone in my life or circle - friend, partner, colleague, who saw that and thought “yeah, I’m in.” So crack on if that’s your vibe but women should at least have access to the list

Eh? And what’s your plan for when you get ‘access to the list’ and find a colleague on it? Are you going to change jobs? Or are you going to turn vigilante and try hunt/shame him out of a job? What if the boss says they don’t care what he does in his private life as long as it’s not illegal? What then? If you go to change jobs, are you going to demand a list of all employees before you commit to a new job? What about new hires? Do you think you should have a say in potential new employees coming in?

It's not me being 'silly'. You obviously don't understand how social media works.

The thing I find most chilling is the fact that there is no way of telling if your brother, boyfriend, husband, friend, son is one who would be up for taking part.

They walk among us, presenting as perfectly normal, upstanding men.

Why? The woman arw making their own choices same as the men, maybe women should think more in general before sleeping with someone instead of being desperate for attention? How many red flags do women deliberately ignore or justify?

But i prasume what content the woman puts out is her own so she would have control over what is shown?

Agreed! Can you imagine finding out your DH was one of the “men” who’d participated? Makes me feel sick!
It also demonstrates, very clearly, the difference between men and women when it comes to sex. If this had been a male prostitute there is absolutely no chance that more than 1000 women would have lined up for a 30 second shag. Wearing balaclavas??? Revolting.

Shes a porn star not a prostitute. And they haven't done anything illegal so why would they be publicly named?

She set this up for her own gain, she is earning from it, its her career not theirs thats why she is named and they arent.

She sells her body for money, she is not a porn star, at best she'd be described as a webcam girl, otherwise known as on screen prostitution.
You're correct it is not illegal.
I've no interest in who these men are.
Her and their actions undermine cases like Gisèle Pelicot. Feeding these men's weird mentality I mean if Bonny enjoyed it, other women will too.

Several of the men have chosen to speak about it publicly. She has chosen to be publicly named. No one has been named against their will, no one has been forced into anonymity.

She chose to name herself in order to make money and clout from the stunt. Some men have done the same.

There's no difference from an anonymity perspective.

Ideally there'd be a list, but putting the faces of those slimy buggers into the public domain will likely have a terrible impact on their children. I'm absolutely sure a large portion of her clientele will be men with families 😥.

If you want it public to warn women off them - that'd probably be largely unsuccessful. There are many desperate women who would make it Bonnie's fault for tempting the poor wee men, in order to start or continue a relationship with the scummy buggers.

I read an article a while ago that pointed out that in many pro or amateur porn videos online that often the women's face, body and identifying markers would be clearly and consistently visible while the man's face and identifying features would often be blurred out. This was considered problematic because the man was not taking the same personal risks as the woman in the footage and it raised all kinds of questions about coercion, grooming, trafficking and exploitation either within relationships or as part of organised crime. The platforms and (the mostly male) users did not typically care about this as they were not there to look at or profit off of the male but the woman.

Gisele was drugged
Bonnie makes her decisions

They are not comparable

It's worth considering that since this woman is so lacking in moral fibre that it is not outwith the bounds of possibility that she's been videoing all the action anyway and that will be where her real paycheck lies. I hope she has been.

Um - 'cos she was doing it for publicity? Did you really need someone to explain that to you??

I think she's kind of backed into a corner now with trying to shock. Apparently she couldn't even release and make money from that stunt as the consent forms were not valid for a site other than OF who banned her for using amateurs.

It's grim and weird she chose to do this obviously, and I think she will end up pimping out other people soon.

The thing in the Times interview where she volunteered that she seems happy to lick strange people's piles is just ridiculously gross.

They want to be anonymous and she doesn’t.

If she's not doing anything illegal then it's really nobody's business.
Why would you need to see their faces? They are consenting adults and hopefully all have mental capacity to make the choice to do this.
It's not something I'd choose to do myself, mainly because I'm old and menopausal and don't like people in small groups, let alone a thousand of them but if she wants to do it then it's up to her and the men involved . She's going to have to live with any consequences and the impact it could have on her family.
So many people worried that their husband could be in the line of guys?? Wow, major trust issues!!
As for work colleagues? Again, it's none of your business what a work mate does in their private life unless it is illegal or putting themselves or others at serious risk of harm.

She has sex for money. She’s a prostitute.

I think BB is very problematic but lots of what she says/does is definitely to gain headlines/attention from the public.
although I don’t agree with what she does, I don’t think the men should have to show their faces.
if it’s because you think lots are cheating (which they probably are) they’d cheat anyway.
im not sure what i think (if anything) should be done about the bb situation